Noproblem Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 3 minutes ago, Gaeta said: He text me around 19h30. I asked how he was and he replied 'so so". I asked what's the matter and l don't know if he was feeling down or something but he talked about missing that special presence in his life and he's dwelling on it. He spoke about it being harder on men than women. He did not turn it into sex but he turned it into women hide their weaknesses and needs and are hard to read. I asked if that was meant for me and he said no, women in general. is their a life crisis at 60? no he meant you he means you should want to "DO it with him" and stop hiding your weaknesses lol 5 1
Happy Lemming Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 7 minutes ago, Gaeta said: He text me around 19h30. I asked how he was and he replied 'so so". I asked what's the matter and l don't know if he was feeling down or something but he talked about missing that special presence in his life and he's dwelling on it. He spoke about it being harder on men than women. He did not turn it into sex but he turned it into women hide their weaknesses and needs and are hard to read. I asked if that was meant for me and he said no, women in general. is their a life crisis at 60? This malarkey sounds more like "grooming"... I mean if the guy would just be normal and date like everyone else, he'd be fine. Allow a relationship develop, naturally... then yes he would have no problem attracting women and having sex. As far as life crisis at 60, I have known some colleagues that retired and didn't like it. They went through difficulties, but this guy hasn't retired yet, so that can't be the problem. So... no I have not heard of a life crisis at 60. 5
ExpatInItaly Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 6 hours ago, IrinaM said: I'm not thinking this man is some sort of high-sex-drive, free-spirited, libertine who needs someone who can keep up. Agreed. And it's certainly not because of his zodiac sign either, as has also been suggested in this thread too. Come on. 6
Wiseman2 Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 (edited) 7 hours ago, Gaeta said: Is their a life crisis at 60? It's possible considering his poor judgement, inappropriate behaviors and generalized strange inarticulate guessing games that he may have early signs of dementia. Or untreated mental health, substance abuse, etc. issues. This may be why he can't get dates and is perpetually on dating apps. Overall it's unclear why you are wasting your time trying to make sense out of nonsense. Edited September 22, 2021 by Wiseman2 2
introverted1 Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 9 hours ago, Noproblem said: also, many people who talk this way, usually proves to be very meh in bed, all words with no action! I made this same comment to an offline friend last night! I don't think he's having a late-life crisis. I think he is just crass or clueless (or both). Here's a good litmus test: would you say any of things he's said to you, to him? Assuming the same length of time knowing each other, etc. 4
bene Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 10 hours ago, Gaeta said: . I asked what's the matter and l don't know if he was feeling down or something but he talked about missing that special presence in his life and he's dwelling on it. He spoke about it being harder on men than women. He did not turn it into sex but he turned it into women hide their weaknesses and needs and are hard to read. Gosh, that’s a lot of hand wringing for someone you barely know. If you want to date a woman, date. This is not the way to court a grown woman. I don’t quite get what’s his appeal to you, what are we missing? You are a mature confident woman who knows what she wants. Why are you still entertaining this? 2
princessaurora Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 Geese, this man is all over the place, While it's ok to express a bit of sexual desire, with all the other things he's throwing at you, that might be the least of your worries. He's starting to remind me of Aldo from that movie "SPY". 1
Author Gaeta Posted September 22, 2021 Author Posted September 22, 2021 He looks more like Josh Brolin in Only the Brave 2
Author Gaeta Posted September 22, 2021 Author Posted September 22, 2021 So later last night he asked me if we can see each other this weekend, I said yes. He then asked if I'd like we have dinner. I said yes I would like that. Then we said our good nights. I have no clue what he has in mind so let's see.
chillii Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 Depends where the dinner is haha but anyway , you like all these other things about him , so why not . Good luck and l hope it goes well , have fun. 1
Author Gaeta Posted September 22, 2021 Author Posted September 22, 2021 I spoke to my daughter today and her opinion is he has no filter, is clueless & has no games but it's not necessarely a bad thing. She thinks l don't get his sense of humour cause she laughed at some of the things l told her, she thought they were hilarious and l should serve him the same humor. Note: My daughter is a welder and is used to be the only woman in a world of macho men and she gets them. I'm not my daughter. I'm used to politically correct. Lets see what Saturday brings.
chillii Posted September 22, 2021 Posted September 22, 2021 Haaa that's funny , yeah that is the impression he gives but eh , game , who needs game. Only those that wanna bed lots of women but from a womans point of view though game is worse if she knows what's good for her unless she wants the same. He does sound like he more so fumbles about a bit though but that's not necessarily a bad thing anyway, he's under your skin a bit so you may as well find out haha. There's always the B button . 1
Noproblem Posted September 23, 2021 Posted September 23, 2021 11 hours ago, Gaeta said: He looks more like Josh Brolin in Only the Brave this is exactly how I imagined him and I have never seen this movie before lol 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 23, 2021 Posted September 23, 2021 You seem to doubt yourself a lot, Gaeta. It's okay if his "sense of humour" is not to your taste, and you find him crass instead of funny. 6
glows Posted September 23, 2021 Posted September 23, 2021 (edited) On 9/21/2021 at 6:20 PM, Gaeta said: He text me around 19h30. I asked how he was and he replied 'so so". I asked what's the matter and l don't know if he was feeling down or something but he talked about missing that special presence in his life and he's dwelling on it. He spoke about it being harder on men than women. He did not turn it into sex but he turned it into women hide their weaknesses and needs and are hard to read. I asked if that was meant for me and he said no, women in general. is their a life crisis at 60? He seems to be trying to gain your sympathy at each turn. Having read some of your responses I think you are enjoying the company but too smart to date this man for real. Edited September 23, 2021 by glows 5
Author Gaeta Posted September 23, 2021 Author Posted September 23, 2021 When we met Saturday he told me communication is everything, it's imperative for him to be with a woman that communicates so ....I did. I asked him a bunch of questions to have a better sense of his personality. In short the answers were: he does not make sex jokes at work, he would never touch my behind in public, he would never make sex comment or jokes in front of my family...added he's shy and he can't even tease me on the phone the way he does on text. Since Monday he's toned it down a lot. I did not tell him to. I think he got the answers to his questions and the rest is to be discovered in person.
poppyfields Posted September 23, 2021 Posted September 23, 2021 (edited) >>I think you are enjoying the company .... Or enjoying the attention? Validation? No judgment, I've done same. Just don't confuse it with feeling a genuine connection and admiration. Have fun! Edited September 23, 2021 by poppyfields
Wiseman2 Posted September 23, 2021 Posted September 23, 2021 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: he can't even tease me on the phone the way he does on text. This is how he minimized his lewd rude disrespect? Perhaps it's time to get back on the quality dating sites and meet quality men? 1
Author Gaeta Posted September 23, 2021 Author Posted September 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: Perhaps it's time to get back on the quality dating sites and meet quality men? How to spot a quality man? Because last one sure felt like a quality man until he asked for money. 1
poppyfields Posted September 23, 2021 Posted September 23, 2021 (edited) 13 minutes ago, Gaeta said: How to spot a quality man? Because last one sure felt like a quality man until he asked for money. Really? Wasn't he the one who love bombed you with all his boilerplate "poetry"? That he was most likely sending to many other women as well? The one who went full on wining and dining you on first meet? Gaeta, that isn't quality, it's contrived and phony! He had a disingenuous agenda which most men who come on that way have and sadly you fell for it. Thank goodness you didn't give him money! Plus one for that! You say you want to be "romanced" what does that even mean? It sounds like a Disney fairly tale. My advice? Look for real. Look for genuine. No love bombing, no excessive compliments or contrived poetry before first meet, meet for coffee or drinks and apps. Stay clear of men wanting to "romance" you right off the bat, it's one of the biggest scams out there. Keep it real. Edited September 23, 2021 by poppyfields 1
Author Gaeta Posted September 23, 2021 Author Posted September 23, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Really? Wasn't he the one who love bombed you with all his boilerplate "poetry"? That he was most likely sending to many other women as well? No no no not same man. The guy that asked me for money is Romeo. He did not love-bombed me, he was a gentleman from A to Z until he asked for money 6 weeks later. Rrmember he did not even gave me compliments, he was just very sweet and kind. Edited September 23, 2021 by Gaeta 1
poppyfields Posted September 23, 2021 Posted September 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: No no no not same man. The guy that asked me for money is Romeo. He did not love-bombed me, he was a gentleman from A to Z until he asked for money 6 weeks later. Rrmember he did not even gave me compliments, he was just very sweet and kind. Ok sorry, there were so many, I got mixed up, apologies! Did you talk about him in your other thread? I must have missed, I will go back and re-read.
Wiseman2 Posted September 23, 2021 Posted September 23, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: How to spot a quality man? Process of elimination. Made a list of red flags and deal breakers and stick to it. For example, lewd=out, broke=out, etc. Not: Free dinners+lewd= ok Sweettalk+broke= ok. Edited September 23, 2021 by Wiseman2 3
Author Gaeta Posted September 24, 2021 Author Posted September 24, 2021 I broke it. I could not stand it anymore. He felt l was juging him before getting to know him. That nowadays talking the way he does is ok. Him and l are at complete opposite ends. Anyway on to next. 7
Ami1uwant Posted September 24, 2021 Posted September 24, 2021 55 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I broke it. I could not stand it anymore. He felt l was juging him before getting to know him. That nowadays talking the way he does is ok. Him and l are at complete opposite ends. Anyway on to next. I’m. Ery co fused…was thus the same guy you said welder daughter understood the jokes thst you were going to date on Saturday?
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