Cheryl Grey Posted September 14, 2021 Posted September 14, 2021 A while back I enquired on this site about a colleague I was romantically interested in - with all the advice I was given, I opted not to say anything to this guy and leave things on the friendship level. We have stayed good friends, but those initial feelings have dissipated - it was the right move. Meanwhile I signed up to Bumble just over a month ago and within an hour of getting my profile up, I came across a match that I was interested in and he super swiped me (had to ask a millennial friend what that meant). Since that day we have chatted every day, along with phone and video calls, we had two dates doing activities we both enjoy (he lives in another town about an hour from me), third date was him staying over at my place - a weekend together planned soon. The compatibility in every respect is off the charts, and we are enjoying having the physical distance so we can take our time getting to know each other. We're both in our 50s. No talk of future anything other than seeing each other again - but so lovely to be with someone who makes an effort, is considerate, who communicates, who shows his interest and who sees me for who I am and who is comfortable being himself. There's something to be said for using chat to get to know someone - you can make your needs clear, give the other person time to consider, set your boundaries and expectations at your own pace... 4
Gaeta Posted September 14, 2021 Posted September 14, 2021 Live in the moment and enjoy it. Yes it's nice to meet someone that seems fully interested and puts in the efforts but only time will confirm this is all true. I make my needs and boundaries clear face to face this way I see his expression. That also does not give him enough time to come up an answer he'd customized to my needs like he would have time to do behind his phone. Online dating is a number game. You can get your lucky number right at the start or you can go through 100s of meetings before coming across someone worthy. 1
Author Cheryl Grey Posted September 14, 2021 Author Posted September 14, 2021 Oh I agree - face to face is important....as are the actions that match the words, no matter how the words come to you (phone, chat, F2F etc) My numbers came up first time - I was lucky...and time will tell
Foxhall Posted September 14, 2021 Posted September 14, 2021 18 hours ago, Cheryl Grey said: The compatibility in every respect is off the charts Ah thats nice for you, generally can be difficult find that scenario with online dating.
Wiseman2 Posted September 15, 2021 Posted September 15, 2021 On 9/14/2021 at 12:37 AM, Cheryl Grey said: a colleague I was romantically interested in . The compatibility in every respect is off the charts. We're both in our 50s. Excellent . Enjoy the dating. Was this the colleague?:
Author Cheryl Grey Posted September 16, 2021 Author Posted September 16, 2021 On 9/15/2021 at 7:48 PM, Wiseman2 said: Excellent . Enjoy the dating. Was this the colleague?: No, someone new to me. The colleague is a friend and has since moved to another town.... 1
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