GivenUp0083 Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 I understand what my problem has been with women. I am usually too nice to them early and I get to know them and I let them get to know me really well. This causes them to lose interest in me and I'm automatically labeled "friend". From the advice I've gotten, I need to remain more mysterious to a girl, making her WANT to know more about me instead of just spilling my guts and life story to her. What I don't understand is what do I talk with her about if I'm not supposed to reveal anything about myself? I'm a very confident person and I'm not afraid to talk to or approach anyone. I have a great sense of humor and people find me hilarious. I need some tips on how to approach and spark interest in a woman without revealing too much about myself in the process. I'm also a victim of straight out telling girls what I think of them, like telling them I like them straight up. I need to learn how to flirt. What can I do with a girl to hint that I'm interested in her without making it seem too straightforward, but also maintain that mysterious-ness about myself?
CarmenIbanez Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 I think you should keep doing exactly what you are doing. Someone will appreciate you.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 appreciation has nothing to do with it. I am very appreciated, but I'm appreciated as a friend. They will say that I deserve a nice girl and how they wish they could find a guy like me. Well I'm right here, why do they have to look for one "like" me. Girls aren't attracted to guys they appreciate for their friendly qualities.
fusangite Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 appreciation has nothing to do with it. I am very appreciated, but I'm appreciated as a friend.May I adopt this as my sig line? Of course you would be credited.
slubberdegullion Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t72276/
Jayhawks Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 I don't think what your doing is wrong, just don't become their g/f. Be an acquaintance rather than a friend. Don't call to often and keep it short and sweet, no 3 hour friends conversations. Don't talk about past relationships with other women. Learn to flirt and make them want to see more of you. Don't be to available. Speak your mind and disagree with them, don't just kiss up. Be funny and dress to impress. Compliment them and show your interest.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted October 20, 2005 Author Posted October 20, 2005 anyone got links to tips on flirting, cuz I'm clueless on that stuff
Gold Pile Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 During your first few conversations...she'll be deciding what you are..friend, lover, nut-case,. On the 2nd conversation add some steam. " I'm sorry..I'm not dead I just can't resist mentioning how great you look in those jeans" If she's ok with it...do it some more. If she's sort of off-put, then wait till next conversation to try it again.
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