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In my last post, you might remember I said I went on a date with a guy and afterwards he started coming on super strong. Giving me roses, saying how great I was, sending me so many texts over and over again acting like he was already in love with me, etc. Well I went on a second date with him and we had a really good time, we stayed out for hours laughing and having deep conversations. He seemed to be really into me, continued to pursue me just as hard. We were supposed to go out again this Saturday. I was finally going to go over to his apartment and go swimming with him. I noticed these last 2 days he seemed a little less talkative (not texting me as much) but still was sending me kissy face emojis and acting like everything was fine. This morning, I woke up to him having blocked my phone number, he blocked me on instagram, blocked me on everything. No explanation. I used my family member's phone to text him and ask him what happened, but he hasn't replied. 

This is the last conversation we had - 

Him: Missed talking to you yesterday.

Me: Aww! I'm excited for the weekend.

Him: Me too

Me: What are you doin?

Him: Working hard. May get the promotion, just had a meeting about it & the territory they want to give me.

Me: Does that mean you're moving?

Him: No, I may have to travel, but not moving.

Me: Yay!

Him: Excited to see you!

Me: sent a kiss emoji

Him: sent me a kissy face emoji. What are you doing?

Me: Laying in bed falling asleep

Him: Watching tv?

(I didn't reply because I fell asleep).

The next morning I woke up to being blocked on everything. My guess is that he found someone else? Ok fine. But it doesn't make any sense as to why he would block me on everything, almost as if he's mad at me. I don't understand it. What happened do you think?

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d0nnivain Established Member

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I think I'd have whiplash if I was you.  Something is off  

Assume you dodged a bullet & move along 

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13 minutes ago, CalipsoRose said:

This morning, I woke up to him having blocked my phone number, he blocked me on instagram, blocked me on everything. No explanation. I used my family member's phone to text him and ask him what happened, but he hasn't replied.

You've been blocked -- accept it and move on.  It's not like he's going to give you an honest answer about what happened, anyway.

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poppyfields Established Member

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30 minutes ago, CalipsoRose said:

In my last post, you might remember I said I went on a date with a guy and afterwards he started coming on super strong. Giving me roses, saying how great I was, sending me so many texts over and over again acting like he was already in love with me, etc. Well I went on a second date with him and we had a really good time, we stayed out for hours laughing and having deep conversations. He seemed to be really into me, continued to pursue me just as hard. We were supposed to go out again this Saturday. I was finally going to go over to his apartment and go swimming with him. I noticed these last 2 days he seemed a little less talkative (not texting me as much) but still was sending me kissy face emojis and acting like everything was fine. This morning, I woke up to him having blocked my phone number, he blocked me on instagram, blocked me on everything. No explanation. I used my family member's phone to text him and ask him what happened, but he hasn't replied. 

This is the last conversation we had - 

Him: Missed talking to you yesterday.

Me: Aww! I'm excited for the weekend.

Him: Me too

Me: What are you doin?

Him: Working hard. May get the promotion, just had a meeting about it & the territory they want to give me.

Me: Does that mean you're moving?

Him: No, I may have to travel, but not moving.

Me: Yay!

Him: Excited to see you!

Me: sent a kiss emoji

Him: sent me a kissy face emoji. What are you doing?

Me: Laying in bed falling asleep

Him: Watching tv?

(I didn't reply because I fell asleep).

The next morning I woke up to being blocked on everything. My guess is that he found someone else? Ok fine. But it doesn't make any sense as to why he would block me on everything, almost as if he's mad at me. I don't understand it. What happened do you think?

Yeah blocking like that is an emotional reaction to something. 

But what?  You didnt respond to his TV question?  Sounds silly but you never know. 

He might have had an expectation that wasnt met, like the convo going in another direction or he didn't like his question being ignored? 

I'm guessing, I have no idea but never underestimate men's ability to become overly emotional and overreact, it could literally be about anything, something you might never have imagined.

Try to let it go, do nothing. Do not chase 

He may come back round again at some point.

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13 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

 It's not like he's going to give you an honest answer about what happened, anyway.

Very True!!  There is no honesty in break ups, so I put no value in the words that come after "I no longer want to see/date you".  My brain goes into "mute" mode and my reply is always "OK... bye" and I'm off to find her replacement.

I never cared what reason a woman gave me for dumping me.  Most of the time is was just made up vitriol and the truth was she found a bigger wallet.

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43 minutes ago, CalipsoRose said:

 I went on a date with a guy and afterwards he started coming on super strong.

This guy burnt it by both ends of the candle. He woke up one morning and realized he had too much and it felt like an emotional indigestion and blocked you. 

That's the danger of dating a man that love bombs you. 

I am sorry this happened to you, keep all this in mind when you move forward to your next prospect.

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18 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

This guy burnt it by both ends of the candle. He woke up one morning and realized he had too much and it felt like an emotional indigestion and blocked you. 

That's the danger of dating a man that love bombs you. 

I am sorry this happened to you, keep all this in mind when you move forward to your next prospect.

I agree with this, but the suddenness of it immediately after she neglected to respond to his text asking a question suggests something triggered it, like her non-response was blown completely out of proportion (in his mind).

Just my take, I could be wrong. 

It's weird though, even for love bombers in my experience.

 

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He came in hot straight out of the gate and then took off. 🐎 💨

Maybe he was simply living in the moment and thinking aloud. Generally speaking.

Simply caught up in the moment and jumped into an exciting and passionate start—without fully knowing you—only to realize later that he made a mistake.

However, as you have now discovered, it was not a forecast of future feelings.

Or, perhaps he's already in a relationship and his wife or girlfriend has discovered it.

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poppyfields Established Member

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9 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

I agree with this, but the suddenness of it immediately after she neglected to respond to his text asking a question suggests something triggered it, like her non-response was blown completely out of proportion (in his mind).

Just my take, I could be wrong. 

It's weird though, even for love bombers in my experience.

 

OP, to add I am not blaming you for not responding, you fell asleep, that's a legit reason. 

But HE didn't know that, the convo was flowing nicely, he was waiting for your reply, and may have thought you intentionally ignored which triggered a sudden emotional reaction like blocking you everywhere.  

Again just my take, let us know if/when he circles back. 

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5 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

OP, to add I am not blaming you for not responding, you fell asleep, that's a legit reason. 

But HE didn't know that, he was waiting for your reply, and may have thought you intentionally ignored which triggered a sudden emotional response like blocking you everywhere.  

Thanks, yeah but I would think "falling asleep" would be enough to insinuate that I probably had in fact fallen asleep. Also, he still hasn't replied on my family member's phone so he is still actively ignoring me. All the reasons I can think of, still doesn't really excuse his behavior. I mean, lets say he did find another woman, him blocking me on everything is just immature no matter how you slice it.

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1 hour ago, CalipsoRose said:

In my last post, you might remember I said I went on a date with a guy and afterwards he started coming on super strong. Giving me roses, saying how great I was, sending me so many texts over and over again acting like he was already in love with me, etc. Well I went on a second date with him and we had a really good time, we stayed out for hours laughing and having deep conversations. He seemed to be really into me, continued to pursue me just as hard. We were supposed to go out again this Saturday. I was finally going to go over to his apartment and go swimming with him. I noticed these last 2 days he seemed a little less talkative (not texting me as much) but still was sending me kissy face emojis and acting like everything was fine. This morning, I woke up to him having blocked my phone number, he blocked me on instagram, blocked me on everything. No explanation. I used my family member's phone to text him and ask him what happened, but he hasn't replied. 

This is the last conversation we had - 

Him: Missed talking to you yesterday.

Me: Aww! I'm excited for the weekend.

Him: Me too

Me: What are you doin?

Him: Working hard. May get the promotion, just had a meeting about it & the territory they want to give me.

Me: Does that mean you're moving?

Him: No, I may have to travel, but not moving.

Me: Yay!

Him: Excited to see you!

Me: sent a kiss emoji

Him: sent me a kissy face emoji. What are you doing?

Me: Laying in bed falling asleep

Him: Watching tv?

(I didn't reply because I fell asleep).

The next morning I woke up to being blocked on everything. My guess is that he found someone else? Ok fine. But it doesn't make any sense as to why he would block me on everything, almost as if he's mad at me. I don't understand it. What happened do you think?

Rule….never assume you are the only one they are  dating.

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Gaeta Established Member

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Maybe he was 1 week out of a relationship and the ex came back. Typical of online dating.

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He's a coward who doesn't want confrontation.  It's easier to block than explain and come off as a flake.  He's probably love bombing someone else and is on her trail now.

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poppyfields Established Member

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7 minutes ago, CalipsoRose said:

Thanks, yeah but I would think "falling asleep" would be enough to insinuate that I probably had in fact fallen asleep. Also, he still hasn't replied on my family member's phone so he is still actively ignoring me. All the reasons I can think of, still doesn't really excuse his behavior. I mean, lets say he did find another woman, him blocking me on everything is just immature no matter how you slice it.

Oh I agree, 100%, huge red flag right there 

So when do you think he met this other woman?  Liking her so much that he had to suddenly block you everywhere?

Between the night after your text convo telling you how excited he was to see you, and the very next morning when you found yourself suddenly blocked? 

In any event, he sounds unstable, best to let it go.

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So when do you think he met this other woman? 

He probably was talking to her at the same time as OP and she finally gave in to him.  These guys.

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2 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Oh I agree, 100%, huge red flag right there 

So when do you think he met this other woman?  Liking her so much that he had to suddenly block you everywhere?

Between the time after your text convo telling you how excited he was to see you, and the very next morning when you found yourself suddenly blocked? 

I have no idea but the last 2 days he was texting me less. It wasn't the flurry of lovey dovey texts he was usually sending me. Whenever there's a slight change in a man's behavior, I can almost certainly tell now that it means he's talking to someone else (years of experience of men doing this, especially on dating sites). So probably the last 2 days. Probably made plans to see her this weekend instead, then blocked me. Its the only reason I can think of. Not sure why he'd say "excited to see you" though. Even if he is a player, you'd think he'd see us both (like they usually do). Anyway, I'm glad I didn't go see him this weekend because it would be at his house and we may have gotten physical. At least I know now, before that happened.

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poppyfields Established Member

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8 minutes ago, stillafool said:

He probably was talking to her at the same time as OP and she finally gave in to him.  These guys.

Perhaps but why block?  He could have simply ghosted like most people, lol.

Blocking everywhere takes effort.  And again is an emotional reaction, when it's sudden like that. Imo.

I dunno you may be right, there is a poster on LS who blocks people at the drop of a hat.

They're not angry, not emotional, they're just done, so who knows. 

It'a still weird though.

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Gaeta Established Member

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Why did you accept to go to his apartment on a 2nd date? That is too much too fast. Let these guys pursue you a little longer. If they have a front it will eventually come down. All this deep talking is to create a false sense of closeness. 

Just tell yourself it was a good 2 weeks and move along. 

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2 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Perhaps but why block? 

Because if he didn't block her she could reach him.  He doesn't want that because then he'd have to give an explanation and he's too cowardly to answer.

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 then he'd have to give an explanation and he's too cowardly to answer.

meh.....maybe not.

Maybe he felt OP would hold on, expect some type of explanation. 

I am blocking much more this time around. I don't have the patience to explain myself over and over. 

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19 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Because if he didn't block her she could reach him.  He doesn't want that because then he'd have to give an explanation and he's too cowardly to answer.

He doesn't have to respond, he could ignore, ghost.

Isn't that the norm these days, ignoring?  Ghosting? 

Meanwhile his ego is boosted each time she reaches out!

Since when do men not want their ego boosted by a woman chasing and him ignoring? 

But he blocked her so he'll never know.

Blocking is the ultimate insult imo and sends a very strong message. 

I never block unless being harassed.  It's rude and demeaning, imo.

If you don't want to talk, then ignore unless you've had some sort of a substantial relationship or interaction, they will get the message. 

Again, speculating.

 

 

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Gaeta Established Member

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I know why he blocked her instead of ghosting her. The ex is back and he doesn't want OP's name to pop up on his phone

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5 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I know why he blocked her instead of ghosting her. The ex is back and he doesn't want OP's name to pop up on his phone

Lol, so the ex returned between the night they were texting (and she ignored his last text because she fell asleep) and the following morning when she found herself suddenly blocked? 

That's quite a coincidence but okay!

Now that we've figured that out... 😂

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28 minutes ago, CalipsoRose said:

 it would be at his house

Unfortunately, sounds like his wife/GF found out.

Is this the same guy?:

 

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Gaeta Established Member

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7 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Lol, so the ex returned between the night they were texting (and she ignored his last text because she fell asleep) and the following morning when she found herself suddenly blocked? 

That's quite a coincidence but okay!

Now that we've figured that out... 😂

She said she felt him losing interest 2 days prior to that night he blocked her.

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