Alpacalia Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 That's good Alvi. 2 hours ago, Alvi said: He asked to see me again at the end but didn't come up with anything yet. Well, he didn't ask you out the first time, ignored your initial texts, and now he's being vague with plans. You're both talking to meeting with others, so sounds like par for the course! 1
The Outlaw Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 I don't and have no desire to use OLD but personally, no. You're either into someone or you're not. The wishy washy stuff? Move along.
poppyfields Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 3 minutes ago, The Outlaw said: I don't and have no desire to use OLD but personally, no. You're either into someone or you're not. The wishy washy stuff? Move along. This was mentioned previously and I agree however, they only exchanged a few messages (never met in real life). How "into someone" would you expect the person you are messaging with to be under those circumstances? JMO, but expecting someone to be really "into you" after exchanging only a few messages is a bit much. That said, I'm with you re OLDing, although I have done it, not for me, not anymore.
The Outlaw Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 Just now, poppyfields said: How "into someone" would you expect the person you are messaging with to be under those circumstances? Well, to me, it's just not cool to ignore somebody only to show interest in them later. I get people can be fickle but still, I'd rather know up front rather than guess. Just now, poppyfields said: JMO, but expecting someone to be really "into you" after exchanging only a few messages is a bit much. True. Just now, poppyfields said: That said, I'm with you re OLDing, although I have done it, not for me, not anymore. Nor I. Old school is still the best way. You can be anyone you want to be online. It's harder to hide it face to face. 1
poppyfields Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 1 minute ago, The Outlaw said: You can be anyone you want to be online. Sad truth. 1
The Outlaw Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 Just now, poppyfields said: Sad truth. A lesson that most learn the hard way. 1
poppyfields Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 (edited) 10 minutes ago, The Outlaw said: Well, to me, it's just not cool to ignore somebody only to show interest in them later. I get people can be fickle but still, I'd rather know up front rather than guess. I had a few dates with a man awhile back but he came on so hard and strong, I got a bit turned off, so stopped dating him. Fast forward to a couple of weeks later, I began missing him so reached out and we are meeting for drinks and apps on Wednesday! I think I posted this previously but in these very early stages, especially before an in-person meet like in Alvi's situation, it's important to be flexible and open, and not take things so personally. The reason someone disappears may have nothing to do with you and even if it did, if you don't take it so personally, you're open to meeting them again and second time 'round might be the charm! I mean you just never know. People dismiss others so easily these days, one "wrong" move and they're OUT. Forever. People may come in and out of your life for various reasons, timing is so important. JMO. Edited September 27, 2021 by poppyfields 1
The Outlaw Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 Just now, poppyfields said: The reason someone disappears may have nothing to do with you and even if it did, if you don't take it so personally, you're open to meeting them again and second time 'round might be the charm! I mean you just never know. That's true. And I never did take it personally. Sure it wasn't fun but I question everything because of some not so fun experiences with people in the past. 1
poppyfields Posted September 27, 2021 Posted September 27, 2021 24 minutes ago, The Outlaw said: ..... I question everything because of some not so fun experiences with people in the past. I hate to get all philosophical on ya but.... "The past is history, the future a mystery, and the present is a gift, which is why it's called the "present." I read that in a book by Deepak Chopra but I don't think he originated the statement. Sorry about your "not so fun experiences" though, I have had my share as well. 2
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