luvtoto Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 Hello everyone! My son came home with welts and bruises on his wrists yesterday while playing with 3 neighbor kids. My kids and I recently moved into a new neighborhood. My son originally started out making friends and then just stopped for some reason. But, the other day, he decided to go play. Two of the neighbor kids he was playing with are 9 & other a 13yr old girl. Their mother was home and I know her, so I said ok. When he came home, he looked terrified and ready to cry. When I asked him what happened he told me that they were playing "jail" in the neighbor's basement. He was the prisoner. The other kids were guards. Anyway, he told me that they kept him in "real" handcuffs for an hour while calling him "girly-girl" and using sharp pencils as weapons. I immediately marched right over to her house and showed her my son's bruises and welts. She just blamed it on my son. "Why didn't you say something? I was just upstairs. I really don't think my kids would intentionally hurt you." Well, geez...my son probably didn't say anything because...well, I don't know...HE MIGHT HAVE GOTTEN POKED WITH A SHARP PENCIL!!! She ended up interrogating my son about the ordeal and she didn't even ask her kids to come up and take responsibility for anything. She couldn't wait to shut the door on me. I was very upset, but, everytime I brought up a point...she just denied it and she just looked at my son like I was a crazy mother & he was blowing things out of proportion. I told her to look at my son's arms. Then asked her if it looked like he was making things up. But, I couldn't get too far with someone in denial about their kid's behavior. Did I over-react or not react enough?? Should I talk to the school about these kids? Should I have called the cops? Any advice would be appreciated. I am furious! Thanks! Luvtoto
wanda1974 Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 I would definitely call the cops. How dare this mother not have her kids take responsibility for what they did to your child. you know damn well, if your son would've done this to her son, she wouldn't be reacting as passive as she did. Definitely CALL THE COPS!!!!! I would be furious if this happened to my daughter...and it's the mom's fault, too, being home and not checking on the kids periodically............
Skeered Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 I agree with Wanda call the cops...this mother is in total denial that her "precious angels" could be doin such terrible things...this is just sad. And they should definetly be repremanded for it as well as the mother for not doing something about it. Maybe this is acceptable behavior in their home but it for sure isn't in normal households... Throw the book at her..
slubberdegullion Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 Agreed. Get the police involved. Take pictures of your son's contusions and get him to write out, on long-hand, exactly what took place. Date it and put it with the pictures in a safe deposit box. The police will want to look at it eventually, once they get bored of catching speeders going 5 mph over the limit. (Make sure you keep your own copies too.)
Author luvtoto Posted October 20, 2005 Author Posted October 20, 2005 Thanks for all the advice! There are some smart people out here! Well, I should have taken the pictures last night, darn it! I didn't even think about it. Good point! I just got done visiting with a police officer about this. He told me that I can file a report or just keep my son away from her kids. He told me that he was very impressed that I had the nerve to go and confront the mom immediately. He said most parents call the police to handle confrontations. He said that it would probably be best, beings this is a first offense, to just tell the kids that they are not allowed to play with your son. To avoid them. That should get the picture across that what they did was WRONG...even if the parent doesn't care. I am telling you if this ever happens again...I will throw the book at them. I won't hesitate next time!! Thanks all! luvtoto
--motherof2-- Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 NO and i would hav called the police. She obviously cant control her children and int taking responsibility for them. She's the one who needs the advice here!! Not you!
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