We work for the same employer but not in the same building. Does this sound like she is interested?

[Gaeta]

Don't wait for her to email again, take charge. She likes you 100%. Ask for her number.

' Jane, would it be possible for me to have your phone number?' It's that easy. 

[IntBrowser]

On 10/14/2021 at 6:47 PM, Gaeta said:

Don't wait for her to email again, take charge. She likes you 100%. Ask for her number.

' Jane, would it be possible for me to have your phone number?' It's that easy. 

LOL, i was going to ask today so I started the day off with a happy friday and that we made it to the end of the week.    I never got a response back lol

Well Looks like my first email today should have been what you said

[IntBrowser]

On 10/14/2021 at 6:47 PM, Gaeta said:

Don't wait for her to email again, take charge. She likes you 100%. Ask for her number.

' Jane, would it be possible for me to have your phone number?' It's that easy. 

what makes you feel she likes me 100%?

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

i was going to ask today 

Ok just keep it professional and on company email since it's not going anywhere.

Networking is always a good thing, so don't bother with personal chitchatting like "happy Friday", etc.

She may not have replied because that doesn't require a reply and she's gotten the message that you are not interested in dating.

 

[elaine567]

7 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

I started the day off with a happy friday and that we made it to the end of the week.

That is a statement. It doesn't need a response.
If you want a quick response then you need to ask a question.

[Gaeta]

9 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

LOL, i was going to ask today so I started the day off with a happy friday and that we made it to the end of the week.    I never got a response back lol

Maybe she was not at work yesterday. Now you wait Monday if she'll reply.

[Nothanks]

Keep it professional at work an through work email.  Can you not call her and talk to her directly?  What about connecting via social media?  Why not email her and ask if there is a time when you can talk to her and send her your personal phone number to call?  Then you can ask her out.  

[IntBrowser]

9 hours ago, Gaeta said:

Maybe she was not at work yesterday. Now you wait Monday if she'll reply.

she was at work. her name was green.    That shows you are at work.    When its not lit up at all that means you are off

[IntBrowser]

9 hours ago, Nothanks said:

Keep it professional at work an through work email.  Can you not call her and talk to her directly?  What about connecting via social media?  Why not email her and ask if there is a time when you can talk to her and send her your personal phone number to call?  Then you can ask her out.  

I was going to do everything you said if I got a response.    So since there was no response I just left it alone

[IntBrowser]

9 hours ago, Nothanks said:

Keep it professional at work an through work email.  Can you not call her and talk to her directly?  What about connecting via social media?  Why not email her and ask if there is a time when you can talk to her and send her your personal phone number to call?  Then you can ask her out.  

well nothing sexual was written,  It was more of a good morning and highlighting that the end of work week is here.    And was planning on asking for her number once she replied but she never did which was weird

 

She talks to me all day on email on a tuesday but says nothing at all on a frIday

[Nothanks]

Maybe she was busy.  Wait until Monday and see if she reaches out. And I didn’t mean you were doing anything wrong via email.  More of a reminder.  Employers have records of all email and it is astounding to me what some people send via email.  I hope she reaches out to you on Monday and you get your chance. Crossing fingers for you!

[IntBrowser]

5 hours ago, Nothanks said:

Maybe she was busy.  Wait until Monday and see if she reaches out. And I didn’t mean you were doing anything wrong via email.  More of a reminder.  Employers have records of all email and it is astounding to me what some people send via email.  I hope she reaches out to you on Monday and you get your chance. Crossing fingers for you!

see the thing is,  on our last day at the old location before we were transferred, she was at my cubicle talking to me for like 10 mins and I was working my way up to asking for her number so we can stay in touch.   Then people started coming around us and i couldnt do it because I didnt want anyone in my business.     But I have no one to blame but myself because I had all day tuesday to ask for her number when exchanging all those emails and never did.         I think i was still in shock that she actually emailed me because we left on 9/17 and she didnt reach out until 10/12.   So I figured I would never talk to her again.    But common sense should tell me that if she emailed me first she wants to stay in contact with me even though we no longer work at the same location.   Im an idiot

[Gaeta]

You're not an idiot, the signs were there, just wait tomorrow. There is all types a reasons she can show online but not at her desk. I leave my work computer on all the time even when I leave at night and on weekend so I can connect in case of emergency. If I miss a day of work it will show me logged on. Lets say my computer is turned off and I'm absent, there is someone at the office that will turn it on for what ever reason.

[IntBrowser]

On 10/17/2021 at 5:26 PM, Gaeta said:

You're not an idiot, the signs were there, just wait tomorrow. There is all types a reasons she can show online but not at her desk. I leave my work computer on all the time even when I leave at night and on weekend so I can connect in case of emergency. If I miss a day of work it will show me logged on. Lets say my computer is turned off and I'm absent, there is someone at the office that will turn it on for what ever reason.

well it looks like its over.     No response today at all and I am definitely not double emailing.    So nothing to do but move on since I blew my opportunity

[Nothanks]

It’s only been a day.  How interested are you here?  If you do like her, another email is not going to kill you.  The last email you sent was “happy Friday” right?  Not “what are you doing this weekend?”  I get “happy Friday” from work colleagues all the time as a nice gesture of ending a communication and it absolutely does not mean “I’m romantically interested in you”.  She took the first step of contacting you and you engaged in platonic banter. Maybe she is thinking you are not interested in her.  She is not a mind reader.  So let me ask you this - what is the downside risk to emailing her again with more personal content?  She doesn’t reply?  You’ll survive. Now what is the upside potential - she responds and you can ask her out.  And you are not an idiot. I think you may need to gain some confidence. A “no thanks” isn’t the end of the world.  Nothing ventured nothing gained.  

[Gaeta]

12 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

well it looks like its over.     No response today at all and I am definitely not double emailing.    So nothing to do but move on since I blew my opportunity

On a scale of 1 to 10 how much you like her?

 

[IntBrowser]

11 hours ago, Gaeta said:

On a scale of 1 to 10 how much you like her?

 

definitely a 10.      She is the type of attractive I prefer, a relaxed pretty.   Ponytail, plain jane type.     Never been attracted to woman who wear heels and over the top hairstyles

She is attractive and wont ever drawn a lot of attention

[Gaeta]

6 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

definitely a 10.      She is the type of attractive I prefer, a relaxed pretty.   Ponytail, plain jane type.     Never been attracted to woman who wear heels and over the top hairstyles

She is attractive and wont ever drawn a lot of attention

Then risk a double email

Sounds like she is worth you get out of your comfort zone and take a risk. 

[Nothanks]

29 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

definitely a 10.      She is the type of attractive I prefer, a relaxed pretty.   Ponytail, plain jane type.     Never been attracted to woman who wear heels and over the top hairstyles

She is attractive and wont ever drawn a lot of attention

Then heck man…give it a shot!  And don’t email on a Friday afternoon.  You will just have a tortured weekend if she doesn’t reply. Email her tomorrow.  Tell her you wanted to reach out to see how she is doing. Ask her how work is going and then ask her if she has anything interesting planned this weekend.  I hope it works out for you. 

[princessaurora]

Sometimes in life you just have to take chances and go for what you want. 

I  met a guy at a party once in college  I really liked him but was there with another guy so we didn't exchange numbers. He ended up asking around about me and got my number from someone else. When I came back from a family  vacation the following week I had 19 messages and they were all from him. While  l I was listening to his last message, he called again and I picked up. We started dating shortly after and have been married for over 20 years now. 

Send the girl another message. 

[IntBrowser]

1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

Then risk a double email

Sounds like she is worth you get out of your comfort zone and take a risk. 

yeah she did double email me without me responding to the previous one.   So maybe I will give it a shot

[Nothanks]

You know, I wonder what she would think if you told her all the nice things that you have said about her here, You have been quite sweet when describing  her.  You’ve clearly got the skills so put them to good use!  Good luck!

[Wiseman2]

7 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

  So maybe I will give it a shot

Don't. She knows how to contact you. If she had any interest (which seemed doubtful), you made sure you discouraged her by chitchatting about nothing and not even bothering to give her your personal contact info in any of these interoffice emails.

Let this go. There's plenty of other women to date...if you want that.

[princessaurora]

@IntBrowser Listen to the women here. We know what we're talking about. Send her another message. 

[IntBrowser]

3 hours ago, princessaurora said:

@IntBrowser Listen to the women here. We know what we're talking about. Send her another message. 

she responded today saying "hey Int how is it going?

 

how do i reply and go about getting contact info?