usedanabused Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 Approximately 1 1/2 years ago a 37 year old unhappily married woman whom I saw about twice a week started pursuing me . I was /still am married but at that time we just coexisted ( no romance) but we were comftorable . Well this woman over the period of 4 months convinced me I should have a fling with her . I am not proud of this and actually never thought I was capable of such a thing but I did and it was wrong. This relationship blossomed to the point where occasionally we would take a day off during the week and go to a motel and have lovefest all day. This ws without a doubt the best sex I ever had in my life . Very very adventourous. Well as time went on we both fell in love with one another . About 1 year into the relationship everyone around us was talking and her husband told my wife and you know the rest of the story . So we communicated during the weekdays only. So we would see each other on the way home from work for around a 1/2 hour everyday . Well then see started acting wierd and eventually just dried up and went away would not return phone calls and when we did talk she was very distant and wopuld refuse to see me . Come to find out she was chasing someone else. I lad because I am managing to save my marraige. A period of about 6 months goes by and this woman instant messages me at work just to chit chat and find out what I am hearing . Well I started shaking and sweating because I did love her very much and it was like all the feelings I managed to put aside came rushing back into my mind . I could not think straight . So I was nice but let her drive this conversation . It was strictly friendly you know the Hi how have you been stuff . So I got thru this and a couple more weeks goes by and she finds another petty reason to call me on the phone . and she makes petty chit chat and actually indicated she missed me . Well now my mind is really messed up. Now I find myself thinking about her constantly and I really do not want to be with her or want her around but I did love her and now all the feelings for her I filed away are back at certain times and I feel the hurt again when will this stop I ask myself. So a couple of weeks goes by and I get past this and then two days ago she just calls my cell in the afternoon to see How I am and to ask me if I told anyone she had called me and I said no that I did not tell anyone anything . Then she started chit chatting it up . Asking me what I am up too and such . Then she tells me I can call her if I need to rtalk to her about anything and I am thinking to myself why would I need to call her . SO I said no I will not call you because I do not feel comftorable doing this. I said you can call me anytime you want to . After I said this I realized I should not have said this ( feelings running thru my mind ) . I just do not understand what this womans motive is here any opinions would be appreciated . I feel like all the progress I have made the last 6 months has been for nothing because I am hurting again . What is her point ?
RecordProducer Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 So a couple more weeks goes by and she finds another petty reason to call me on the phone . and she makes petty chit chat and actually indicated she missed me . What is her point ? Isn't it obvious? She wants to start seeing you again. She left you once, she will do it again. If you want to date other women then divorce your wife. If you decide to stay then work on your marriage and don't cheat. How would you feel if your wife cheated on you?
Author usedanabused Posted October 20, 2005 Author Posted October 20, 2005 Yeah I was kind of thinking the same thing that she is trying to maybe keep me around if she feels she needs me . I do not want to wreck my marriage I have been with my wife 22 years and when we had kids we just took one another for granted and we now realize that . My wife realizes she should have paid more attention to me over the years and I realize I should have have made one last plea for her attention before giving into temptation. I thought this woman was gone for good . I cannot believe that I was even capable of having an affair and for that I must live with myself for doing so like I have indicated I find it very embarassing. I was always a honest , good person till I fell into that trap . Believe me she chased hard too . Finally I just gave in . My problem here is she knew I loved her a lot and she also knew she hurt me badly why would she call now ? Why cant she leave me alone ? I just do not understand .
KAris112297 Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 Finally I just gave in . My problem here is she knew I loved her a lot and she also knew she hurt me badly why would she call now ? Why cant she leave me alone ? I just do not understand . Stop worrying about what SHE is doing and focus on YOU. What and why are you thinking what your thinking and doing what you are doing. You have enuff at home. A wife. Love her or leave her. Then you can do what ever you want free and clear of both guilt and disrespect. RecordProducer has it right! Take that Advice. -KAris
RecordProducer Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 My problem here is she knew I loved her a lot and she also knew she hurt me badly why would she call now ? Why cant she leave me alone? I just do not understand . Who cares? She is playing with you or is bored or needs sex or ego boost or whatever...There are many things you will never understand.
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