do these teasing and bantering responses show interest or disinterest?

[HopelessNick]

I tease and banter with this girl over text. She responds with things like:

"oh wow",

"yeah yeah",

"No need to be rude ",

"Oh come on, no need to be THAT savage"

"Oh piss off I actually didn’t take your lead"

"Don’t flatter yourself."

"Go use your energy for something useful "

 "I beg your f*^king pardon" (that was the only time she's ever swore and she apologised immediately haha).

After those responses she continues with the conversation.

Are those responses a good sign or not or neither?

[ExpatInItaly]

Nick, if these are all from the same girl in your last thread a couple days ago, it would be best to ask mods to merge your threads for context. 

[elaine567]

Ask her out ON A DATE, if she says no she sees you as the jokey, bantery friend. or as someone who is rude, takes things too far and is not dating material.
If she says yes then she probably likes you...that is not to say she will put up with your nonsense.
 For God's sake tone it down...
Women are nothing if not polite, seems like you likely take things too far if she is answering you the way you have documented.

[HopelessNick]

23 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Nick, if these are all from the same girl in your last thread a couple days ago, it would be best to ask mods to merge your threads for context. 

I just thought this would be a good separate topic. Just on teasing responses

[ExpatInItaly]

2 minutes ago, HopelessNick said:

I just thought this would be a good separate topic. Just on teasing responses

But these are really no different from the previous ones. 

You are not going to get a clear indication of interest until you ask to speak to her one-on-one. 

[smackie9]

Confident guys don't question it...if they like someone they simply ask them out on a date. Signals or not, you don't need them to ask someone out.

[balletomane]

Nick, you are in danger of making exactly the same mistakes as you did with the last coworker you liked.

Instead of asking her out, you pestered her with childish pranks that you thought of as "teasing" and that she was evidently annoyed by, and with each prank you would come here to ask, "She said XYZ about me - what does it mean?"

Do you want a date with this woman, or do you want to keep making your "teasing" comments and analysing her reactions on LS? If the former, you should take the advice you've been given many many times in the past and not spoil it for yourself by acting like a 12-year-old boy.

[DividedTrail]

NICK! I’m virtually smacking you upside the head lol

I responded to your other thread so I won’t rehash it here. 

You guys message all the time, so when there is a pause in the banter, ASK HER OUT. Say something like, hey, so lockdown is ending in a couple weeks and I’d like to take you out on a date to wherever.

BAM. Done. Then you will know if she is interested in you romantically or as a friend. 

As you mentioned in another thread, lockdown is ending soon where you are. Even if she isn’t interested in a date, I would imagine a lot of young people are ready to go out and have fun after being locked inside for so long. You can choose to be apart of that and probably land some dates, or you can pine away and wonder about every little thing people say. 

 

 

[Nothanks]

That isn’t a sign of anything.  It is just conversation. You know what is a sign?  Her response to the question “would you like to go out with me?”  

[HopelessNick]

I wanted to add a bit of sexual innuendo to see how she would react before I ask her out. This was the result. Can you read anything into this? (She responded in a timely manner).

ME: what are you gonna do to celebrate your success?
Her: Nothing
ME: Don't believe you! I'm sure you've already got 99 male strippers lined up for a big one tonight already!
Her: That’s not COVID safe.
Her: Don’t want to create a hotspot.
Me: Is that what they call it these days
Her: ha ha
Her: I’m not that type of gal
Me: OH! I GET YOU NOW! It's actually 98 female strippers. I see how it is.
Her: Lol
Her: Very funny
Her: Also incorrect
Me: Ok it's crystal clear now. It's actually 97 female strippers
Her: I’m straight Einstein (that's one of my nicknames)
Me: Alright. I was slightly off the mark, it was 97 male strippers. I know exactly how it is, you've been busted!
Me: Don't worry though, won't tell anyone. Your secret's safe with me!
Her:

This is flirting right?

 

 

[Andy_K]

You might want to only use the same joke once or twice instead of four times, but otherwise yes.

[HopelessNick]

Did  she flirt back?

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, HopelessNick said:

Her:

This is flirting right?

Actually, this tells you she thinks you're annoying. Scale back on the frat humor before she blocks you.

[Nothanks]

That was painful to read. You were milking that joke and it was not that funny.  Plus there was no innuendo.  Sexual innuendo has to refer to you in some way (not 97 strippers). All you did was pester her about being the kind of person who wants to see men (or women) naked. In fact it was creepy.  Just stop.  You are making it worse.

[DividedTrail]

I know you want opinions on what your back and forth means and you have received some replies. Here is my take on how that exchange could have gone:

YOU: what are you gonna do to celebrate your success?
Her: Nothing 

YOU: Seriously? That is an awesome accomplishment. How about when lockdown ends, I take you out to dinner to celebrate?

ETA: Here is what you could do to salvage it:

YOU: So I was thinking about how you don't plan to celebrate your accomplishment. How about when lockdown ends, I take you out to dinner/drinks/coffee/whatever to celebrate?

Edited September 28, 2021 by DividedTrail

[HopelessNick]

I feel like she could have handled the situation differently if she wasn't interested? Like change the subject? Not respond in quickly, not say "I'm straight Einstein "  Like there's no resistance.

Also we had a group zoom again a couple of hours ago and she had a big smile whenever I was talking.

Edited September 28, 2021 by HopelessNick

[DividedTrail]

I'm starting to see how you decided on your username  

The fact she responded and didn't just stop replying quickly doesn't mean she wasn't annoyed. It could mean she has some stored up 'like' for you and she let it slide. Or she could be into it, bored, high, who knows...

[HopelessNick]

It's dumb though. Like, if you don't want to talk about, just end the convo. Give a one word answer instead of multiple messages in a row. Don't play along if you don't want to. 

Edited September 29, 2021 by HopelessNick

[DividedTrail]

This might be my last post on this one because I'm about out of things to say. Can you answer two questions, please?

Why not just ask her out, tonight, right now?

What are you afraid of?

[HopelessNick]

1 hour ago, DividedTrail said:

YOU: what are you gonna do to celebrate your success?
Her: Nothing 

YOU: Seriously? That is an awesome accomplishment. How about when lockdown ends, I take you out to dinner to celebrate?

Also, it wasn't a big success haha. There's a show where you have to guess which singer is behind the mask. She got one right at the end haha. I was teasing her throughout cause I guessed so many and she kept saying I had a big ego haha

[DividedTrail]

3 minutes ago, HopelessNick said:

Also, it wasn't a big success haha. There's a show where you have to guess which singer is behind the mask. She got one right at the end haha. I was teasing her throughout cause I guessed so many and she kept saying I had a big ego haha

I can't stay away. You're a trip. OK so it was more banter. Do you guys ever talk about anything more serious?

Also, you could have still worked in taking her out to celebrate her big win. In a joking but not joking way.

[HopelessNick]

Just now, DividedTrail said:

I can't stay away. You're a trip. OK so it was more banter. Do you guys ever talk about anything more serious?

Also, you could have still worked in taking her out to celebrate her big win. In a joking but not joking way.

Not really. Mostly fun and games haha.

[Nothanks]

You are analyzing her actions to death. You are reading into a smile and her one word answers.  Good lord.  I think you should put the devices down and go for a walk.  Get some perspective.  Then either ask her out or send her more stripper texts.  Either way, it will come to a quick conclusion.

[lana-banana]

She's not flirting with you. Move on.

[Snow_Queen]

It doesn’t sound like this is going anywhere. You may want to consider this a no go and move forward. Neither of you sound particularly interested in the other. Much of online dating is either the bored or lonely looking for the “friend of the day/hour/week”.