LAVSEEKER Posted October 5, 2021 Posted October 5, 2021 I have a good friend (not the best) who we used to chit chat together at school and college. There were many coincidences (more than I could count) where we would meet in a random place, team up and sort of things which we never planned, it was like something trying to connect us together but none of us wanted to admit it - something one would say fate, because we did not actually believe any of these and were not open up for feelings. Even after graduating, we would hangout together and work in the same place but this was intentional. Ever since working together, we always went out for lunch together in a group and dinner sometimes. No more coincidences. And for some times now, I had these dreams since we work together I think (that much I could remember or even before), which I would partner with her doing a lot of stuffs together. I still had this kind of dream yesterday, wonder if this is a mind trick. Her personality is fine, a good listener, I wouldn't mind to ask her out but she doesn't like kids and even swearing on this (I know this much because she shared this with all her friends). This is the very reason why I didn't initiate the first step and instead I look away and tend to find someone else. Also, I'm quite a pessimistic person, lack of confidence and thus, only 60% ready for relationship. I feel that I'm very dense and do not know how to persuade on this, should I just give it a go with her or find someone else?
Wiseman2 Posted October 5, 2021 Posted October 5, 2021 Stay friends. What do you mean by persuade her? Persuade her to go out with you or persuade her to like kids? It seems like you have a crush on her but she is not what you want in a relationship.
Author LAVSEEKER Posted October 5, 2021 Author Posted October 5, 2021 yes I thought so. I do not want to persuade her to go out with me or have her to like kids, I'm just not sure if I should have a relationship with her. I mean I've already known what she doesn't want.
d0nnivain Posted October 5, 2021 Posted October 5, 2021 Her not wanting kids is a HUGE insurmountable incompatibility gap. Keep the friendship. Do not date her.
smackie9 Posted October 5, 2021 Posted October 5, 2021 You have a chum to hangout with...that's all this is.
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