Author LittlePickle Posted October 1, 2021 Author Posted October 1, 2021 I will update you all after 2 2
princessaurora Posted October 1, 2021 Posted October 1, 2021 Have a great time LP! Don't overthink . Just let things flow
Noproblem Posted October 2, 2021 Posted October 2, 2021 10 hours ago, d0nnivain said: Glad you are excited but calm down. I can't believe you are getting your hair done for an at home dinner. You claim you won't sleep with & you will maintain your professional relationship. Your actions indicate otherwise. The head space you are in scares me for you. Please reign in your expectations so you don't get hurt. Wearing your heart on your sleeve is a good way to get it broken You still have to work with this guy. one in million comment makes me real worried!
Author LittlePickle Posted October 2, 2021 Author Posted October 2, 2021 Hey everyone! Last night went fantastic! He come round, with flowers, wine and a bottle of champagne (not prosecco but actual champagne, I've never had it!). Offered to help me cook, I declined, we talked about me, him and us, We are OFFICIALLY going out, I found out why he didn't ask me earlier, He had cancer and was waiting for his last course of treatment to finish and clear before he kissed me. We didn't have sex as in his words I'm "worth more than sex on the first date, and that he could never get bored of <me>" (I told him what my ex had said). There was a lot of kissing and I wanted to go further, I felt as a progression but we stopped and cuddled up. watched a film, well made out for most of it! We had dessert and I got some down my dress, He helped me undo the zip and said I need to stop mega teasing him I said I was teasing myself. I was in my pjs for a bit of the date, and he said he was heading home, because he has a hospital appointment this morning, I said I would come, he smiled and said I didn't have to, as they were doing some procedure with his skin, because of the cancer. I was getting a bit upset. My boiler had stopped working. (My landlord is useless and will not send anyone for months). My boyfriend was annoyed, had a quick look himself and he said he would get his gas friend to come and fix his boiler. I said I couldn't afford it and will wait for the landlord. He insisted and 9am this morning his friend was here fixing my boiler! I was thinking of going to the hospital to give him support. 2
Author LittlePickle Posted October 2, 2021 Author Posted October 2, 2021 7 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Excellent . He's a keeper. He is! I think I'm going to get to the hospital and meet up with him for his appointment and just hold his hand or wait around, for him. I won't go in with him
DividedTrail Posted October 2, 2021 Posted October 2, 2021 That’s so awesome. Just think, a week ago you were trying to work up the nerve to ask him out! I’m not sure I would surprise him at the hospital, if that’s what you meant. But either way, I’m sure it will be fine. You’re instincts have been pretty good so far.
Author LittlePickle Posted October 2, 2021 Author Posted October 2, 2021 1 hour ago, DividedTrail said: That’s so awesome. Just think, a week ago you were trying to work up the nerve to ask him out! I’m not sure I would surprise him at the hospital, if that’s what you meant. But either way, I’m sure it will be fine. You’re instincts have been pretty good so far. I met him for coffee afterwards. 3
stillafool Posted October 2, 2021 Posted October 2, 2021 6 hours ago, LittlePickle said: My boiler had stopped working. So did you make the rump roast for dinner?
Author LittlePickle Posted October 2, 2021 Author Posted October 2, 2021 14 minutes ago, stillafool said: So did you make the rump roast for dinner? Yeah, did the steak still as gas was still working, just heating/hot water wasn't 1
Author LittlePickle Posted October 2, 2021 Author Posted October 2, 2021 He asked me if I wanted a take away at his and I'm on my way there, he said I can sleep in his bed and he will sleep on sofa
Author LittlePickle Posted October 3, 2021 Author Posted October 3, 2021 I stayed over at his last night. He was so respectful to me. He didn't try and boundary push. This morning I get breakfast in bed. I just worry He will go off me very quickly.
Wiseman2 Posted October 3, 2021 Posted October 3, 2021 17 minutes ago, LittlePickle said: I stayed over at his last night. He was so respectful to me. He didn't try and boundary push. This morning I get breakfast in bed. He seems like a good guy. Is he in remission? How often does he have to follow up with the hospital regarding his cancer? You both seem like caring lovely people. Best wishes going forward and enjoying your relationship. 1
Author LittlePickle Posted October 3, 2021 Author Posted October 3, 2021 Cancer wise he has finished his last course of chemo, He waited until he had finished and it had cleared before kissing me, which I thought was mega sweet and thoughtful. He is at the hospital in 2 weeks, He has to have an operation with his skin on his scars? Skin graft? From what he said his treatment hasn't been easy. He has been on his own throughout lockdown here in the UK. When he had his operation I asked who was there to support him. He said no one. He messaged the guys at work and they visited when they could, (He is a manager he is the same level as my boss but on different reporting trees). I feel really bad he has gone through this alone
princessaurora Posted October 3, 2021 Posted October 3, 2021 3 hours ago, LittlePickle said: I just worry He will go off me very quickly. Glad everything is going well. See, you were nervous for nothing! And it is sad he went through his health crisis alone, but he has you now. Do pace yourself, though. The quickest way to ruin a new relationship is to spend too much time together. That's usually what causes things to become dull really quick. You need to have time in between to miss each other and anticipate getting together again. You do not want to fall into a routine this early. Don't start dropping plans with others to see him. Maintain your own life. Yay! I'm happy ya'll found each other. He really does sound like a great guy. Consider yourself a lucky girl because there really are so few of them in the modern world 1
Author LittlePickle Posted October 3, 2021 Author Posted October 3, 2021 58 minutes ago, princessaurora said: Glad everything is going well. See, you were nervous for nothing! And it is sad he went through his health crisis alone, but he has you now. Do pace yourself, though. The quickest way to ruin a new relationship is to spend too much time together. That's usually what causes things to become dull really quick. You need to have time in between to miss each other and anticipate getting together again. You do not want to fall into a routine this early. Don't start dropping plans with others to see him. Maintain your own life. Yay! I'm happy ya'll found each other. He really does sound like a great guy. Consider yourself a lucky girl because there really are so few of them in the modern world I won't, he is between our sites next week so will be a stolen moment here and there (coffee maybe lunch as normal). I've got some thing planned for next week don't worry 1
Author LittlePickle Posted October 3, 2021 Author Posted October 3, 2021 Just had a phone call from my parents, my gran has passed away and I need get home, Boyfriends booked me a ticket to get home (Other side of the country) and he has given me his credit card. |Feeling a bit empty 1
Author LittlePickle Posted October 4, 2021 Author Posted October 4, 2021 I'm in trouble at work for going back home to work. My boyfriend said he would sort it. But I feel so rubbish about having to rely on him
Agentra Posted October 4, 2021 Posted October 4, 2021 I'm sorry to hear about what's happened but to clarify - you just started dating and you already have his credit card and he's sorting out your problems at work?
Sun Seeker Posted October 4, 2021 Posted October 4, 2021 19 hours ago, LittlePickle said: Just had a phone call from my parents, my gran has passed away and I need get home, Boyfriends booked me a ticket to get home (Other side of the country) and he has given me his credit card. |Feeling a bit empty Given you his credit card? Just what? Why? So weird. 1 1
DividedTrail Posted October 4, 2021 Posted October 4, 2021 I’ve been following and rooting for the OP and her budding love story. I’m sorry for the loss of your gran but letting him pay for your plane ticket, him giving you his credit card and now he is doing battle for you at work… This all seems like a bit much. I could maybe see him wanting to help you out with some money if you are short in an emergency. But you should be able to talk to your boss and sort out your own issues at work without involving him. I’m struggled to wrap my head around that… Even if he offers things, it doesn’t mean you have to accept. 2
princessaurora Posted October 4, 2021 Posted October 4, 2021 (edited) I'm not understanding why your boss would have an issue with you going home to attend your grandmother's funeral. Why didn't you call him/ her and let them know? If you haven't done so already, make that call on your own. I also understand you're short on cash, but I wouldn't use his credit card. Don't take advantage of his kindness. People who are going through a life changing health crisis sometimes act impulsively. But it's up to those who care for them to keep them grounded. Edited October 4, 2021 by princessaurora missed words
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