Author Corduroy Posted September 26, 2021 Author Posted September 26, 2021 11 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Ok. Just leave her alone. You've put the final nail in the coffin with a nasty drunken text. That's your "closure". Keep her deleted and blocked and move forward. Lol, you really think that was a nasty text? I put a sad emoji face with it too btw
Wiseman2 Posted September 26, 2021 Posted September 26, 2021 28 minutes ago, Corduroy said: you really think that was a nasty text? All you can do in the future is refrain from games and drunken texts if you hope to get dates and keep a GF.
Author Corduroy Posted September 26, 2021 Author Posted September 26, 2021 Well we talked this morning and we decided to break up. The reason was she doesn’t have the energy or capacity in her life for the relationship. Guess I should stop blaming myself. I told her sorry she’s feeling that way, I really liked her & wish it could have worked out. So yeah, that’s that. 2
Herkamer Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 On 9/26/2021 at 12:41 PM, Corduroy said: Well we talked this morning and we decided to break up. The reason was she doesn’t have the energy or capacity in her life for the relationship. Guess I should stop blaming myself. I told her sorry she’s feeling that way, I really liked her & wish it could have worked out. So yeah, that’s that. Good. You don't deserve to be put through the ringer like that. If she were actually interested in you, she would have contacted you more. She obviously is bringing out the modern day stereotype many women are displaying. Unless if you're a Chad, a jerk, or simply not a good person, you're nothing to her. I hate to sound like a downer on this, but that's how it is with many women today. And what that's doing is turning men off to even go out on dates any more, and that's keeping the women that actually want a healthy, loving relationship with guys from having one because men are dropping out of the dating market. What makes the situation worse is you have men defending these women who want nothing to do with good guys, and they don't even know they're simping. So all the criticism you're getting on here is unnecessary. I've been through all this before, and I bet it sucked for ya because you were wondering the whole time "is she going to respond" or "does she actually like me", and those tunes were playing in your head almost everyday. Then you discover she really didn't give a crap about you and that made you feel foolish. Believe me when I say I sympathize with you, brother. What these simps don't seem to understand is they're listening to the wrong people to get women because I did the same thing: they're listening to OTHER WOMEN on how to attract them. I couldn't even explain how horrible of an idea that is, as they themselves are looking for their validation. If you're a guy and want dating advice, take it from older, more experienced, men. My dad was a good source for me and it worked. My female friends, terrible advice. But even then, the simps seem to try and reject reality. They want things that they know they can't have and probably will never get. Right now, I'm in a bit of a bind. There's a woman I know from my ballroom dance class, and she's not only a single mom but also a grandmother at the age of 43. Very good looking and very active. She had her first kid at 18, had been married, and now divorced. There are red flags that she had displayed (as does everyone because no one's perfect) but there are some good things as well. The best thing she has been doing is being kind to my youngest brother. My brother has autism and I had been taking him up to these ballroom classes. Gives him something to do and gets him more social. He loves it, and he gets excited every time we go up. Dancing with beautiful women, why not, right? Anyway, this woman is always very good to him and one time, our class had a party and held a contest. She won and gave her prize over to my brother. I was thankful she did because it really helps my brother's self esteem. In addition to that, according to her, I'm the guy she wants as a dance partner during class. We rotate partners during class and she had told me several times that she doesn't want to switch over to another guy because she enjoys dancing with me. Definitely flattering, if you ask me, so I, at least know, that I'm good for where I'm at. We had spoken, outside of class, about getting our classmates together for drinks and food. At this moment in time, that's furthest I'm going with her. I know she's been very nice to me and my brother, but I don't know if she's talking to other guys, making fun of me behind my back, or if she even has any interest at all in me. In the past, I've been stood up, lied to, lied about, mocked, mislead, and even had a woman call off our relationship due to an ex-Chad she had been engaged to that passed away. That has been my life in the dating world for over the past decade. You can see where I'm very cynical about relationships nowadays. As much as I would like to believe that this woman likes me, I get the feeling it's an all too familiar road and I don't want to walk down it again. Why do that to myself? Even though we're talking through messenger, I just don't think it's a good idea to even start anything until I know she is actually fully invested in me, and in today's world of dating, commitment, for many women, to men hardly ever happens anymore. So what I'm doing, to relieve my fears, is going out to these places that have entertainment and ballroom dancing with the women there. Just did it this past weekend and it felt so good. I'm not starting any relationships with them, nothing sexual, nothing but having fun. That's good enough for me, and it's a good reminder that I'm actually worth a d@^n. If you're a guy and you're going out and having this kind of fun with other women, and there's one woman that you're hoping commits to you but can't get her, please understand that it's not you. It's most definitely her and the desire to get attention from other men. So don't beat yourself up and don't take the crap simps and other women are giving you. Your time and value as a man actually means a lot. Make friends and keep old ones. Go out and have fun with them. Don't get invested in trying to get into a relationship with a woman. She has to like you for you and not your attention and resources. I hope you realize you've got someone who can relate to a lot of you are going through, and if you need anything, shoot me a message. Take care, brother!
Nothanks Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 The drunk text wasn’t that bad. Letting her make the next contact would have been better but….live and learn. Next time you get drunk though, make sure her number is deleted from your phone. Drunk texting after breaking up with her is asking for trouble.
Author Corduroy Posted October 2, 2021 Author Posted October 2, 2021 So we kind of got in to it today. I logged back into social media after disabling it for a week. She unfollowed me when she saw me online and I asked her “why, I thought we were going to be friends.” She thought I blocked her, then unblocked her. I told her I needed a break from social media, she laughed and told me “lol I need a break too, so TTYL!” Then blocked me. We texted back and forth arguing. She made it clear that I didn’t do anything wrong, but she thinks I’m still trying to get back with her. I told her I’m over it and I decided to date someone else, now she hasn’t responded for hours. Is she hurt?
Wiseman2 Posted October 3, 2021 Posted October 3, 2021 12 hours ago, Corduroy said: I asked her “why, I thought we were going to be friends.” . We texted back and forth arguing. You're exes, not friends. Stop dragging out the drama and reliving and rehashing the breakup. Playing games, harassing her, insisting on keeping tabs under the guise of "friends", all seems like you refuse to let go. Can't you date others? Why bother with this timewasting, brain-eating nonsense?
Author Corduroy Posted October 4, 2021 Author Posted October 4, 2021 On 10/3/2021 at 4:11 AM, Wiseman2 said: You're exes, not friends. Stop dragging out the drama and reliving and rehashing the breakup. Playing games, harassing her, insisting on keeping tabs under the guise of "friends", all seems like you refuse to let go. Can't you date others? Why bother with this timewasting, brain-eating nonsense? I don’t know, I’m just pissed off at her. Yes I’ve met someone already, and she’s agreed to go out. So I’ll be good.
Wiseman2 Posted October 5, 2021 Posted October 5, 2021 (edited) 7 hours ago, Corduroy said: I’ve met someone already, and she’s agreed to go out. Ok. Then delete and block her from all your social media and messaging apps. Be done with it and move on. Get your ego out of your way. Enjoy the new date but don't drag the past with you or use others as pawns in some on/off games with exes. Edited October 5, 2021 by Wiseman2
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