Author LittlePickle Posted September 27, 2021 Author Posted September 27, 2021 Lunch was really good today, even though when I saw him this morning he was happy to see me. On our way to lunch I went to hold his hand and he didn't pull away. Feeling a bit more confident for friday now. 2
DividedTrail Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 Awesome update. You two sound sweet together.
Author LittlePickle Posted September 27, 2021 Author Posted September 27, 2021 Thank you. I've started cleaning my apartment ready for friday! 1
Author LittlePickle Posted September 27, 2021 Author Posted September 27, 2021 Sorry I've been looking at different cuts of steak: Fillet, Rump, new york strip, tomahawk. What would you recommend? Has to be beef,
princessaurora Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 9 hours ago, LittlePickle said: On our way to lunch I went to hold his hand and he didn't pull away. I love that you took initiative and made a subtle but bold move. You go, girl! 6 hours ago, LittlePickle said: Sorry I've been looking at different cuts of steak: Fillet, Rump, new york strip, tomahawk. What would you recommend? Has to be beef, In my experience, most men prefer NY strip or ribeye.
Alpacalia Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 Nice! Condoms, steak, a clean apartment (hopefully no more spiders) I think you're good to go... Maybe a porterhouse or T-bone, rare bloody beef.
dramafreezone Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 (edited) On 9/25/2021 at 6:29 AM, LittlePickle said: I am 28F based in the UK and never really had a steady relationship. Decided to concentrate on work, and the lads that were asking me out were only interested in one thing and they usually take me out for dinner (If you can call Nando's or KFC that!) and expect more. I turn then down, It has knocked my confidence. I started a new job working for a travel company based in recruitment, I got talking to an IT guy there and we talk alot through the instant messenger we have, When he is on my floor we always speak and he brings me coffee and in the morning we are both in the office I bring him a coffee and a cake. We have been out to lunch loads of times together I have a few times rang him up when my flat has had issues, like the electrics cut out or there was a massive spider and he has come. I feel so happy round him and really enjoy his company. I really want to take this further with him, but I don't know what signs to look for and I really want to meet him tomorrow (sunday) afternoon for coffee but scared he will say no Help me! I'm glad you went for it. I understand the dangers of dating at the workplace but a large percentage of couples meet at work or school. Edited September 28, 2021 by dramafreezone
Author LittlePickle Posted September 28, 2021 Author Posted September 28, 2021 I had a bit of a melt down today and I worry he might be mad at me, My colleague asked him out he said no, he is seeing someone and I asked him, I think I may have been a bit nasty, He said he was seeing me. Although my modem had an issue, I rang him and he come and fixed it. Then we kissed. Should I text him apologising for potentially being nasty to him?
glows Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 17 minutes ago, LittlePickle said: I had a bit of a melt down today and I worry he might be mad at me, My colleague asked him out he said no, he is seeing someone and I asked him, I think I may have been a bit nasty, He said he was seeing me. Although my modem had an issue, I rang him and he come and fixed it. Then we kissed. Should I text him apologising for potentially being nasty to him? It depends on what you said earlier to him. How did you find out about the other colleague? I would be wary about coworkers stirring the pot and causing issues for you at work. As for him, I wouldn't text about something like this. If you're seeing each other after work, apologize in person. Were you feeling jealous or upset that another woman was interested in him? I'd sort out those personal issues or feelings first before speaking or saying anything further. 2
Author LittlePickle Posted September 28, 2021 Author Posted September 28, 2021 I just really like him, I have strong feelings for him
princessaurora Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 Two women vying for his affection at the same workplace? He must be a hot toddy! Does your colleague know ya'll went to lunch together and have a date set for Fri. If so she may have vindictive intentions and that could get real ugly. As for how you reacted when you found out he said he's seeing someone before realizing he was referring to you, I think is a pretty normal female reaction. It probably made you wonder if you were about to become the other woman or if he didn't understand Friday is a date. At least that's where my thoughts would go. It's adorable though he was referring to you and y'all kissed! I think he really likes you. If you feel you were nasty, apologize in person like @glows said. But do it in a very gentle way and maybe even joke about it. Guys hate drama so please don't bring any to the table. 2
Wiseman2 Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 2 hours ago, LittlePickle said: I rang him and he come and fixed it. Then we kissed. He likes you, too. He's probably as nervous/thrilled as you are. Let whatever remark just pass. 1
poppyfields Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, LittlePickle said: I had a bit of a melt down today and I worry he might be mad at me, My colleague asked him out he said no, he is seeing someone and I asked him, I think I may have been a bit nasty, He said he was seeing me. Although my modem had an issue, I rang him and he come and fixed it. Then we kissed. Should I text him apologising for potentially being nasty to him? Nah, I am sure he was flattered, your anger indicates jealousy = high interest. If he weren't into you, he might have considered it "drama" but since he IS, again probably flattered by it. Since you kissed and made up, let it go and have fun Friday! Make sure you have condoms, lol. Edited September 28, 2021 by poppyfields
Author LittlePickle Posted September 28, 2021 Author Posted September 28, 2021 Lol I don't think we are having sex Friday. He is a hottie. This colleague thinks she is irresistible
poppyfields Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 (edited) 30 minutes ago, LittlePickle said: Lol I don't think we are having sex Friday. I would not rule anything out. Given you are both so attracted, it could very well happen. I have no doubt HE is at least thinking about it.... Often times things happen when we least expect. Edited September 28, 2021 by poppyfields
Author LittlePickle Posted September 28, 2021 Author Posted September 28, 2021 12 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I would not rule anything out. Given you are both so attracted, it could very well happen. I have no doubt HE is at least thinking about it.... Often times things happen when we least expect them to. He is thinking about us having sex? So I might have him begging?
poppyfields Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, LittlePickle said: He is thinking about us having sex? So I might have him begging? No! How did you go from my saying he is thinking about it to you asking if he will be begging for it? Seems like quite an extreme conclusion to jump to. I only meant as a man who is obviously very attracted to you, it's natural for him to desire you sexually. It's perfectly normal and healthy. I am not even suggesting he will push for it, but if you start kissing, etc, it might escalate to that naturally. Why are you so dead set against that happening? No judgment just curious. Edited September 28, 2021 by poppyfields 1
WWYD Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 Just now, LittlePickle said: He is thinking about us having sex? So I might have him begging? You are so overthinking this! Just go with the flow and enjoy what looks like the beginnings of a relationship - and don't post about it again until after the weekend! 1
Author LittlePickle Posted September 28, 2021 Author Posted September 28, 2021 11 minutes ago, poppyfields said: No! How did you go from my saying he is thinking about it to you asking if he will be begging for it? Seems like quite an extreme conclusion to jump to. I only meant as a man who is obviously very attracted to you, it's natural for him to desire you sexually. It's perfectly normal and healthy. I am not even suggesting he will push for it, but if you start kissing, etc, it might escalate to that naturally. Why are you so dead set against that happening? No judgment just curious. Ex "boyfriend" said nasty things and said I'm not very good in bed, that any lad once they've had me once won't be back
poppyfields Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 (edited) 26 minutes ago, LittlePickle said: Ex "boyfriend" said nasty things and said I'm not very good in bed, that any lad once they've had me once won't be back I'm sorry he said that, yes that was VERY nasty indeed. Did you end the relationship or did he? If you did, keep in mind when someone gets rejected, it's not uncommon for them to lash out at the person who rejected them in a nasty way. Even when what they're saying is not true. It also takes two to tango as they say. Meaning, if he thought you were bad in bed, either HE was bad in bed or he believes he was bad in bed and he was projecting. Anyway try and let that go. You cannot avoid having sex with a new boyfriend forever because of what some bitter ex said, and it's possible it might be very different with him anyway (new guy) Take a chance! It doesn't have to be Friday if you're not comfortable. Anyway, enjoy! And let us know how it goes. Edited September 28, 2021 by poppyfields
princessaurora Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 1 hour ago, LittlePickle said: This colleague thinks she is irresistible So did she ask him out after she knew you liked him? If she thinks she's god's gift she may have just been trying to prove she can steal him away from you. Sadly there are women who get off on that sort of ego boost. Though in her case she epically failed. 1
DividedTrail Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 (edited) Sounds like you had a flash of jealousy and or fear. Don't beat yourself up about it. You two kissed so I would let it go unless he brings it up. As a guy, a little but of jealousy is adorable. Just don't get carried away. This other woman asked him out and he said no because he is seeing somebody (you). So you are number one in his mind. The way you two are progressing, I would wager he has been wracking his brain wondering how to ask you out for some time. You said this colleague thinks she is irresistible. I too wonder if she asked him out because she caught wind of what you two were up to or if it was a coincidence. Either way, your guy handled it perfectly if he is interested in you more than a little. I mean, look at all the posts on here with people talking about online dating and multi-dating until the 'are we exclusive' discussion happens. Some guys tend to be interested in one woman at a time wherever that takes them. Others like to cast a wide net. I can relate to your guy. Making assumptions of course based on what you have shared. Others have explained better than me but you seem to be caught up with the thought that he might be thinking about what having sex with you would be like, probably wanting to have sex with you and that he will expect, beg or be disappointed if it doesn't happen. I mean, you should want him to find you sexually attractive, no? A grown man that is a gentlemen, that values you and wants to know all about LittlePickle at this early stage, will be happy to just spend time with you and kiss or make out a little. Honestly, if I was a guy that was interested in a woman more than a little, and I couldn't figure out how to ask her out for whatever reason, and all the sudden she asked me out... I just feel like you have handled this pretty well so far. ETA: Unless there is more to the story, your ex sounds like an insecure idiot. I can't ever recall insulting a woman just because it didn't work out... Edited September 28, 2021 by DividedTrail 1
Noproblem Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 So many harsh comments, why not, try to get closer! It might be friendship or the beginning of a love story. But just keep in mind if things didn't work out, this might affect work, but whatever I guess, you only live once and you are not committing a crime!
Author LittlePickle Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 Thank you for your comments. I am up early here so will reply to them tonight. He is perfect in my eyes and thinking he wanted someone else really did give me that flash of jealousy. I am at home today and he is in the office. I do feel a bit bad I didn't book to go in today, but I need to prepare for Friday. Get some shopping and such
Caauug Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 Holding hands, admits to seeing you, kissing, dating @home. Next step is..... WIFI.... 10 hours ago, LittlePickle said: Ex "boyfriend" said nasty things and said I'm not very good in bed, that any lad once they've had me once won't be back This is easy, don't be a star fish, insist that he changes it up.... It's your job to make him do his properly.
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