Author LittlePickle Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 I am feeling a bit unwell today (ill be fine for Friday!) so working from bed. I have spoken to him and he has sent me breakfast and said he'd send me lunch and pop in after work. He is being so nice to me.
Wiseman2 Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 1 hour ago, LittlePickle said: I am feeling a bit unwell today (ill be fine for Friday!) so working from bed. I have spoken to him and he has sent me breakfast and said he'd send me lunch and pop in after work. He is being so nice to me. He views you as GF material and therefore is playing the long game not just doing whatever to hookup. Don't worry about anything. You'll be fine. Your evening will go well, so disregard the past and naysayers. He's been consistently decent, so why would that change? 3
Author LittlePickle Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 I don't know why it would change. He come round with lunch and made sure I had everything I needed. He was so thoughtful. 1
Author LittlePickle Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 So I have got the shops and the butchers The Butcher recommended a good rump, told me to put some salt on when cooking, A few chips and veggies. Starter I am doing breaded mozzarella and desert is chocolate moose. He is arranging the wine and he has said I will have bubbles. I'm hoping he hasn't gone over the top. What do you guys think? Also, been advised by a friend to "dress appropriately" in case my dress falls off. 1
glows Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 Dress comfortably and enjoy the date. I agree he likes you and you like him so there's nothing to worry about here. You're nervous but that's to be expected. Drink in moderation. 1
DividedTrail Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 Sounds awesome! Your guy will feel special. I mean, the way you two have been carrying on, I think he would be fine with pizza on paper plates I would be more worried about going overboard if you two didn’t know each other. You have been hanging out and talking for awhile, now up to holding hands and kissing. He has done things to help and take care of you. So it’s not like he’s just sitting around and you have done all the work if that makes sense. Oh and your friend sounds like a trip. That made me laugh about your dress. But seriously, as far as your dress falling off, only you can decide if and when it’s right. And honestly, you probably won’t know until it happens. I would defer to the ladies on that one.
Noproblem Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 (edited) 10 hours ago, LittlePickle said: I am feeling a bit unwell today (ill be fine for Friday!) so working from bed. I have spoken to him and he has sent me breakfast and said he'd send me lunch and pop in after work. He is being so nice to me. You how much I am nice to people? You won't believe how I do stuff for girls and guys that mean nothing to me, just to help them out and so they won't struggle or have hardship! Just out of care not love or anything! The length I would do for strangers I just barely knew in school or outside of school. Is he a Virgo/libra or Sagittarius? Like I don't think just because he is nice and friendly to you, he loves you I do the same with males and females, and I have nothing but slight feeling of friendship toward them or kinship! Don't get your hopes high up based on niceness alone! Edited September 29, 2021 by Noproblem
Author LittlePickle Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 5 minutes ago, Noproblem said: You how much I am nice to people? You won't believe how I do stuff for girls and guys that mean nothing to me, just to help them out and so they won't struggle or have hardship! Just out of care not love or anything! The length I would do for strangers I just barely knew in school or outside of school. Is he a Virgo/libra or Sagittarius? Like I don't think just because he is nice and friendly to you, he loves you I do the same with males and females, and I have nothing but slight feeling of friendship toward them or kinship! Don't get your hopes high up based on niceness alone! He isn't any of those star signs, Would you make out with Strangers if you were just helping them?
Noproblem Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, LittlePickle said: He isn't any of those star signs, Would you make out with Strangers if you were just helping them? no, surely not. I missed reading about this part. Ok, then in that case, he definitely likes you more than a friend and I would say go for it! But anyway, I am curious why the first date is in your house? Why not outside in public?? Why do you have to cook and do extra efforts on the first date instead of going to a nice place while you both get to enjoy the place and don't have to worry about a thing? First date In your apartment just means sex. which is great but what if that is all he wants!? Edited September 29, 2021 by Noproblem 1
Noproblem Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 (edited) On 9/28/2021 at 3:56 PM, LittlePickle said: Ex "boyfriend" said nasty things and said I'm not very good in bed, that any lad once they've had me once won't be back whatever he said was wrong. you and ex boyfriend weren't a match sexually or he simply wanted to hurt you .. Don't let his words ruin future relationships for you.. Edited September 29, 2021 by Noproblem
Author LittlePickle Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 (edited) 29 minutes ago, Noproblem said: no, surely not. I missed reading about this part. Ok, then in that case, he definitely likes you more than a friend and I would say go for it! But anyway, I am curious why the first date is in your house? Why not outside in public?? Why do you have to cook and do extra efforts on the first date instead of going to a nice place while you both get to enjoy the place and don't have to worry about a thing? First date In your apartment just means sex. which is great but what if that is all he wants!? I just want to do something extra nice for him. We are also going to watch a film on the tv too. I'm also ashamed to admit the financial side doesn't help things neither Edited September 29, 2021 by LittlePickle 1
Happy Lemming Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 46 minutes ago, LittlePickle said: I just want to do something extra nice for him. We are also going to watch a film on the tv too. I'm also ashamed to admit the financial side doesn't help things neither Don't worry about it... He will enjoy spending time with you. I remember (many years ago), I invited a woman over to my home. I was financially strained that month, so I cooked a nice dinner and we watched "Bio-Dome". It was a rental on VHS tape. OMG!! What a stinker of a movie, but she didn't hold it against me. She knew I tried. 1
princessaurora Posted September 30, 2021 Posted September 30, 2021 It's all about the company not the environment. The first time me and my husband hung out together was at his parents house in his bedroom. My dress didn't fall off but he did lick my thigh. I think the home date will be perfect. Covid is still out there so the less contact with large groups of people, the better.
Author LittlePickle Posted September 30, 2021 Author Posted September 30, 2021 3 hours ago, princessaurora said: It's all about the company not the environment. The first time me and my husband hung out together was at his parents house in his bedroom. My dress didn't fall off but he did lick my thigh. I think the home date will be perfect. Covid is still out there so the less contact with large groups of people, the better. Thank you. I wish I could have took him somewhere. I hope we have fun tomorrow. I'm really nervous now. I just want it to be perfect 2
Author LittlePickle Posted September 30, 2021 Author Posted September 30, 2021 I'm thinking of cancelling tomorrow the more I think about it the more I worry and I look at myself and think he deserves better and someone who is much more prettier and has a better personality. Plus where I live students are moving back and Friday will be so loud. I'm having second thoughts:(
d0nnivain Posted September 30, 2021 Posted September 30, 2021 Good heavens. Don't flake this late in. The guy was nice enough to help you when you were sick. Your insecurities are a bad reason to bail. He LIKES you. Leave it alone. Who cares about the students / loudness. You can always go for a walk after dinner. That may be your best bet to get sex off his mind. You work with this man. If you flake on him now it will ruin your work reputation. Instead of a a confident professional he will see you as a silly child. You can't risk that Have dinner. 2
glows Posted September 30, 2021 Posted September 30, 2021 8 hours ago, LittlePickle said: I'm really nervous now. I just want it to be perfect 11 minutes ago, LittlePickle said: I'm thinking of cancelling tomorrow the more I think about it the more I worry and I look at myself and think he deserves better and someone who is much more prettier and has a better personality. Of course you shouldn't do anything you're not comfortable with but be careful with treating others carelessly or thoughtlessly. Don't worry about perfection. There's perfection in imperfection and enjoying the moment with someone. Shift all that nervous energy to having fun and less on perfection. 1
DividedTrail Posted September 30, 2021 Posted September 30, 2021 Don’t make yourself sick over it but don’t cancel. It sounds like he likes you and is probably looking forward to it. If you cancel, he will probably be wondering if he did something wrong. And it’s not your job to decide for him if you are good enough to date. That is his job to understand how he feels about you. And it’s your job to decide how you feel towards him. Breath. At the end of the day, it’s just dinner. 1
Author LittlePickle Posted September 30, 2021 Author Posted September 30, 2021 Sorry, I got thinking and felt I wasn't good enough for him. I've been thinking about tomorrow that something will go wrong with what I make, he might not like it, He might not like me after spending time with me. I would love to have sex with him but my mind tells me what my ex said is true. I rang the guy I am seeing tomorrow and he told me that if I made a frozen pizza and was just dressed in my comfies. He also said he wouldn't be bored of me like I think 1
glows Posted September 30, 2021 Posted September 30, 2021 1 minute ago, LittlePickle said: Sorry, I got thinking and felt I wasn't good enough for him. I've been thinking about tomorrow that something will go wrong with what I make, he might not like it, He might not like me after spending time with me. I would love to have sex with him but my mind tells me what my ex said is true. I rang the guy I am seeing tomorrow and he told me that if I made a frozen pizza and was just dressed in my comfies. He also said he wouldn't be bored of me like I think That's sweet of him to say. Start early with the recipe if you're feeling a bit jittery or forget the cookery and order in. You've built this up a bit too much in your mind. You can still be sexy wearing a comfortable dress. Relax and have fun. Put on some music while you're getting ready.
princessaurora Posted September 30, 2021 Posted September 30, 2021 1 hour ago, LittlePickle said: I'm thinking of cancelling tomorrow the more I think about it the more I worry and I look at myself and think he deserves better and someone who is much more prettier and has a better personality. Plus where I live students are moving back and Friday will be so loud. I'm having second thoughts:( Stop this negativity. Who put all these thoughts in your head, that jealous colleague? Let me tell you about girls like her because one of my bffs is that way. Guess what, she's 47 never been married and gets pumped and dumped constantly. No man will stay with her. He likes you, he's obviously attracted to you. Look how fast he jumped as soon as you offered to make him dinner at your house. The next thing you know he's taking you out to lunch and telling other people that he's seeing someone. Dont let your fear overtake you. Think of how he will feel if you cancel. Just chill, dress pretty, and enjoy the company of a man who has made his interest known. Believe me, these days a good man is a dime a dozen and you've got one who has shown he genuinely cares. Do you really want to toss him aside? Like @d0nnivain said, take a walk after dinner and just relax. You got this, girl.
Author LittlePickle Posted September 30, 2021 Author Posted September 30, 2021 12 minutes ago, princessaurora said: Stop this negativity. Who put all these thoughts in your head, that jealous colleague? Let me tell you about girls like her because one of my bffs is that way. Guess what, she's 47 never been married and gets pumped and dumped constantly. No man will stay with her. He likes you, he's obviously attracted to you. Look how fast he jumped as soon as you offered to make him dinner at your house. The next thing you know he's taking you out to lunch and telling other people that he's seeing someone. Dont let your fear overtake you. Think of how he will feel if you cancel. Just chill, dress pretty, and enjoy the company of a man who has made his interest known. Believe me, these days a good man is a dime a dozen and you've got one who has shown he genuinely cares. Do you really want to toss him aside? Like @d0nnivain said, take a walk after dinner and just relax. You got this, girl. I know he is, He is one in a million, he has always took me for lunch or me him, we've always had a breakfast coffee. He does come save me from spiders too, fixes things for me and looks after me. He does a lot for me. He did also promise that he would be seeing me tomorrow whatever happens at work or outside it and the only thing stopping him would be the earth ending.
Author LittlePickle Posted October 1, 2021 Author Posted October 1, 2021 I am so excited for tonight now. I cannot wait. I finish at lunch so I can get my hair done and prepare! 3
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2021 Posted October 1, 2021 (edited) Glad you are excited but calm down. I can't believe you are getting your hair done for an at home dinner. You claim you won't sleep with & you will maintain your professional relationship. Your actions indicate otherwise. The head space you are in scares me for you. Please reign in your expectations so you don't get hurt. Wearing your heart on your sleeve is a good way to get it broken You still have to work with this guy. Edited October 1, 2021 by d0nnivain 1
Author LittlePickle Posted October 1, 2021 Author Posted October 1, 2021 36 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Glad you are excited but calm down. I can't believe you are getting your hair done for an at home dinner. You claim you won't sleep with & you will maintain your professional relationship. Your actions indicate otherwise. The head space you are in scares me for you. Please reign in your expectations so you don't get hurt. Wearing your heart on your sleeve is a good way to get it broken You still have to work with this guy. I've not had my hair done for 2 months. So I was having it done regardless.
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