A beautifull story between a Sagg man and an Aqua woman. Hoping to get her back.

[MrJazzyFingers]

Sag man here with Aqua rising, down to my knees in love with an Aqua girl Aqua rising.. 

The very first time i saw her picture i was sure she was an Aqua girl and i had my sixth sense ticking and saying to me that she is going to be my girl..
From the first time we saw each other, we immediately clicked on so many topics.. arts, travel, music, passions and so many common interests..
The second time we saw each other we went at a bar where there was a jam session and i played piano there (I'm a professional jazz musician)
I didn't want to leave her standing 5 meters apart from me, so i invited her to sit next to me on the piano and we had a blast.. Making her play one note, while the band was playing and telling her "Listen, if you play this note right here, it's going to sound good, and she began spamming it with a big smile on her face and having fun, while the band was playing and we had such a good time"
I wanted to see her again as soon as possible, she had an exam on the next weekend and i waited patiently for it ot pass so i could see her smile again.
That was February 2021 and little did i knew she started to go out with another person while i was hoping to see her again.
Many months go by, i was trying to get her to have a coffee with me, she always left me waiting for the next weekend and for the next and so on.. And when i turned around, 5 months have passed and i didn't see her for such a long period of time.
She made the sweetest impression on me,the combination of her eyes, her voice and her smile just made my heart melt and i was so sure i wanted this girl in my life.
After so much heartache and hopeless desires to see her again, in between those 5 months, i developed very strong feelings for her, and i wanted to see her and develop at least a decent friendship with her before anything else.
I tried everything, being patient, kind, sweet but she was just distant and couldn't see what i was offering.
So in August 2021 I made the decision to share my feelings to her and ask her, without pushing anything. So i wrote her a message in 1am in the morning, telling her that i find her very special, that she made me want to see her more often and hoping that one day we could see each other again with a big smile and have a cup of coffee.
Out of nowhere, she replied 30 mins later, telling me that she appreciates the beautiful things that i say to her and my sincerity and if it's okay with me, she would like to have a coffee with me.
I'm a musician that played with other Grammy award-winning musicians, playing on festivals and doing everything with ease and passion, and i never felt so nervous, knowing i was about to meet her in the days ahead after 5 months...
After a couple of days we met and in the first moment we laid eyes on each other we gave each other the biggest hug...We go out and we have a blast again.. talking, laughing, listening to music that we love, sharing experiences, memories, stories.. we had the most romantic night on the first day after this long perioud of time.
She told me that she liked me also that night and see how things will go..
That night i shared my sincerest feelings for her, told her how she made me feel and her cheeks were blushing, her eyes were becoming full with tears and she couldnt believe how i much i was into her.
We both felt a strong connection that night and it was incredible.... and very romantic...
I couldn't believe how well that night went and i kissed her on her forhead for goodnight, hoping to see her again.
After 4 days we go out again because at that point, obviously we were so in to each other and i felt that she was very interested in seeing me and sharing her energies with me.
We went to have sushi, went to have a dring, bought some cigarettes and went on one of the most romantic places in the city and kissed so warmly, so slowly and so beautifully for the first time.. at that point i didn't even process what happened.. All of my desires for her were answered and it was so incredible..
We share the same way of showing love, passion, gentleness, warmth and cincerity..
After a while i go on tour in Germany, she goes on a trip to Austria and when we saw each other again after 10 days everything was just pure love, passion and warmth.
While i was in germany i wanted to bring her a small bed for her kitten, but i couldnt manage to find one so i bought her some sweet chocolate stuff, a beautiful thermus bottle and a small teddy bear toy for her kitty and she was so stoked...
I felt that we were made for each other and finally i was balanced, i fealt that she was 100% with me and was slowly becoming relaxed and in love with me..
A couple of days go by and i decided to invite her to my place for dinner, (I think you know where this is going) i cooked the best stuff, made the whole atmosphere warm, drank a bottle of wine and after a while we were in each others arms..
We had the same tempo of kissing, showing love and the sex was ...............
Both of us couldnt believe what the hell happened.. the sheets were all wet, we were both so passionate and we had an incredible night in each others arms..
I was left without words and she told me it was so beautiful...
Both of us enjoyed it to the fullest because there was such a fire between us and such chemistry..
We were like drugs to each other, couldn't have enough of each other and just smiling without saying anything..
On the morning after i made her the sweetest breakfast in bed.. pancakes drowned in butter, with marmalade of strawberries and tiramisu.. it was better than the best love story out there.. I was so happy to do those things to her because i did them from pure love..
A couple of days go by, we did the same thing in her house.. after a couple of cigarettes and a couple of drinks, we fell in each other's arms until we went to the bedroom and had the most incredible and warm sex..
As i said.. we have the same way of showing and expressing love, passion, warmth and our frequencies were vibrating on the same level.. it was too good to be true.. better than any love story out there..
After a couple of days, i finally bought a bed for her kitten and i went to her house to cook her small dinner and give it to her..
That night she told me that her ex-boyfriend started to text her again and she didn't know where her feelings were, she was having a tough exam on the next week and a Laurea wich she had to work on a lot..
So i started to talk to her about the situation and she told me how in certain moments she misses him, how she wants the best for him and how she was uncertain wich way she wanted to follow..
She needed time and space, while I was needing her warmth and presence...
I was happy to give her space, but not happy about how she put another person in between our relationship..
So what happened next was she slowly started to fade away, started to text me a little bit less, with less enthusiasm until our conversations became empty.
We saw each other finally after one whole month, in that period i cried a couple of times for her and i her absence created a void in my chest that i couldn't fill up with whatever i was doing.
The days became longer, the nights became more lonely, our connection started to fade away and i was sure she was making time for someone else and not for me.
When we finally saw each other, she told me that she doesn't know what she wants, she told me that at this point she sees me more as a friend than as something more, that she needed a friendship in order to build something over it (that was the thing i was trying to create in those 5 months) that the period was making it difficult for her to create feelings for somebody because of her exams and Laurea, that she went out with her ex, that he is going to be on her Laurea party in wich she also invited me and that it was going to be a problem i f i was there and i kissed her, because her friends and parents already knew that they were togerther and so on...
She told me it's up to you if you want to come and it left me not knowing what to do.

So in these days, i plan to send her a letter via post, explaining how much i treasure her and how i miss her, not being pushy, giving her the space and time in order for her to figure out what she wants and what she needs and how i someday hope to meet her somewhere and hopefully give it another shot...

So listen here, my advice to all the Sagg man, Aqua woman couples is.. don't give up on each other, be honest, be sincere, be there for each other, respect each others needs for space and time, be kind with each other and above all, don't be afraid to reveal to each other your feelings. You never know what the next day is going to bring, so seize every opportunity to show each other your love. Have your intentions clear in the beginning, be honest and continue to give each other reasons to smile.

I strongly believe that aqua and sagg are made for each other, you just have to be lucky with the right timing.. and hopefully one day you will see the love in the other persons eyes.

I hope you enjoyed reading and if you have any advice i would appreciate it.

Sincerely,

A Sagg guy, who just lost his dearest Aqua girl.

[Wiseman2]

Give her the space she needs. If you come on too strong with letters and such, it could backfire.

She seems like more of a muse to you than a GF.

[d0nnivain]

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You are a romantic musician in love with love. You are an artist with your head in the clouds.  She is a girl in love with somebody else who took her sweet time, eventually letting you distract her but in no way, shape or form feeling any of the things you claim to have experienced in your post.  

You met in February 2021 & played the piano together if you can call it that.  Then she dated somebody else!  You pined for her for 5 months.  In a desperate attempt to reconnect you sent her some sappy message at 1 a.m. in August.  She was probably at a low point then so she took you up on your offer.  You boosted her ego.  Although your desperation was palpable, it was also a nice ego boost for her.  At the end of this "date"  you kissed her on the forehead like she was some 5 year old child.  It seems so condescending not at all like the great romance you claim.  It takes her 4 days to agree to go out with you again.   This lady is not chomping at the bit here.  You then go away for work & come back with a bunch of presents.  This reads like you trying to buy her.  Still she has sex with you at the next meeting after which she fades away for a whole month.  When she finally talks to you again it's to tell you that she doesn't know what she wants.  What that means is she does not want you & she prefers him,  but she's too wishy washy to tell that to your face because you have been so nice to you.  She can see how you feel in your eyes.  She doesn't want to hurt you because to do so will be like kicking a puppy. 

In 8 months you have seen this woman 4 times.  She's just not that into you.  You were the rebound.  She used you to try to get over him.  It's not working.  She has friend-zoned you.  

You have constructed this grand romance in your head but it's not the reality.  Do not send this letter you are contemplating.  It's cringeworthy, not romantic.  

The best songs often come from heartbreak.  Use what happened to write a new song but leave her alone.  

Edited October 6, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[MrJazzyFingers]

@d0nnivain Thank you for your feedback.

I appreciate the time you took to read everything and give me your thoughts.

To me it's still a hard pill to swallow, because we saw each other just 3 days ago and she told me everything those things that night.

To be more specific, that night she told me how at this point she preferes to see me as a friend, because it's hard for her to develop feelings with her Laurea coming and she needs time to think and decide what or who to focus on. She invited me to her Laurea party, telling me also that her ex was going to be there, and i asked her: Well if i come and i decide to kiss you is this going to be a problem ? And she said: Yes, it's going to be a problem, because my parents know we were together and my friends know we are together and said you decide if you want to come or not.
After a while i told her that a friend of mine (she's a singer) invited me and her to go to her birthday at the 15th of October, and i spoke to my friend about her, she started to smile, got curious what i told her, and it was that we were together and i was happy.
The next thing that happened is i asked her: Well, did you told your friends about me ? And she said no.
I mean the situation at this point speaks for itself.

That night she just washed her hands from all of this, because as you say, i was just the rebound, she has somebody else in mind and she is just not that into me.
Despite the fact that that night she told me she likes me, cares about me, wants the best for me and all those things to make me feel good or whatever.
It was more convenient for her to do it in this way, because she doesnt want to hurt me, i guess it makes her sleep well at night, because i took everything reasonably, calmly and understandably, secretly hoping to change the situation.
After a while i told her that if we continue to see each other, slowly the things between us are only going to get better, and she agreed. So i proposed to her to go out again the same week, go to her place to cook her some dinner, to come one morning to make her breakfast, to see each oterh here and there for 10 mins (we live 15 mins away) and she agreed to everything, but i was a blind fool and couldnt realise that she said yes because it made her feel good in that moment, on the next day her feelings and desires would definitely be different, having in mind theres another one..
So after those conversations i hugged her, i kissed her, but i had to search for her lips..  her lips werent there for me anymor.
When we decided to take a walk, when i tried to hold her hand again, i had to pull it out from her pocket.. and she was just gone... she was somebody else's and i was still there, hoping to turn the situation around.
Anyways..
It's  just hard when the situation shows you were used. You can't put your thoughts in order.You cant really understant what the hell happened just yet.

I don't think her objective was ultimately to use me. Maybe those are not the right words to put it, i think she was curious to see what i was offering at that moment and she gave me a chance because the period was convenient for her. But ultimately the situation speaks for itself and she made her decision a long time ago i guess that was her "polite" way to tell it to me and now she finds it convenient to leave.

I still think to send her a letter telling her something like :

From my part this is not a goodbye, im taking a step back to give you time and space for you to figure out what you need,
I wanted to be on your laurea with a huge bouquet of flowers, kiss you on the cheek and tell you how proud i am for you.
I wanted to do all of those beautiful things for you and continue to give you reasons to smile, becuase that is one of the most important things for me
Now i feel bad because in the weeks ahead im not oing to have this opportinity and be cose to you.
Im deffinitely going to miss you
I hope someday we meet at a coffe place and give it another shot.
I adore you.


Bottom line is... she doesn't deserve any of that, if i do it, im going to be sending a letter to a ghost.
 

Anyways,
Thanks for the feedback, id be happy to hear what you think, sorry if i made it too long again.
 

[flitzanu]

don't send her a letter.  in your proposed letter above, you say " i'm taking a step back to giveyou time and space" but you're not.  she already stepped back, so you're not doing anything but trying to talk like you're doing this for her benefit when she already walked away.

as the others have said, her behavior shows low interest, and all the lovebombing is just going to smother her to the point of being annoyed.

best to give up on this one, block and delete and try to forget.