Lifeliver Posted October 12, 2021 Share Posted October 12, 2021 All my life I never had a girlfriend. I've never asked a girl out and wonder if this is the major cause of this. I'm not a horrible guy I'm not perfect, I go the gym, take care of my self, have a decent job. I am just me, can be funny at times, but also serious when needed. Overall a decent person. When I was younger like late teens, early 20's it didn't really bother me but now early 30's its really staring to be on my mind daily. All my friends are pretty much married, kids etc. I wonder what is wrong with me? Now to be honest I'm at the point where I've staring to grow numb to any possibility of having someone in my life. And that is what I don't want for my life. What should I do to change this? Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2021 Share Posted October 12, 2021 Start asking women out on dates. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sun Seeker Posted October 12, 2021 Share Posted October 12, 2021 Yes never asking a girl out is a major factor. How exactly are you planning to get a girlfriend if you don't initiate that first step? As the man that's your job. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted October 12, 2021 Share Posted October 12, 2021 Yes ok this will be hard for you to get off the ground , no pain no gain you have to push yourself out of that comfort zone though- as came up on another thread the comfort zone of being happy to shy away from women and so on, you will enjoy speaking to ladies and getting to know them once you make a few female friends even, start by saying hi by initiating conversation with that nice girl at the gym, how is her work out going. dont worry about it -will take a while for things to improve but will be worth it, (now is the time though dont sit in the corner any longer) lol Id swap with you absolutely- chance to be nine years younger again - never been with a woman- no problem! Link to post Share on other sites
dramafreezone Posted October 12, 2021 Share Posted October 12, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Lifeliver said: All my life I never had a girlfriend. I've never asked a girl out and wonder if this is the major cause of this. I'm not a horrible guy I'm not perfect, I go the gym, take care of my self, have a decent job. I am just me, can be funny at times, but also serious when needed. Overall a decent person. When I was younger like late teens, early 20's it didn't really bother me but now early 30's its really staring to be on my mind daily. All my friends are pretty much married, kids etc. I wonder what is wrong with me? Now to be honest I'm at the point where I've staring to grow numb to any possibility of having someone in my life. And that is what I don't want for my life. What should I do to change this? Thanks. Get a life coach or a dating coach. At this point it will be very challenging for you to get this ball rolling all by yourself. You need a good support system, so use your resources to find people that have an expertise in areas where you have shortcomings. Edited October 12, 2021 by dramafreezone Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted October 12, 2021 Share Posted October 12, 2021 (edited) It's hard to know as there are many factors. How many women are actually around in your environment; what do you do socially, your appearance, etc, etc. Every woman is different and nothing is guaranteed to work for any specific woman. Statistically, you are likely to be better off if you are attractive to women (and keep in mind that, again speaking generally only, some of women's key "sexual indicators" are actually psychological - e.g. confidence and social skills). If you are attractive enough, they will essentially come to you (hence the concept of a "Chad" and/or player). There are a variety of ways you might adjust e.g. your appearance and, importantly, overall demeanor, that might help. Overall, you want to come across as a handsome, confident go-getter. No slumped shoulders, no awkward, "clingy" not-sure-what-to-say failed approaches. Nice clothes and grooming. A "great guy" with "great prospects" in life. The attention of such a male can get many women quite interested in short notice. In addition to a dating coach or similar, you might take a look at the book "A Billion Wicked Thoughts". Although it's a long read, you could focus on the chapters on what drives female attraction. If you can understand and implement the ideas effectively, it should go a long way towards helping you be more attractive to them, which should help make your efforts a LOT more successful. Edited October 12, 2021 by mark clemson Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted October 12, 2021 Share Posted October 12, 2021 It's unusual, but it's not the end of the world. If you want to change this, you could begin by engaging in activities that you enjoy at areas where you can meet women. Speak to ladies just with the objective of meeting and getting to know them. When you've had a pleasant discussion with a woman you like, ask her out. Continue to do so; it will become simpler. You'll eventually meet someone with whom you connect. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lisa Posted October 19, 2021 Senior Moderators Share Posted October 19, 2021 @Lifeliver your thread has been closed after removal of a whole lot of off topic discussion. Please flag this post if you would like your thread reopened Link to post Share on other sites
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