I have been stuck and going in circles over this issue for almost 3 years now.

[Anneb24]

First thing's first: I am 31 this December, and have always wanted kids. That is up until recently, with my husband of almost 2 years, I literally do NOT want children anymore. I am struggling in this marriage as is, and the thought of even bringing a pet into this relationshp (let alone, a child) makes me anxious and as thought I would be stuck. I feel like I dont want kids with this man. I dont even want to have sex. But I love who he is, his soul, his character, and I cant seem to get myself to fall in love with him. My questions is: is not wanting kids with someone a clear sign that they arent the one?

My husband and I dated for 2 years before gettinng married, he is 34, I am 31, we will be married for 2 yrs come November, and since day 1 of this marriage I feel like I only half-loved him hoping I would completely love him as time went by, but its become unbearable in my mind. I'm too scared to leave (emotional reasons as he is a good guy), but also, I have to convince myself every morning and every night before bed that this is my life and i should be thankful. I dont know what to do, I tried a therapist, that didnt help, I am really lost. Is a trial separation a good thing? Has anyone regretted a separation/divorce before?

[Wiseman2]

25 minutes ago, Anneb24 said:

My husband and I dated for 2 years before gettinng married, since day 1 of this marriage I feel like I only half-loved him.

When did the trouble begin? Was there ever an attraction?

 

[glows]

When I was in the process of divorcing I went over the reasons for getting married. While the answers may seem painfully clear cut to outsiders looking in, they were not when I was in it so that took some time and also facing the fact that the reasons for getting married had unraveled and were no longer relevant in the marriage. You may have to do the same and ask yourself if those reasons for marrying him are valid (to you) or whether the two of you or one of you has changed.

[emprosnet7]

If you don't even want sex, better end it in a friendly way. Being good sometimes is not enough. It would be fair for him too.