Aquarius man Pisces woman Break up

[jgreen1990]

Hi am an Aquarius man who was dating a Pisces woman for 4 months. We started dating in May and she broke up with me in August.  We originally match on Bumble in Jul of 2020 messaged for about month and had one phone call in which afterward as few day (after planning a FaceTime ) she halted things say "I am a great guy but I'm not just in the right mindset". I moved on and dated other people but I still kept here on my mind because of the energy I felt even though we never physically met of say each other. At the begging of the year in Jan I reached out to he social media after she liked one of my videos. She was still in hermit mode but we finally went out in May. All seemed well as the break up came out of no where. Her reason when we spoke on phone was it was her and that she need to do some soul searching basically. I texted here right after the phone call as I was still in shock. She mentioned us not having that much in common and felt that we would not have could not have enough to talk about. She also mentioned that I did nothing wrong and she still believes that I am great guy. 2 weeks after the break up I spoke with as I was still upset hoping to get some feelings out. 2 weeks after that I send her a letter hoping to get her back. She took a few day to respond as it was a lengthy letter but it ended with her saying this would be the last message she would send me and that I should respect her decision and boundaries. I really fell in love with this woman over the time we spent together. Is there a chance I can reach out to her in the future after giving here some more time to potentially win here back ?

[mark clemson]

Don't waste too much time/emotional energy chasing someone who's "not that into you". I know that's easier said than done sometimes if you've grown emotionally attached, but there's really nothing for it. You can't make another person love you back, and she's very clearly indicated that she's not interested anymore.

I understand and respect that this can really suck, but it is what it is. The best course is probably to take some time to heal up emotionally from this, which IMO includes continue doing the things you enjoy (including socializing with friends as much as is reasonably/safely possible these days), and then eventually finding someone new.

[glows]

3 hours ago, jgreen1990 said:

She took a few day to respond as it was a lengthy letter but it ended with her saying this would be the last message she would send me and that I should respect her decision and boundaries. I really fell in love with this woman over the time we spent together. Is there a chance I can reach out to her in the future after giving here some more time to potentially win here back ?

If she specifically said that (the above in bold) she's identified that you are, sadly, not respecting her decision or her boundaries. Trying to contact her again and reach out is again not respecting her decision or boundaries. Tread carefully. Heal and move on. Do not contact her again.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry this happened. Unfortunately she's using the "it's me not you", explanation, but it just boils down to a loss of interest.

Try not to take it personally. You don't know if she's on/off with someone, stressed, whatever.

This time, block and delete her from all your social media and messaging apps.

Don't go back and forth. Start fresh with new women.

Edited September 28, 2021 by Wiseman2

[Blind-Sided]

She gave you a chance, and she is not interested.  She has also warned you about boundaries.  This can quickly turn into a legal (restraining order) situation.  AND... I can kind of see this from her side.  You talked randomly, and went out once.... but are obsessing with her. Reading your post is giving me a stalked vibe, and that's probably what she is feeling too.

I'm sorry it didn't work out... but it's time to drop it, and move on.