Talking to a classmate at university I have feelings , made a bf in the meanwhile.

[say1j_dynnkuj]

Hello!

One month ago we started university , and i met her at a group gathering at a cafe. She seemed nice ,so we talked for a 2-3 weeks , everything was fine , we joked , we laughed , even asked me to gave her a rose , i certaintly thought that we both had some feelings for each other(we both went also through a nasty time and we've been for each other). I knew that she's was single because she opened to me pretty much about anything in her life. The only problem is that with COVID now , all the university is online , i had to stay here in town , and she's at at her home in another city , so we didn't had the chance to meet since we met for the first time. But that's not the only problem. After we played a game on PC , i asked the next day if we can play together and she told me that she is playing with her boyfriend and if i want i can join them. I refused ofc. So she made her choice i guess :(.

Now here's the problem. She's a collegue , so the thing with "just ignore her" doesn't really work. I don't want to continue talking to her now , just to enter the "friendzone" and to let her talk about how's her new bf and stuff but also i don't want to just ignore her. What can i do ? I'm stuck and all i can do is to ignore her(It's been one day without text also from her) because i'm pretty much heartbroken  because i thought after a while that i can meet someone great again...

p.s: my problem is not with her choosing another one , is that we both had the best time , she gave me high hopes and showed me that she cares and then poof , she's all of a sudden talking dry (which i obviously remarked instantly). Also she's not the kind of girl to do tests and things like that .

[glows]

No, don't ignore her. Remain professional at work or school but don't disclose so many personal details in text message and play your PC game with other friends. Let this blow over and be respectful that she's in a relationship.

Edited October 28, 2021 by glows

[Wiseman2]

40 minutes ago, say1j_dynnkuj said:

just to enter the "friendzone" and to let her talk about how's her new bf and stuff

Just pull way back. Being a male-girlfriend is worse than the friendzone. In the mean  time get busy talking to meeting and dating other women.

[basil67]

Treat her in the same way as other person in your cohort:  Polite, friendly, able to work together on a group project but don't delve into deep personal discussions with her or meet for 1:1 drinks or lunches.

[smackie9]

17 hours ago, say1j_dynnkuj said:

Hello!

One month ago we started university , and i met her at a group gathering at a cafe. She seemed nice ,so we talked for a 2-3 weeks , everything was fine , we joked , we laughed , even asked me to gave her a rose , i certaintly thought that we both had some feelings for each other(we both went also through a nasty time and we've been for each other). I knew that she's was single because she opened to me pretty much about anything in her life. The only problem is that with COVID now , all the university is online , i had to stay here in town , and she's at at her home in another city , so we didn't had the chance to meet since we met for the first time. But that's not the only problem. After we played a game on PC , i asked the next day if we can play together and she told me that she is playing with her boyfriend and if i want i can join them. I refused ofc. So she made her choice i guess :(.

Now here's the problem. She's a collegue , so the thing with "just ignore her" doesn't really work. I don't want to continue talking to her now , just to enter the "friendzone" and to let her talk about how's her new bf and stuff but also i don't want to just ignore her. What can i do ? I'm stuck and all i can do is to ignore her(It's been one day without text also from her) because i'm pretty much heartbroken  because i thought after a while that i can meet someone great again...

p.s: my problem is not with her choosing another one , is that we both had the best time , she gave me high hopes and showed me that she cares and then poof , she's all of a sudden talking dry (which i obviously remarked instantly). Also she's not the kind of girl to do tests and things like that .

It's called monkey branching. You were already in the friends zone. She enjoyed the attention and most likely held back she had a BF to have that attention. Here's a tip: when they share their bad experiences and lean of you...that's a sure sign of being friend zoned...it's NOT intimacy.