chillii Posted November 13, 2021 Posted November 13, 2021 No one got hooked up but one my sisters 2 best friends , married two of my brothers.
Author HotRevolver93 Posted November 13, 2021 Author Posted November 13, 2021 On 11/11/2021 at 8:17 AM, Blind-Sided said: 1) Sure... but what does that have to do with having a friend set you up? A "Friend" isn't going to mess up another friendship if someone is known to be a player, a cheater, or have chemical issues. Once again... I'm not saying you are... I'm just playing devils advocate to show both sides of why it may or may not happen for you. Heck... it could be that all of your friend's single friends are bad, and they don't want to set you up with them. BUT................... 2) Great.... what did they say? Because it does happen, and it's WAY better than OLD. But, I see it here all the time where people seek out a "Female Friend", and expect it to be an automatic. you simply can't "Get friends who are girls" and expect them to do the work for you. There are literally a dozen threads about that on this board in the past year. Or... they say "I have a female friend that I've known for a year and she won't help". In my case, after my D... there was 2 female friends who started to help me, but one was a friend for 20 years, and the other was a friend for +15 years. So... they knew me extremely well. (They also knew my exW also) Along with that... it's not like a dating service. The "Set-up" isn't going to be a date per-se. It's normally an outing, or a party/BBQ where the person they will introduce you to will be there. It's still up to you to talk, and see if you will be compatible. I think that's a problem with modern dating... people have lost the art of conversation, and lost the ability to take rejection. I really feel like they get into OLD and make it out like it's ordering something from Amazon. All your friends can do, is facilitate the introduction. With all that said... you can't simply make a statement, and actually believe it's true, just because it hasn't happened for you. It does happen... it's a good way to meet someone new... but it still takes effort on your part. 1.)Good thing I’m not “known to be a player, a cheater, or have chemical issues”. However there are men with those Same flaws who have no problem getting dates. 2.)They say “I don’t know anyone single right now”. For years lol 3.)I’m using my first hand experience but I don’t think it’s any different for most men. I think if you polled 100 men in relationships and ask how did you get your wife or GF I guarantee the vast majority were not set up by a 3rd party person
ResentCourtship2099 Posted November 14, 2021 Posted November 14, 2021 still reminds me of something a guy told me back in high school, its cold brutal harsh truth if you are a guy, human male, i remember i asked him, "could you hook me up with some girls", and he responded by saying "i'm sorry man but you gotta know how to pull girls yourself". never truer words have been said or spoken, it sucks but nature can definetley be cruel
chillii Posted November 14, 2021 Posted November 14, 2021 Not really. l've known guys that had never even had a gf but they'd still met someone fell in love and married. Setting someone up doesn't have to be about them not being able to get a bf or gf , most people just haven't met the right one sooo, a friend knew someone or something , thought they might hit it off. Seen that a few times with people over the yrs.
Wiseman2 Posted November 14, 2021 Posted November 14, 2021 11 hours ago, HotRevolver93 said: 3.)I’m using my first hand experience but I don’t think it’s any different for most men. Some people like to play matchmaker. They used to be called blind dates. Where someone tells you about someone single then you meet them. If you meet through socializing naturally it's probably better. Also it's sometimes cultural. Where introductions through friends and family is important. 1
ResentCourtship2099 Posted November 14, 2021 Posted November 14, 2021 18 hours ago, chillii said: Not really. l've known guys that had never even had a gf but they'd still met someone fell in love and married. Setting someone up doesn't have to be about them not being able to get a bf or gf , most people just haven't met the right one sooo, a friend knew someone or something , thought they might hit it off. Seen that a few times with people over the yrs. Whenever I hear of someone reaching a certain age and that person has never dated anyone before or never had a relationship before, it has bothered and irritated me for years now how it seems cases like that are male dominated, oh well I figure it should be obvious as to why it's like that
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