nc87whf Posted November 1, 2021 Posted November 1, 2021 Hi everyone, I noticed a guy who followed me on IG many months ago (I have a public profile and use it to promote my work) watches my story almost every time I post. At first I didn't pay attention but a couple of months ago, he responded to my IG stories asking who wanted to buy an old electronic item I wanted to get rid of. He reached out and said he would pick it up. Apparently he drove all the way across town to come pick it up - I was selling it for only $20 because it's almost non-functioning. He didn't say much when he met me and I didn't think much of it later. I noticed that he continued to watch my stories every single time I posted and sometimes if I asked a question in the stories he would answer if he knew. Recently I was curious so I Googled his name (his IG profile is private). Apparently he is an attorney. That just made me wonder - why would an attorney (who seems to be doing pretty well financially) drive all the way across town to pick up a beaten-up electronic item? Normally, I would think he's interested in me, but he didn't say much when we met. Coincidentally, I'm looking for an attorney for my business and he happens to practice in the exact same area I needed. So I posted another story asking for lawyer recommendations - and for sure, he responded with his email and said that he would be happy to help. Am I reading too much into this?
basil67 Posted November 1, 2021 Posted November 1, 2021 You may be reading too much into it. I know high earning people who love to tinker with fixer upper projects. If he's interested in you, he will approach you for a date. 3
glows Posted November 1, 2021 Posted November 1, 2021 See what he has to say in the way of recommendations and do your due diligence and background checks before retaining a lawyer. I don't think he's interested in you. And if he is, it would be an absolute turn off. Don't mix your work with pleasure.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 1, 2021 Posted November 1, 2021 You might be reading too much into it, yes. Being an attorney doesn't mean he isn't interested in whatever old item you were selling. I don't see why you would assume so. As far as getting legal advice from him, well, it sounds like a business transaction. Keep it professional. You will know sooner or later if heìs interested in something more. 2
Wiseman2 Posted November 1, 2021 Posted November 1, 2021 7 hours ago, nc87whf said: I Googled his name. Apparently he is an attorney. Coincidentally, I'm looking for an attorney for my business and he happens to practice in the exact same area I needed. Contact his office for a consultation.
smackie9 Posted November 1, 2021 Posted November 1, 2021 It's IG, that's what it's all about...following people and reading their stories. You are reading way too much into it. You have no idea what it is to be stalked. I have had one, and I'm sure he still lurks out there somewhere, maybe even reading this post. Stalkers are possessive/jealous. It's when the communication turns into accusations of cheating on them, not giving them attention, total manipulation...like it gets weird. IMO you shouldn't make what you do behind the scenes/ activities, like seeking a lawyer, public. Business savvy people do there own research/collect information. Accepting help from some random person off social media is not really a good option. If I were you I would talk to others from your industry. Linkedin is another place to look. 3
ShyViolet Posted November 1, 2021 Posted November 1, 2021 Yes I think you're definitely reading too much into this. I wasn't aware that following someone on instagram makes someone a "stalker." He hasn't done anything to remotely suggest that he's a "stalker" or even that he's interested in you romantically. 2
dramafreezone Posted November 1, 2021 Posted November 1, 2021 15 hours ago, basil67 said: You may be reading too much into it. I know high earning people who love to tinker with fixer upper projects. If he's interested in you, he will approach you for a date. Well I agree she may be looking too much into this, but all interested guys aren't going to be upfront with their intentions. Look no further than the guys that come on here asking whther or not they should ask someone out.
Alvi Posted November 2, 2021 Posted November 2, 2021 I suppose that he would ask you out if he was interested. Or at least tried to start a conversation going with you. It's not like he doesn't know where to find you, lol. Following someone on-line is hardly stalking by itself. Unless there is more to his behavior. But for all you know, he could be married or partnered.
Reeses_Piece Posted November 2, 2021 Posted November 2, 2021 I think you may be reading too much into this… my perspective is; if he happens to practice in the same field your business is looking to retain a lawyer for, then perhaps that’s the reason why he’s following your business to begin with. times are hard, people have to work harder to get their commissions, even if they have to find them on Insta.
basil67 Posted November 2, 2021 Posted November 2, 2021 @nc87whf Why do you ask? If you're interested in him, shoot him an IG friend request. You may at least see whether or not he's got a girlfriend. And if he's interested in you, he may take the opportunity to DM you.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 9, 2021 Posted November 9, 2021 (edited) Well, I say that the OP "could be right" (who knows?). But I too sense that in no way does she have enough clarity to play any of her hunches. At most, it can be guessed at that the man might have some attraction to the woman. A definition of "stalking" includes "repeated and unwanted". The only thing mentioned in the OP that was clearly unwanted was the beat-up electronic thing sold for $20. Edited November 9, 2021 by SincereOnlineGuy
Girl Fade Away Posted November 9, 2021 Posted November 9, 2021 (edited) On 10/31/2021 at 6:59 PM, nc87whf said: I noticed a guy who followed me on IG many months ago (I have a public profile and use it to promote my work) watches my story almost every time I post. At first I didn't pay attention but a couple of months ago, he responded to my IG stories asking who wanted to buy an old electronic item I wanted to get rid of. He reached out and said he would pick it up. Apparently he drove all the way across town to come pick it up ... I guess it is just me but he sounds like an on-line predator or couid be.. On line stalking is a real thing public profile or not. And frankly I find him driving across town under the guise of purchasing an item scary as hell. He is a stranger. Unless you place an advertisement selling the item do not go meeting strangers who obsessively stalk (sorry read) the stories you post on the internet. Meeting this guy, a stranger off the internet, is how women get attacked, kidnapped, sold into sex trafficking, it has happened. I am glad nothing happened this time but please be careful. Edited November 9, 2021 by Girl Fade Away 1
jspice Posted November 9, 2021 Posted November 9, 2021 “Stalker “ is probably an overreaction as of now. It seems like he hasn’t done anything overtly stalker-ish, so attaching this word to his actions could be a bit hysterical. Of course as a woman you can never be too careful, but it could be something as innocent as just being interested in your work. Keep your wits about you but don’t jump to the worst case scenario just yet. Especially not with solid proof.
CollinW Posted November 12, 2021 Posted November 12, 2021 I find it hilarious that he's supposedly the online stalker yet he's not the one Googling people's names and occupations 1
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