Michael12345678909 Posted October 15, 2021 Posted October 15, 2021 My girlfriend and I are set to go to her brothers wedding and we have an unresolved issue that’s going to take time. We both don’t recover well from an argument and if one were to occur during the proceedings it could cause a scene. I’m so worried that this’ll happen that not going seems like a option.
glows Posted October 15, 2021 Posted October 15, 2021 7 minutes ago, Michael12345678909 said: My girlfriend and I are set to go to her brothers wedding and we have an unresolved issue that’s going to take time. We both don’t recover well from an argument and if one were to occur during the proceedings it could cause a scene. I’m so worried that this’ll happen that not going seems like a option. What is the unresolved issue about? Can the both of you pause the discussion and resume after the wedding? If you've both already rsvp'd not going seems dramatic unless there's some real emergency or risk going.
Pumpernickel Posted October 15, 2021 Posted October 15, 2021 I agree with @glows - The wedding is not about you but about the couple that’s getting married. Be an adult and act like an adult and put your struggles aside for a day. You really don’t want a bride and a groom worrying about what’s going on, if all they should do is enjoy their special day. Trust me - weddings are stressful enough even without added family drama
Wiseman2 Posted October 15, 2021 Posted October 15, 2021 43 minutes ago, Michael12345678909 said: My girlfriend and I are set to go to her brothers wedding . I’m so worried that this’ll happen that not going seems like a option. Why stage a scene if the reality is, you just don't feel like going? Everyone can put differences aside for a few hours to honor someone's event. 1
Alpacalia Posted October 15, 2021 Posted October 15, 2021 1 hour ago, Michael12345678909 said: I’m so worried that this’ll happen that not going seems like a option. That's true. Not going is an option. 1
mark clemson Posted October 16, 2021 Posted October 16, 2021 (edited) Hmm. Shouldn't both you and your GF be able to "table" issues temporarily for the sake of the greater good/social harmony? If not, that's TBQH a skill you both should learn. If she isn't capable of it, you may be better off with someone else who has better emotional maturity and self-control. If you really really like her and the temper thing (which apparently is mutual?) is really the only fly in the ointment, then perhaps go to couple's counseling so you can learn some techniques for de-escalating arguments and resolving issues amicably. Edited October 16, 2021 by mark clemson
BaileyB Posted October 17, 2021 Posted October 17, 2021 On 10/15/2021 at 3:02 PM, Michael12345678909 said: My girlfriend and I are set to go to her brothers wedding and we have an unresolved issue that’s going to take time. We both don’t recover well from an argument and if one were to occur during the proceedings it could cause a scene. I’m so worried that this’ll happen that not going seems like a option. If you can’t control yourselves during a social event and you fight so badly that it takes a long time to recover - you really need to consider whether this relationship is the one you should be in or not. This sounds dreadfully awful.
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