TaPele Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 I haven't seen this girl for more than two years. We've taken several courses together in our university and had a handful of nice small talks together within breaks or waiting for courses to start, she's laughed and . We've messaged each other lately and I've always noticed she's kinda eager when it comes to writing. Last year she told me she was living with her parents (in a nearby city) since she was there when COVID began. The point is that I want to have a nice time with her outside of the academic sphere to see how she's doing and maybe try to check if it's possible to move towards another kind of relationship. But I do not know how to tell her I wanna see her without being too direct. Is it wrong to be too obvious? Like, if she tells me she's not here, I will tell her I would move there. Should I use the course we are both enroled on as an excuse?
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 You have a built in excuse. Ask if she wants to get together to study.
Ami1uwant Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 Gettogether with her like studying together at library. Ask her about getting together for lunch.
Author TaPele Posted September 15, 2021 Author Posted September 15, 2021 31 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: Gettogether with her like studying together at library. Ask her about getting together for lunch. Oh. I forgot to mention that universities are closed in my country because of COVID. We did get together to study at the university's library in the past
basil67 Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 Are you actively talking with her at the moment? If so, have you gotten into sharing details of your personal lives with each other? There are two reasons I ask this 1. It always helps to know if they already have a love interest before making any move, and 2. if you've already built an easy rapport, you may have a better chance
Wiseman2 Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 5 hours ago, TaPele said: .Last year she told me she was living with her parents (in a nearby city) How far away is she? Ask her to go for a low-key relaxed coffee in her area. You need to act friendly at first and determine if she is willing to date you. That will be easier to figure out if you ask her to get together.
basil67 Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: How far away is she? Ask her to go for a low-key relaxed coffee in her area. Great idea, as long as you're allowed this under your COVID restrictions. (I would dearly love to have a coffee with my BFF who lives 150kms from me) If not, what are the other options?
Blind-Sided Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 If you are actily talking... just ask her out to grab a coffee. Be direct !! If she is "eager" to talk with you... she is probably eager to go our with you. 1
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 Where you study together in person doesn't matter. Just get together. If lockdowns prohibit an in person meet, maybe Zoom or Facetime. Start talking about class but then broach other subjects
smackie9 Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 Stop being a chicken. Women like a guy that is confident. Ask her out. Nothing fancy. Meet up somewhere you can hang out like a cafe patio or a nice park, buy her something to eat on the way there or suggest a place. Just make sure it’s casual/ relaxed.
Nothanks Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 Just ask her for coffee and if you want to make it less obvious, tell her you would like to talk about “insert a topic relevant to your studies”. Like next semester courses. DO NOT take a course just to get near her. Please take your education more seriously than that. 1
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