Saartje Posted September 18, 2021 Posted September 18, 2021 Hi everyone, I had one date with this guy and it was a really good date. We both enjoyed, had a little kiss in the end on the cheeks and after the date he quickly responded that he would like to see me again. He said he thinks I’m a wonderful girl. We live about 200miles away, and in between we kept contact through text. He actually initiates this texting 9 out of 10 times. He than also asked when I wanted to meet him again and offered to drive my way to meet me. I was really excited, looking forward to see him again. In the meantime, we also followed each other on IG and he liked a lot of my posts. So, he seemed to be enthusiastic. Ff to yesterday; our date was planned in the evening and that same morning he told me he unfortunately wanted to reschedule our date bc he became pretty ill. He also asked if I could meet him somewhere this week, and I told him I could see him this Friday. He said ‘great!” But nothing after that. We chatted for a while before I had to go to the grocery shop and he said goodbye with a little kiss-blow-heart emoji. There’s nothing really wrong about what happened, he actually immediately proposed a new date. But for some reason, my gut is saying something’s off. While I don’t have a real clue for that. Am I too paranoid (I had some real bad experiences in dating..). Would like your honest opinion about this, thank you so much already!
Wiseman2 Posted September 18, 2021 Posted September 18, 2021 2 minutes ago, Saartje said: I had one date with this guy and it was a really good date. We live about 200miles away Sounds like things are going well. However this distance is something to reflect on as afar as sustaining this. 1
smackie9 Posted September 18, 2021 Posted September 18, 2021 I would have an issue with the distance. You have no control or any way of knowing if he is married, has a GF or is cancelling because a better option came up. He's still a stranger. So easy these days to use the "I'm sick...fallen ill, have covid.." you know what I mean? If it doesn't feel right then it's not. 1
d0nnivain Posted September 18, 2021 Posted September 18, 2021 Covid is on the rise in many places. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for now about being sick 1
Sun Seeker Posted September 18, 2021 Posted September 18, 2021 People are allowed to get sick. Sounds like your paranoia and maybe a lack of self confidence is driving this fear that something is off. If he's done nothing to show that he cannot be trusted, which is sounds like, he should be given the benefit of the doubt. 1
Alpacalia Posted September 18, 2021 Posted September 18, 2021 How did you meet? 200 miles one way is a significant trip. I dated someone who lived a bit far and I became really ill, so becoming sick does happen. We did, however, converse on the phone every day. Of course, there could be a variety of reasons why he canceled the date, which may or may not be dubious.
ShyViolet Posted September 19, 2021 Posted September 19, 2021 I really don't think it's wise to start up a relationship with someone who lives 200 miles away from you. You are setting yourself up for a lot of hassle and difficulty. There are NO men in your own city/town that you could date? 1
IntBrowser Posted September 20, 2021 Posted September 20, 2021 On 9/18/2021 at 6:08 PM, Sun Seeker said: People are allowed to get sick. Sounds like your paranoia and maybe a lack of self confidence is driving this fear that something is off. If he's done nothing to show that he cannot be trusted, which is sounds like, he should be given the benefit of the doubt. the top reasons people use to cancel a date sick family work 1
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