We work for the same employer but not in the same building. Does this sound like she is interested?

[IntBrowser]

Last year we worked at the same location and we are both shy so we would just stare at each other for the longest,     Then she finally decided to approach me and ask me something work related to break the ice.    So we started chatting everyday and then all of a sudden we were informed we are being transferred.    She works in one part of the city and I work in another part.     So on the last day she told me she would email me to see how I am doing at my new location.     I didnt think it would happen and today I get this email from her asking how are you making out?    I been at the site for 3 weeks and I figured she forgot and would never hear from her again.     So today we were chatting all day over email until the end of the day.     Now of course I want her number because I am very attracted to her but I want to play it cool.    So how should I go about eventually moving things to text?    

she used a lot of smiling faces all day and even emailed me twice during the day before I respond back to the first one.     And I told her I was off tomorrow and her last response to me was enjoy your day off. Talk soon:)

 

Does it sound like she is interested in me?

[Ami1uwant]

Just talk and see how it goes.

 

issues…

 

1 what us employer rules on workplace dating?

2. have you talked about any non work things?

 

I work for a large employer.  I would not date someone who was part of my work group or someone in a different group I regularly worked with.  If I met her on a project but our paths didn’t regularly cross I’d ask her out.

[IntBrowser]

49 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said:

Just talk and see how it goes.

 

issues…

 

1 what us employer rules on workplace dating?

2. have you talked about any non work things?

 

I work for a large employer.  I would not date someone who was part of my work group or someone in a different group I regularly worked with.  If I met her on a project but our paths didn’t regularly cross I’d ask her out.

we work on opposite sides of the city

[dramafreezone]

Time to take charge man.  Don't just sit around overanalyzing things, ask her out.

I don't think we need to avoid all instances of dating at the workplace.  If you don't even see each other on a regular basis then I don't see the problem.

[IntBrowser]

54 minutes ago, dramafreezone said:

Time to take charge man.  Don't just sit around overanalyzing things, ask her out.

I don't think we need to avoid all instances of dating at the workplace.  If you don't even see each other on a regular basis then I don't see the problem.

But I have to get the number before I do that.     Now I didnt want to ask her today since this was her first time emailing me.     I was surprised I was on her mind for her to even email me and ask me how I was making out.     we havent seen each other since 9/17.     This is definitely the shock of the year

[Maldives]

Yep she's interested. Her flow of emails show that. Go for it but check Ur work policy re dating work colleagues 

[Dis]

Omg yay!  

 

Yes she is definitely interested! 

 

Email her and say, "shoot me your number so I can ask you out" 

 

I honestly think as long as you don't directly work with the person, meeting people at work is one of the best ways to meet someone. There's no pressure. You gradually get to know each other naturally. Things just flow organically which fosters the foundation for a relationship. 

 

Excited for you! 

 

Keep us posted and RELAX, don't test her, don't be negative. 

 

Best of luck!  

[Wiseman2]

7 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

.Now of course I want her number because I am very attracted to her but I want to play it cool.   I told her I was off tomorrow and her last response to me was enjoy your day off. 

Play it cool? Meaning she has to guess and ask you out? When you hinted about a day off her response was professional and indifferent. Sort of "have a nice day".

It could just be networking. Since she never offered personal contact info, it's safe to assume this is like a LinkedIn type connection and staying in touch.

[IntBrowser]

2 hours ago, Dis said:

Omg yay!  

 

Yes she is definitely interested! 

 

Email her and say, "shoot me your number so I can ask you out" 

 

I honestly think as long as you don't directly work with the person, meeting people at work is one of the best ways to meet someone. There's no pressure. You gradually get to know each other naturally. Things just flow organically which fosters the foundation for a relationship. 

 

Excited for you! 

 

Keep us posted and RELAX, don't test her, don't be negative. 

 

Its like she circled the day she would email me.   I figured she forgot all about me and I would never speak to her again so I was shock to see her name this morning after almost a month of us leaving our previous site.     I jokingly said to her in the email...."I was expecting this email from you in september"     And her response was............"I wanted to give you time to get adjusted to your new work environment"        

2 hours ago, Dis said:

 

Best of luck!  

 

[IntBrowser]

2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Play it cool? Meaning she has to guess and ask you out? When you hinted about a day off her response was professional and indifferent. Sort of "have a nice day".

It could just be networking. Since she never offered personal contact info, it's safe to assume this is like a LinkedIn type connection and staying in touch.

I want to do that since she has taken the initiative twice to approach me first.    Once back at the old site when she approach me for the first time to ask me something work related.   For months all we did was glance at each other and too shy to speak.    But that all changed this summer.    Now today I was on her mind for her to contact at my new worksite.  I could be wrong but I dont think this is networking.       And put a smiling face after talk soon?     Now what If I return to work on Thursday and she emails me again knowing i was out yesterday?  

[Wiseman2]

7 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

...."I was expecting this email from you in september"     And her response was............"I wanted to give you time to get adjusted to your new work environment"        

Is this work email? What do you mean by expecting an email in Sept?

[IntBrowser]

5 hours ago, dramafreezone said:

Time to take charge man.  Don't just sit around overanalyzing things, ask her out.

I don't think we need to avoid all instances of dating at the workplace.  If you don't even see each other on a regular basis then I don't see the problem.

I feel like I have to since she clearly circled the day she would email me on her calender once we left the previous site and reached out first.      Its like she said to herself,  I dont want to email him right away I will wait until this date.    Pretty much saying that even though we no longer work at the same site I still want to continue getting to know you and stay in contact with you

[IntBrowser]

4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Is this work email? What do you mean by expecting an email in Sept?

Yes work email.   on 9/17. her last day at the previous site, she said she would email me to see how I was doing at my new site. I started the new site on 9/21.    So getting her email today was shocking because I figured she forgot all about me and I would never speak to her again.     But she is showing she wants to continue talking to me where she could have faded away forever

Edited October 13, 2021 by IntBrowser

[Dis]

8 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

I want to do that since she has taken the initiative twice to approach me first.  

That means it's your turn

 

Doubly your turn

 

Take the reins now...do not stall 

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, IntBrowser said:

Yes work email.   

Don't jump to asking her out. You're having a relationship in your mind and an entire two way dialogue with your thoughts.

Wait for her to email again. If she does, the start by offering your personal contact info and ask for hers.

 

[IntBrowser]

Just want to let everyone know I wanted to ask for her number on 9/17 but it was too many people around us and I didnt get the chance

[IntBrowser]

1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said:

Don't jump to asking her out. You're having a relationship in your mind and an entire two way dialogue with your thoughts.

Wait for her to email again. If she does, the start by offering your personal contact info and ask for hers.

 

That was my plan on 9/17 when we was talking again like we always was and I was going to ask for her number but a couple of coworkers came around us and I didnt get the chance to and then i said to myself............."well i probably wont talk to her again"

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, IntBrowser said:

 I was going to ask for her number but a couple of coworkers came around us and I didnt get the chance 

And... when she emailed you you didn't exchange personal contact info either. Instead made strange comments about what date she was supposed to email?

She may just give up out of sheer confusion.

[IntBrowser]

8 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

And... when she emailed you you didn't exchange personal contact info either. Instead made strange comments about what date she was supposed to email?

She may just give up out of sheer confusion.

Well that is the plan lol     Today was her first day emailing me and I want to exchange personal info before week is over.    Because I dont want to talk about non work stuff on work email;     And if she says no then I will have my answer.   

Edited October 13, 2021 by IntBrowser

[Dis]

Don't wait for an email back

 

She's done most of the heavy lifting so far

 

You need to go out of your way now and send her an email asking her for her number

 

If I have to do too much for to get things off the ground with a guy, I bail. Most women and men want initiation and reciprocation in return.

 

Email her the next time you're at work 

[IntBrowser]

15 minutes ago, Dis said:

Don't wait for an email back

 

She's done most of the heavy lifting so far

 

You need to go out of your way now and send her an email asking her for her number

 

If I have to do too much for to get things off the ground with a guy, I bail. Most women and men want initiation and reciprocation in return.

 

Email her the next time you're at work 

Sounds like a plan.    Now If I get back on Thursday and she asked how was my day off in the email then I am asking for sure lol

[Dis]

Lmao no Int! 

 

How many green lights does this poor woman have to give you?

 

Whether she emails you or not, whether she asks you how your day was or not, send the email and ask for her number 

[Versacehottie]

yes, she's interested. (sure seems so).  I would try to take it off email asap...for work reasons and for the reason that you want things to become more "immediate" and casual/close in tone of way you speak to each other....more friendly than work-related.  I have to read your post better than I did (just skimmed quickly) but I KNOW there is a piece of something you can pick up on in your previous conversations where it would be normal to say essentially "let's text" and/or "let's meet up for fun".   Not that wording per se.  If you haven't done it by time I get back to this thread, I will see if there is something I would suggest doing/way to word it.  you got this! 

[flitzanu]

if you want an easy method, especially since you don't physically sit near each other or work directly together.

find something that you want to do, like, maybe there's a local band or something social.  email her on friday and say "hey i'm going to *place* and maybe you'd like to meet me there, here is my phone number"

 

or, you do the direct approach as others suggest, directly ask her on a date.  

[smackie9]

pick up the phone and ask her if she would like to meet up for drinks after work, or for brunch on Sunday. If she says sure get her number.