d0nnivain Posted September 9, 2021 Posted September 9, 2021 Not really. It's more like no emotional attachment. It can be plenty romantic -- candlelight, etc. It's just without deep feelings or commitment.
FMW Posted September 9, 2021 Posted September 9, 2021 I think dating usually involves romantic interest. Casual/non-serious would mean it doesn't involve commitment or exclusivity. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 9, 2021 Posted September 9, 2021 2 hours ago, Hokuto said: That is how it is defined correct? no dating process Step 1 two people start to talk they decide to get together. fTSOA call it dinner meeting. step 2. Each has their own perspectives and expectations. There are basically two components…physical and emotional. One could have none, one, or both at the start. step 3 the date occurs step 4 evaluate after step 5 continuously repeat 3 and 4 or go back to step 1. With née person.
poppyfields Posted September 9, 2021 Posted September 9, 2021 2 hours ago, FMW said: I think dating usually involves romantic interest. Casual/non-serious would mean it doesn't involve commitment or exclusivity. Agree with this. For me, casual can mean BIG feelings, but no talk of the the future, commitment or even exclusivity like what FMW posted above. Literally taking it one day at a time. Outcome independent. Can't speak for others but I wouldn't date someone I had no romantic feelings for, casually or otherwise. That's not dating, it's a friendship. 2
introverted1 Posted September 9, 2021 Posted September 9, 2021 You should probably ask the person saying this, as it can mean different things to different people. 2 1
spiderowl Posted September 9, 2021 Posted September 9, 2021 It can mean romantic, flirting, even sexual, but it is fundamentally casual (no commitment or promises) and non serious (do not get attached).
Author Hokuto Posted September 24, 2021 Author Posted September 24, 2021 I have heard about this before and I was wondering, how is it seen overall? Is it a normal thing to do or is it seen as being shitty and kind of sleazy? What is the general consenus about it if there is one?
Author Hokuto Posted September 24, 2021 Author Posted September 24, 2021 On 9/9/2021 at 9:05 AM, d0nnivain said: Not really. It's more like no emotional attachment. It can be plenty romantic -- candlelight, etc. It's just without deep feelings or commitment. Ok then no romantic love then
central Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 (edited) IMO, it's normal. Especially when you have little experience and don't know what you want, when you don't have the time and energy for a serious relationship, or when you're getting back into dating after exiting another relationship and it's too soon to be serious but you want the social contact (and maybe sex). There is nothing wrong with this, as long as you don't present yourself as seeking something serious. After all, MOST dates don't turn into additional dates, and even when they do, most don't last past a few more dates. Casual is almost the default situation - getting serious takes a lot more effort and mutual attraction. Edited September 24, 2021 by central
Wiseman2 Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 1 hour ago, Hokuto said: is it seen as being shitty and kind of sleazy? Casual dating does not equate to promiscuous. It simply means people are in the early stages or nor exclusive or looking for progress in a romantic direction.
Author Hokuto Posted September 24, 2021 Author Posted September 24, 2021 Oh let me add on If I said I am open to dating brunettes or a brunette, does that imply I am looking for or open to a commited relationship to a brunnete or can it mean a one time date thing like I mentioned above and casual has no romantic feelings right?
Wiseman2 Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 4 minutes ago, Hokuto said: Oh let me add on If I said I am open to dating brunettes or a brunette, does that imply I am looking for or open to a commited relationship to a brunnete or can it mean a one time date thing like I mentioned above and casual has no romantic feelings right? What? 1
Author Hokuto Posted September 24, 2021 Author Posted September 24, 2021 Just now, Wiseman2 said: What? I mean casual has no romantic feelings right?
poppyfields Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Hokuto said: and casual has no romantic feelings right? Casual dating with no romantic feelings is not even dating, it's a friendship or if you're having sex FWB. (friends with benefits). I have casually dated, what it meant (for me and my partner or partners) was NOT serious. I still had romantic feelings, I simply had no expectations with respect to the future, it was one day at a time. Serious is when you discuss future and all that. Commitment. Casual, is well, casual. Dating, romantic feelings, but no exclusivity, no commitment. There are still romantic feelings though, at least for me. Edited September 24, 2021 by poppyfields
Author Hokuto Posted September 24, 2021 Author Posted September 24, 2021 24 minutes ago, central said: IMO, it's normal. Especially when you have little experience and don't know what you want, when you don't have the time and energy for a serious relationship, or when you're getting back into dating after exiting another relationship and it's too soon to be serious but you want the social contact (and maybe sex). There is nothing wrong with this, as long as you don't present yourself as seeking something serious. After all, MOST dates don't turn into additional dates, and even when they do, most don't last past a few more dates. Casual is almost the default situation - getting serious takes a lot more effort and mutual attraction. Casual has no romane right
poppyfields Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 (edited) 2 minutes ago, Hokuto said: Casual has no romane right No, not right. No romance or romantic feelings = Friends With Benefits (FWB), Edited September 24, 2021 by poppyfields
Lotsgoingon Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 (edited) You have to define "casual." As in do you mean casual and sexual? Sometimes casual daters have romantic feelings, they just don't want to get serious with anyone at the moment. So they ignore those romantic feelings. But again, you might have to define what you mean by "romantic feelings." Edited September 24, 2021 by Lotsgoingon
Author Hokuto Posted September 24, 2021 Author Posted September 24, 2021 Just now, Lotsgoingon said: You have to define "casual." An do you mean casual and sexual. Sometimes casual daters have romantic feelings, they just don't want to get serious with anyone at the moment. So they ignore those romantic feelings. But again, you might have to define what you mean by "romantic feelings." Can casual mean no romance
Wiseman2 Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 3 minutes ago, Hokuto said: Casual has no romane right Hokuto, this is really a lot of semantic acrobatics. What would you like to know? If the distance crush who you fear has LGBT posts won't have a crush on you?
Author Hokuto Posted September 24, 2021 Author Posted September 24, 2021 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: Hokuto, this is really a lot of semantic acrobatics. What would you like to know? If the distance crush who you fear has LGBT posts won't have a crush on you? No I made tinder actually and looking for advice. I mentioned casual in my bio
poppyfields Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Lotsgoingon said: You have to define "casual." An do you mean casual and sexual. Sometimes casual daters have romantic feelings, they just don't want to get serious with anyone at the moment. So they ignore those romantic feelings. But again, you might have to define what you mean by "romantic feelings." Why do they have to ignore romantic feelings? I think two people can date casually (one day at a time, no exclusivity, no commitment, no talk about the future) but still have strong romantic feelings. Those two things are not mutually exclusive imo. You can have big romantic feelings but still not want a serious committed relationship, imho. That's the problem with dating in today's environment. Romantic feelings = serious, commitment. There are many reasons why someone may not be cut out for serious committed, but still have the desire for romance and those feelings. Why not simply enjoy the feelings and let go of all those expectations? Live in the present, enjoy the moment. Edited September 24, 2021 by poppyfields
central Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 Casual can mean no romance, but does not preclude it. Besides, romantic feelings may develop even when the intent is casual. But it sounds like you just want a booty call if you are opposed to any romantic involvement, and that's not easy to find.
Lotsgoingon Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 You're right: I meant that people "ignore romance" as in they don't stop and focus on an exclusive relationship. I don't mean ignore as in suppress, though Lord knows there are people who do suppress and work hard to keep emotional & romantic distance with their casual interest. Traditionally guys are notorious for not trying to romance their casual partners, for going out of their way NOT to romance their casual partners. 1
Wiseman2 Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 3 minutes ago, Hokuto said: No I made tinder actually and looking for advice. I mentioned casual in my bio Don't label yourself or box yourself into a bad place. Why even mention it? Make your dating profile about you. Hobbies, interests, profession, etc.
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