Alpacalia Posted September 14, 2021 Posted September 14, 2021 OP not everyone dates other people at the same time so if that's not something that appeals to you and it causes you unnecessary stress, opt out. 1
mark clemson Posted September 14, 2021 Posted September 14, 2021 ^^ there is that as well. There is also, I suspect, a fairly sizable contingent that expect "monogamous dating" once they've advanced the relationship to sex. Really quite a bit of variation in practices/expectations out there. It was like that in the 80's and 90's as well. There seem to be those who have little to zero interest in multi-dating, those who curtail it rapidly, those who do it for a longer "solidification" period while gradual focusing on one partner, and those who "love the chase" and have little interest in doing other than multi-dating (sometimes fully honestly about it and sometimes not). 1
Els Posted September 14, 2021 Posted September 14, 2021 Can't tell if serious. Where do you expect him to keep his phone if not in his pocket... in a purse???
Alpacalia Posted September 14, 2021 Posted September 14, 2021 (edited) @Elswythor a fanny belt. 3 hours ago, mark clemson said: ^^ there is that as well. There is also, I suspect, a fairly sizable contingent that expect "monogamous dating" once they've advanced the relationship to sex. Really quite a bit of variation in practices/expectations out there. It was like that in the 80's and 90's as well. There seem to be those who have little to zero interest in multi-dating, those who curtail it rapidly, those who do it for a longer "solidification" period while gradual focusing on one partner, and those who "love the chase" and have little interest in doing other than multi-dating (sometimes fully honestly about it and sometimes not). Indeed. And, it may be preferable for OP to date people that share a similar mindset based on her own dating preferences. Edited September 14, 2021 by Alpaca 1
SumGuy Posted September 17, 2021 Posted September 17, 2021 On 9/13/2021 at 7:30 PM, Classicfiction said: Yeah I think the internet makes it even more difficult to know when someone's commited or not. It adds a whole other layer to what everybody already deals with trying to keep a relationship together. Internet just makes it easier to connect with others, but also makes it easier to find out if people are connecting. It's always been difficult to gauge true commitment, the world has had cheaters and players long before the internet. I believe the more important questions are what level of commitment are you looking for and even more importantly when. It doesn't hurt to get this out there up front, avoids a lot of hassles. I am the other person can "date" however much you want until we get to the point of sex, then it is just us being committed to only sleeping with each other while things last. I aimed for a relationship so not a ONS kind of last, but sometimes things end more quickly than others. Personally after date 3 or 4 I will focus on that person (and stop dating others until see where it goes) or move on.
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