Anon1895 Posted October 6, 2021 Posted October 6, 2021 I’ve been talking to a girl for a few days so it’s still of course very early on but we asked about each other’s pasts and she said that she had been single for 7 months and told me about this ex. But I recently found out from a mutual friend that she was in a relationship with a guy that she really liked a little over a month ago but it was a bad breakup. What do people think? Is she possibly not over it yet?
glows Posted October 6, 2021 Posted October 6, 2021 You'll get a very clear idea very soon whether she's ready to date someone new (you). Pay attention to her and how she treats you. If you sense she's lying or isn't upfront about herself, then let her go.
Wiseman2 Posted October 6, 2021 Posted October 6, 2021 1 hour ago, Anon1895 said: I’ve been talking to a girl for a few days and told me about this ex. Have you met? So many red flags. First, you're just talking. Second she's already talking about an ex. Third talking about pasts, playing true confessions, etc. How does your friend know her? Is he making moves on her too? Why pursue this?
Blind-Sided Posted October 7, 2021 Posted October 7, 2021 Why are you talking about ex BF/GF ??? That does nothing other than to make people jealous or uneasy. The only time you talk about ex's, is if you are divorced, and that person may show up. (like during kid transfers) BUT... if you really think she lied about a question... then cut it off now. 2
Easter Bunny Posted October 8, 2021 Posted October 8, 2021 (edited) On 10/7/2021 at 6:21 AM, Anon1895 said: I’ve been talking to a girl for a few days so it’s still of course very early on but we asked about each other’s pasts and she said that she had been single for 7 months and told me about this ex. But I recently found out from a mutual friend that she was in a relationship with a guy that she really liked a little over a month ago but it was a bad breakup. What do people think? Is she possibly not over it yet? [ ] i don't think this is a red flag. this is normal. she simply isn't comfortable about telling you about it at this time. unless you know everything about the relationship I wouldn't jump to conclusions. quite honestly it also isn't really of your business. you hardly know each other, and this is the kind of thing people open up about later on down the line. there is a reason why she isn't telling you about it, and it probably is because she is ashamed of it or thinks she will be judged in some way. she also may not want you to think you are a rebound man. just play it by ear and see what happens. you don't have anything invested in this relationship yet. just try to have fun with her. you never know, she may tell you about it on her own terms a little later down the line. Edited October 8, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator group berating/doesn't address first post 2
spiderowl Posted October 10, 2021 Posted October 10, 2021 On 10/6/2021 at 8:21 PM, Anon1895 said: I’ve been talking to a girl for a few days so it’s still of course very early on but we asked about each other’s pasts and she said that she had been single for 7 months and told me about this ex. But I recently found out from a mutual friend that she was in a relationship with a guy that she really liked a little over a month ago but it was a bad breakup. What do people think? Is she possibly not over it yet? This is a difficult one. I would carry on chatting with the girl but listen out for more. It is possible it is something she just does not want to talk about, for obvious reasons, but lying is not good either. You cannot really rely on second-hand information about such things. Having said that, tread carefully.
Uruktopi Posted October 10, 2021 Posted October 10, 2021 On 10/6/2021 at 4:21 PM, Anon1895 said: I’ve been talking to a girl for a few days so it’s still of course very early on but we asked about each other’s pasts and she said that she had been single for 7 months and told me about this ex. But I recently found out from a mutual friend that she was in a relationship with a guy that she really liked a little over a month ago but it was a bad breakup. What do people think? Is she possibly not over it yet? "she had been single for 7 months and told me about this ex." "she was in a relationship with a guy that she really liked a little over a month ago" People and (just may be) specially women may attibute their own importance to each "case" according to her inner feelings and sometimes as autonomous to what looks like. Just perhaps she told you about what she honestly see as releevant. And also honestly discarded the other as a failed shorter intent, not trully a relationship in her eyes. But who knows. Ask her about.
Nothanks Posted October 10, 2021 Posted October 10, 2021 I think you are asking the wrong question. Forget about why she lied. The real question is “is lying acceptable to you?” 1
kendahke Posted October 12, 2021 Posted October 12, 2021 (edited) On 10/6/2021 at 2:21 PM, Anon1895 said: I’ve been talking to a girl for a few days Talking to. Not gone on a date with. Not "in a relationship with". A week ago, you didn't know her. From the way you worded it, your "mutual friend" doesn't sound like they introduced you two, so why is their meddling sought out? Neither of you know each other. You're both strangers, not long lost lovers who've reconnected. Could it be that because it ended, she doesn't give it the weight of a relationship that had gone the distance with all the investments that go along with such involvements and therefore doesn't merit mentioning after talking to a stranger she's never met for a "few days"? In the few days you've been talking, you've managed to build up a false construct in your head of who you think she is when she is a whole and complete person before you swiped right on her profile. You led yourself astray on this one by not checking your imagination, expectations and projection tendencies. Quote What do people think? Is she possibly not over it yet? I think more to the point: you've let your imagination and expectations run amok. And your mutual friend may have an axe to grind with her--and that's suspish a.f. Edited October 12, 2021 by kendahke
Daisydooks Posted October 12, 2021 Posted October 12, 2021 I had one serious relationship from my teens into my late 20s. After that I went on dates with a few guys (sex sometimes or just going on dates and had a ONS.) If my relationship had ended 7 months ago, but Id had sex with 3 other men in that time (example: a month ago) that simply isnt your damn business. Sorry. Lol. Id tell you my relationship ended 7 months ago because I didnt consider 2 date Dave or my ONS a relationship. Id be happy you dumped me if it was because I didnt tell you stuff that you shouldnt be asking and isnt your business 1 1
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