LNY Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 Ok, When my ex broke up with me about 5 months ago, I took it very hard, and made a lot of post-breakup mistakes, most if not all of them probably made her run further away, and I don't want to make the same mistakes next time. After my ex broke up with me, I didn't know what to do, I was a mess. I'd never felt feelings like that before in my life (even though I'd had 2 previous long term relationships), and I didn't know how to act. I was overwhelmed by feelings and they took their toll on me. I stayed in contact with her (well atleast tried), calling and sms'ing her all the time, visiting her, driving by her house, etc. My question for next time is, say my next girlfriend breaks up with me, and I still want her.. or I break up with her.. should I go into NC straight away? Or? How should I react as a better person who has learnt a lot through this previous breakup? What's the best thing to do? I guess I just don't want my next relationship (if it ends) to put me on the same status that I am with my current ex. Any thoughts/input?
JohnJohn Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 Honestly I would say don't beat yourself up too much about it. We all make mistakes, especially post-break up ones. Learn from it and don't look ahead to the next relationship yet. Deal with what is on your plate now. Hopefully your next relationship won't end. NC is good, but it depends on the circumstances of the situation and you don't know what those are going to be if and when your next relationship ends. In relationships we all learn by trial and error. It's a good sign that you can see some of your "mistakes" and are willing to learn from them. Many do not and keep repeating them over and over again.
allaboutchoices Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 My question for next time is, say my next girlfriend breaks up with me, and I still want her.. or I break up with her.. should I go into NC straight away? Or? How should I react as a better person who has learnt a lot through this previous breakup? What's the best thing to do? As a person who has learned from this, if you are taking it hard, go NC right away. For your own sake.
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