Dating a shy girl

[Legatus]

Do you change your approach when you date a shy girl? Not to the point you are not yourself but to be more tuned in to "your audience". What are your dos or donts in such situation when it's not only a shy girl but also younger (10 years). Just wondering and wanting to learn from your widom

[smackie9]

be out going but not aggressive.

[Blind-Sided]

As long as you are "Yourself".... sure, you can tune it to your audience.  I think that's a smart approach.  Eventually, the shy girl will come out of her shell. 

[Gaeta]

Younger as in what? 

She's 20 and you're 30

or

She's 50 and you're 60

[LuckyM]

Shy girls, and guys, usually stay shy, indefinitely and are not party types.

 I was shy for a very long time. You need to be patient with her. Do not try to kiss or touch her, at first. Nor talk about anything sexual, or drugs.

She needs to just be herself, not what you want her to be. I wish I knew this when I was young! She is not an "audience" and since no one knows you, I cannot say to be yourself.

[Legatus]

She's 24, I'm 34. Actually that's exactly how I've been. Patient, easy-going, I didn't really have to change myself too much, but be more mindful that things go at different speed. It's not like I'm walking on my toes, absolutely not - it's actually quite refreshing, such experience, at least on some levels

The only thing I'm trying to fine tune is communication. Sometimes when I have busy days I may not reach out for a day or two, which is fine, but I she doesn't reach out first. 9 out of 10 times I won't have a problem with that and then that 1 time, I would feel more comfortable if she made that little effort.. 

 

[basil67]

How long have you been dating?   It will make the world of difference to my answer

[Gaeta]

4 hours ago, Legatus said:

She's 24, I'm 34. 

Does she have dating experience?