ElizabethDaSwann Posted October 29, 2021 Posted October 29, 2021 Hello all, so im in a situation that really sucks and im sorta confused and need help. This guy at my job found interest in me during the first few months i started working there. He works a different job in the company. I unload packages n stuff and he sorta comes like every 15 min and drops them off. In the beginning when i never noticed him he stared at me alot. Later on i started staring back and thats when our fling began. Everytime we would see each other our grin was big and our eyes would lock. One day when i was scanning stuff and happen to be close to him while he did his job. He kept looking up and said “alright, im done.” And smiled really nice. I don’t remember what i said cus i was nervous and it was super awkward lol. He went away and kept looking back at me smiling. At this point i knew we were in the flirt zone. Days past and everytime we saw each other he waved and i waved. Eyes literally locked. Im socially awkward and extremely shy so as days past when he would show up i would act like i dont see him and smile or even avoid talking to him. Sometimes i even thought he didnt wanna be bothered. Long story short, guys at my job love talking to me even when they see i dont talk. My coworker/friend, really likes to tease me and really invades my personal space. And everytime my crush comes around, my coworker is literally in my face joking and teasing me. Its not too many girls that work in my job department so it sucks. Anyway after awhile my crush started to not look at me like he used to. When he sees me with my other coworker i can tell that he stares like he doesnt like it. This went on for awhile with me still being shy as hell. I would see my crush and smile but aboud talking to him. A month or 2 later my other coworker who knows me told me he noticed how my crush didnt lile the guy that was teasing me and how everytime we saw each other our eyes locked. I told him yea but its dead cus i guess he doesnt like me anymore. During a few shifts my coworker asked my crush if he remembered when we locked eyes. (Hated he did this but i was too shy to talk so oh well). My coworker told me he said “nah i don’t remember that”. Then later he asked him so wssp why dont yawl talk? He said “i mean i dont like her like (that) and im not really looking for a relationship.” I was hurt he said that but at the same time i was confused. A few days ago at the end of our shift, i told my crush that I apologize if my coworker said anything stupid and i dont want him to feel like his business is out, because i know how that feels. He said “nah its alright its all good your fine”. And he smiled. Our eyes locked again. Guys i know this sounds like some puppy love bullcrap but i just wanna be sure if im doing something wrong or if this guy is just playing with me. Please help a girl out
Wiseman2 Posted October 29, 2021 Posted October 29, 2021 It's ok to have a crush. Do you feel there's sexual harassment or co-workers bullying and teasing you? Don't talk about your personal or romantic life at work. Keep that private. It's fine to be friendly with coworkers but you would feel a lot better if you date outside of work. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting men for a low-key coffee .
stillafool Posted October 29, 2021 Posted October 29, 2021 9 hours ago, ElizabethDaSwann said: My coworker told me he said “nah i don’t remember that”. Then later he asked him so wssp why dont yawl talk? He said “i mean i dont like her like (that) and im not really looking for a relationship.” This is all you need to know about your crush - he's not interested. When a guy is interested he will find a way to talk to you, get to know you and ask you out. If a guy is not making those kinds of moves on you he's not interested. Looking and staring can be confused as interest but until a guy actually makes a move just forget him.
glows Posted October 29, 2021 Posted October 29, 2021 It sounds friendly all around. Let it go and keep your feelings or personal life private. Try not to gossip with your coworkers.
stillafool Posted October 29, 2021 Posted October 29, 2021 11 hours ago, ElizabethDaSwann said: My coworker/friend, really likes to tease me and really invades my personal space. You need to speak up and put a stop to this immediately.
smackie9 Posted October 29, 2021 Posted October 29, 2021 (edited) It's possible he has a GF, and all he's doing is just having a little fun. Doing a little workplace monkey branching. Edited October 29, 2021 by smackie9 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 29, 2021 Posted October 29, 2021 12 hours ago, ElizabethDaSwann said: if this guy is just playing with me. He's only looking at you, OP. I don't think this qualifies as playing with you. I think he might have enjoyed a little prolonged eye contact but that seems to be all there is to it. He drew a line when he said he wasn't interested that way, so it's best to believe him.
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