SeriousGuest1234 Posted November 4, 2021 Posted November 4, 2021 Been seeing this girl for about 3 months now. We've gone on dates and have gotten physical several times, but nothing is official yet. She is very active on social media, always posting photos and stories of what she's doing, which makes me think she might be an attention seeker. What's confusing me is that when we go out, she posts pictures and stories of our dinner or the place we're at, but she never posts a photo of me or tags my name in the photo. If she goes out with her girlfriends, she always tags them. It's like she wants people to know she's out at some event or having a night, but not letting anyone know it's with me. Maybe I'm overreacting and it's just too new, but it's odd that she's done this probably ten times already. I don't know if she's embarrassed of me or hiding me from her friends and her ex or if it's just harmless. Curious for thoughts about if I could I have a valid concern and could this be a red flag?
basil67 Posted November 4, 2021 Posted November 4, 2021 Are the two of you officially in a relationship? Or is it still fairly casual? A lot of people don't disclose who they are dating until they are officially an item. 2
Author SeriousGuest1234 Posted November 4, 2021 Author Posted November 4, 2021 We're not official yet, which is why I thought it could be normal. But what's confusing is why post anything at all in that case.
Wiseman2 Posted November 4, 2021 Posted November 4, 2021 (edited) 7 hours ago, SeriousGuest1234 said: , but nothing is official yet. , but she never posts a photo of me or tags my name in the photo. Why would she? You're not her BF. If you want a GF you need to make it official. 12 weeks is a long time to just hookup. Maybe she's embarrassed that this is just a FWB thing. She is single so why would she act like she's in a relationship and acknowledge you on social media? Do you have couple pics of you two on your social media and do you have your status as "in a relationship"? If not, then you two just aren't at the BF/GF stage yet. If you like her make it exclusive ,official and maybe she'll acknowledge you if you acknowledge her. Edited November 4, 2021 by Wiseman2 3
ShyViolet Posted November 4, 2021 Posted November 4, 2021 Why would she be posting about you on her social media if you've been seeing each other for 3 months and it's nothing official? 13 hours ago, SeriousGuest1234 said: We're not official yet, which is why I thought it could be normal. But what's confusing is why post anything at all in that case. Umm maybe because she can post whatever she wants? I'm not sure why you think that if she's not posting about you, she shouldn't post at all. Stop worrying about what she is posting. 3
Alvi Posted November 4, 2021 Posted November 4, 2021 Look, 3 month of dating is enough to realize whether or not the two of you are compatible. You have a fairly good idea of what she is like and to realize if want to date her exclusively or not. I don't think that she is doing anything wrong since you are not official. 3
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2021 Posted November 5, 2021 Why would she post pics to the public of who she's hooking up with? I sure wouldn't. Is she keeping her options open? maybe. Maybe she doesn't want a bunch of people asking her about her romantic life...which is understandable. Maybe she has a rule not to post pics unless it's a serious relationship. Maybe she just wants it to be about her. Whatever the case, don't let social media dictate what is going on between you two. Just keep on dating her and see where it goes. 2
spiderowl Posted November 6, 2021 Posted November 6, 2021 On 11/4/2021 at 2:16 AM, SeriousGuest1234 said: Been seeing this girl for about 3 months now. We've gone on dates and have gotten physical several times, but nothing is official yet. She is very active on social media, always posting photos and stories of what she's doing, which makes me think she might be an attention seeker. What's confusing me is that when we go out, she posts pictures and stories of our dinner or the place we're at, but she never posts a photo of me or tags my name in the photo. If she goes out with her girlfriends, she always tags them. It's like she wants people to know she's out at some event or having a night, but not letting anyone know it's with me. Maybe I'm overreacting and it's just too new, but it's odd that she's done this probably ten times already. I don't know if she's embarrassed of me or hiding me from her friends and her ex or if it's just harmless. Curious for thoughts about if I could I have a valid concern and could this be a red flag? Do you want to be with an attention seeker who is obsessed with social media? She sounds more interested in herself than in you. Her habits strike me as shallow. Whatever her motivations for not posting pictures of you or tagging you in the photo, I think you can do better. Seriously!
Uruktopi Posted November 6, 2021 Posted November 6, 2021 Ohhhhhhh well.... The advices up there are good ones........ Anyhow I´ll share with you some of my own criteria about. - If something is not enthusiastically there when casually dating there is not a good reason to make it official. - If something is not enthusiastically there when dating as GF / BF there is not a good reason to get married. - If something is not enthusiastically there while married there are not enough reasons to remain so. 2
smackie9 Posted November 6, 2021 Posted November 6, 2021 3 hours ago, Uruktopi said: Ohhhhhhh well.... The advices up there are good ones........ Anyhow I´ll share with you some of my own criteria about. - If something is not enthusiastically there when casually dating there is not a good reason to make it official. - If something is not enthusiastically there when dating as GF / BF there is not a good reason to get married. - If something is not enthusiastically there while married there are not enough reasons to remain so. If only posters can realize this...then there would be no reason to post here! 1
Versacehottie Posted November 6, 2021 Posted November 6, 2021 On 11/3/2021 at 8:17 PM, basil67 said: Are the two of you officially in a relationship? Or is it still fairly casual? A lot of people don't disclose who they are dating until they are officially an item. 100% agree. If you haven't made it official, why should she or would she announce it to everyone on social media that she is out with you? Some people are more private and yes I know perhaps your mind has gone her but perhaps she doesn't want other people who follow her on social media know she is dating someone yet (like other guys who have interest in her). Probably honestly a multi-layered reason. Of course, she sounds into social media--but you might be hard-pressed to find someone who isn't depending on what sort of girls you like (and guessing this one is in the zone of that). Here is a simple question: it's been 3 months, why aren't you making it official? Sounds about time to me.
dramafreezone Posted November 6, 2021 Posted November 6, 2021 (edited) On 11/3/2021 at 7:16 PM, SeriousGuest1234 said: Been seeing this girl for about 3 months now. We've gone on dates and have gotten physical several times, but nothing is official yet. She is very active on social media, always posting photos and stories of what she's doing, which makes me think she might be an attention seeker. What's confusing me is that when we go out, she posts pictures and stories of our dinner or the place we're at, but she never posts a photo of me or tags my name in the photo. If she goes out with her girlfriends, she always tags them. It's like she wants people to know she's out at some event or having a night, but not letting anyone know it's with me. Maybe I'm overreacting and it's just too new, but it's odd that she's done this probably ten times already. I don't know if she's embarrassed of me or hiding me from her friends and her ex or if it's just harmless. Curious for thoughts about if I could I have a valid concern and could this be a red flag? Sounds like someone that's trying to keep her options open.. She doesn't want to appear as if she's "taken." Maybe she's not that sold on *you*. As far as the social media behavior, that is so common, bordering on sterotypical. People taking photos of their chai tea, or a bottle of water. They like the attention. I don't know if that qualifies as attention seeking. She seems pretty NORMAL actually. You want to stake your claim, step up and ask her to go steady. Edited November 6, 2021 by dramafreezone 1
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