RyanM Posted October 2, 2021 Posted October 2, 2021 This woman's intentions confuse me. Here is what she was doing - in May-July, she came out to the bars in my hometown with her friends, Christina and Becky. At the bars, she followed me around, would walk past me and say my ecig smells good, and run away. She would walk past me, kick my foot, and run away. She would come up to me, introduce herself, say she forgot my name and run away, telling other people I do not love her enough. She would hide her keys to approach me. When talking to her, she made herself difficult and unavailable. She was on the other hand giving me extended eye glances. She was then fired from her job and her friend Christina gets in a serious car accident and she immediately moves 2 hours away to stay with her guy friend Steve. Steve is a old bicycle repair guy who is a little feminine and younger than her. From August to now, this girl rubs Steve in my face on social media with captions such as "you should have tried harder", "you did this to yourself", and "he is the cutest". She calls him her "bb" but wont put "in a relationship" on facebook. Steve put "in a relationship" on Facebook. She knew Steve before meeting me but did not have interest in him (he was one of several people she went on cross country road trips in the spring). Steve's facebook says he is in a relationship but the girls facebook says shes single. She calls Steve "bb" in some stories but she doesnt acknowledge anything going on further. She posts some photos of her Steve and others, but photos are very cheesy and platonic in nature and she feigns interests in Steve does like riding bicycles (she rode bicycle around the block but has no true interest in bicycles). Now she is doing more weird stuff to me. She asked her friend Becky to approach me and try to seduce me (happened late august/early september) (which I detected was a farce). Becky told me that this girl likes attention, genuinely liked me because I am "different", and joked about them knowing there is to know about me like my grandmother's name. I told Becky that I do not think the girl likes me genuinely and Becky responded "why do you think she didnt like you genuinely?" The girl also possibly called women in my home town and told them that i am creepy and may drug them and I need to stay away from them. Whenever I sent her story replies, she didnt read them. If I commented something innocous on her wall, she would like everyones analogous comment but not mine purposefully. She then got Becky to block me and blocked me herself without any real provocation on different social media platforms (on different dates, and before blocking me on Instagram, she made a video of a cupid candle which she yanks and throws and says "when I was a boy I learned not to cry"). Most lastly, she started a mobile massage company and called everyone except me and informed them she will be doing massages and may be going out but will need to leave in the afternoon. Steve's parents helped hand out business cards in Steve's town. I was told she was at the bars out yesterday locally but did in fact leave before I come there in the evenings. I expected her to try to now approach me again but she did not. What are her probable intentions with me? Am I plan B or is Steve plan B (and she felt rejected by me for some reason)?
smackie9 Posted October 3, 2021 Posted October 3, 2021 The only person that is a problem is her. She's a nut job with low self esteem that gets off on messing peoples brains with childish mind games through manipulation. Stay away from her as much as possible. 2
elaine567 Posted October 3, 2021 Posted October 3, 2021 She has no real interest in you, she just played with you...I guess she knew you liked her. It was a cruel game she was playing. You are not plan B, she has no plans that include you. Take the hint for your own good. 2
Sun Seeker Posted October 3, 2021 Posted October 3, 2021 You are just an orbiter to make her feel good with your attention, nothing more. Don't waste any more time with her. 4
ShyViolet Posted October 3, 2021 Posted October 3, 2021 Are you kidding? She sounds immature and crazy. Why would you even be interested in someone like that? Do you really not think you can do better? Don't associate with this girl. 6
Author RyanM Posted October 3, 2021 Author Posted October 3, 2021 To clarify, I blocked her, and every person she is close to (and that I am not actually friends with) on every social media platform. I also made all my profiles private. I looked at her public profiles out of curiosity and she has been dead silent since I blocked her. Should I be concerned shes upto something since I don't interact with her anymore?
stillafool Posted October 3, 2021 Posted October 3, 2021 3 hours ago, RyanM said: Should I be concerned shes upto something since I don't interact with her anymore? No. Just stay as far away from this psycho as possible before she gets you in trouble. Stop checking to see what she's up to. She's the silliest thing I've ever heard of. 3
Nothanks Posted October 4, 2021 Posted October 4, 2021 Sounds like she likes to play games….and you are willingly participating. She is using you to feed her ego. If you did start something with her, do you think she would stop playing games? Unlikely. Let Steve figure her out. 1
Nothanks Posted October 4, 2021 Posted October 4, 2021 10 hours ago, RyanM said: I looked at her public profiles out of curiosity and she has been dead silent since I blocked her. Should I be concerned shes upto something since I don't interact with her anymore? She has not done anything for you to be concerned about. She blocked you and is living her life. I’m sure she would love to know you are looking at her social media and wondering what she is up to. Stop giving her head space. 1
Redpilled Posted October 4, 2021 Posted October 4, 2021 On 10/3/2021 at 4:57 PM, RyanM said: Should I be concerned shes upto something since I don't interact with her anymore? No. You should figure out what you did wrong to let someone like that into your life in the first place. 1
Author RyanM Posted November 3, 2021 Author Posted November 3, 2021 UPDATE: She texted me to not interact with her for at least few months and says she will reach out herself then if she wants (despite there being no interaction recently) and Steve posted a pic with her. I am now even more confused what the hell is going on.
dramafreezone Posted November 3, 2021 Posted November 3, 2021 (edited) It sounds like she's the possible love of your life and would make a wonderful role model for your future children. You're intrigued by her, I get it. She is a textbook drama queen, take it from someone who chose this user name for a reason. She is gifted at stirring up a man's emotions. She would be nothing but a drain on your life. If you cannot resist, just go ahead and find out. Sometimes you have to get burned by the hot stove to know not to touch it again. Edited November 3, 2021 by dramafreezone 1
Author RyanM Posted November 3, 2021 Author Posted November 3, 2021 1 hour ago, dramafreezone said: It sounds like she's the possible love of your life and would make a wonderful role model for your future children. You're intrigued by her, I get it. She is a textbook drama queen, take it from someone who chose this user name for a reason. She is gifted at stirring up a man's emotions. She would be nothing but a drain on your life. If you cannot resist, just go ahead and find out. Sometimes you have to get burned by the hot stove to know not to touch it again. What I don't understand is why she just doesn't wanna go on a date like most people do. Why is she reaching out and telling me to wait? Is she working on some project in the meanwhile? No woman I dated before ever told me this.
dramafreezone Posted November 3, 2021 Posted November 3, 2021 24 minutes ago, RyanM said: What I don't understand is why she just doesn't wanna go on a date like most people do. Why is she reaching out and telling me to wait? Is she working on some project in the meanwhile? No woman I dated before ever told me this. She's narcissistic, or has borderline personality disorder, or both? Her specific diagnosis would be up to a trained clinician, but suffice to say she's not normal so stop trying to make sense of her behavior. 2
Author RyanM Posted November 3, 2021 Author Posted November 3, 2021 5 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: She's narcissistic, or has borderline personality disorder, or both? Her specific diagnosis would be up to a trained clinician, but suffice to say she's not normal so stop trying to make sense of her behavior. She's certainly self centered. Do you have a guess what she wants to achieve from me at this point? Im trying to just understand the objective. If she wants to go on date, she can just call and hint she wants to meet up. Why text someone and hint that you will go on date but only months from now?
basil67 Posted November 3, 2021 Posted November 3, 2021 You'll probably never get answers to these questions. A better question is to ask yourself why you're spending time thinking about her. 1
Author RyanM Posted November 3, 2021 Author Posted November 3, 2021 2 minutes ago, basil67 said: You'll probably never get answers to these questions. A better question is to ask yourself why you're spending time thinking about her. I didn't think about her much in weeks then she texted this nonsense and I don't understand why.
basil67 Posted November 3, 2021 Posted November 3, 2021 I think she is trying to tease or hurt you. If you haven't already blocked her, it's time to do so. 1
Author RyanM Posted January 4, 2022 Author Posted January 4, 2022 On 11/2/2021 at 10:56 PM, basil67 said: I think she is trying to tease or hurt you. If you haven't already blocked her, it's time to do so. I have a feeling I am a backup guy for some reason.
basil67 Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 You're writing in the present tense. This leads me to believe you're still in contact with her. Thing is, you can only be a backup guy with your permission. If you block her, you will no longer be a backup guy 2
spiderowl Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 Well, where do I start? She is attention seeking and crazy. She is crazy not in a good way. This woman is a sociopath who likes attention and will do anything to get it. It does not mean she likes you or likes Steve; it means she will mess people about endlessly. I will say this only once: you would be crazy to get involved with this woman. She will end up in jail before too long and you will end up falling at her feet in despair. Feel sorry for Steve if he has her in his home. I would throw her out and get an alarm system!
Wiseman2 Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 On 11/2/2021 at 8:06 PM, RyanM said: Steve posted a pic with her. You dodged a bullet. Now she's Steve's headache. This frees you to pursue women who don't play silly games like that.
smackie9 Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 Dude block her and don't look at her SM. Just move on, you have no purpose or benefit lurking or even talking to her.
Author RyanM Posted March 4, 2022 Author Posted March 4, 2022 She is calling again to tell me she is not ready to date me yet. Why would she waste my time calling me if she is "not ready"?
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