do these teasing and bantering responses show interest or disinterest?

[HopelessNick]

THE ENDING:

I set her nickname as Sass Queen a while back. Tonight I changed it to loser. Then she said "Oh, I liked sass queen"
Then I said "I can change it back if you let me take you out to coffee"
Then she read the message and didn't respond for 10 mins. She then just changed her nickname back to sass queen without say anything.
I said "Cool! That's a coffee date for sure! I'll be in touch about it soon" and changed her nickname back to loser.
Then she said "you denoted me again"
I said " Um, that wasn't the deal we had". She saw it and didn't respond.
I think she went to bed after that. So she'll see the following when she wakes up.
I said "I'm just toyin with ya! I'll change it back to Sass for ya! (changed her nickname back to Sass Queen)
And I said Coffee date offers still stands though! And you can say no I don't bite ... 99% of the time anyway

Done and dusted!

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, HopelessNick said:

I said "I'm just toyin with ya! I'll change it back to Sass for ya! (changed her nickname back to Sass Queen)
And I said Coffee date offers still stands though!

So she never actually agreed to a coffee meet or day, time, place?

[DividedTrail]

Oh man. I’m sorry dude. Sounds like she just liked the banter. At least you know and can move on. You took the shot, I’m proud of you  

Don’t keep pestering her for a coffee meetup. You mentioned it what, three times? I would drop it unless she brings it up and go back to your goofy self with her if you’re cool with just being friends. 

Edited October 1, 2021 by DividedTrail

[HopelessNick]

Sorry guys. Here's the actually version. I was sleepy and deflated when I first wrote it.

I set her nickname as Sass Queen a while back. Tonight I changed it to loser because she answered a quiz question wrong. Then she said "I liked sass queen. So you thought you would knock me down a few pegs because I got the answer wrong?
I said "I don't think few is the right word, but I can let it slide and change your nickname back if you let me take you out to coffee"
Then she read the message and didn't respond for 10 mins. Then she said "More than a few." then just changed her nickname back to sass queen.
I said "Cool! That's a coffee date for sure! I'll be in touch about it soon" and changed her nickname back to loser.
Then she said "you denoted me again"
I said " Um, that wasn't the deal we had". She saw it and didn't respond.
I think she went to bed after that.

So she'll see the following when she wakes up.
I said "I'm just toyin with ya! I'll change it back to Sass for ya! (changed her nickname back to Sass Queen)
And I said "Coffee date offers still stands though! And you can say no I don't bite ... 99% of the time anyway"
.

[DividedTrail]

I don’t know how this is all going to play out with this girl but take some lessons from it. 

I’m not saying change who you are and women do like to laugh but you need to temper your interactions and show some sensitivity and masculinity as well. Don’t be zany all the time. Even with buddies I BS with, it’s not 24/7 poking and making fun. It gets annoying.

Also, if you are interested in dating somebody, ask her out sooner than later. Assuming you are both free and clear, there is really no benefit to waiting other than to feed fear and insecurity. 

[glows]

Hopefully she agrees to a coffee date. She seems mildly interested. 

 

[DividedTrail]

So did she respond?

[HopelessNick]

On 10/3/2021 at 4:22 AM, DividedTrail said:

So did she respond?

She said "as in a friendly chat?"

I said "Alrighty then! We will catch up as mates in a couple of months after lockdown. Look forward to it buddy!"

She said "Buddy? "

I said "Yeah, it's just a term I like to use sometimes" and she said "Okay".

Since then, we've chatted like normal and like it never happened. The only difference is that I completely stopped with the bantering and teasing. I have used humour, but it is completely neutral. Also, she initiates most of the conversations now.

I've actually come to the realisation that we don't know much about each other because we only talk about fun topics if that makes sense. My plan is to somehow get to know her better and then go out on that friendly catch up. Kind of go under the radar haha.

If something happens, cool. If nothing happens, maybe I can meet some of her friends. Always good to network.

Edited October 6, 2021 by HopelessNick

[DividedTrail]

Thanks for the update. Sounds like you have a plan. Genuinely be her friend, enjoy some laughs, hang out when you are able and who knows what may come.  And maybe you will meet someone by increasing your social circle.