scobro Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 I know everyone is different with this but after no contact and things are for sure "over" approximately how long does it take to start feeling normal again as far as feeling single and not hurting over the separation/divorce anymore?.I talked to someone and they told me in 6 months you start feeling good about yourself again.In some books I have read 1 year.Whats your opinion on this how long has it been for you?
Rocko Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 There is no such timeline. Instead, there is a "process." Look up other posts in regards to this. Just take it easy. I was able to get over my ex in about 2 months, but I am blessed with the gift of strong will. It all depends on your own school of thought, really. Do you WANT to get better? You will if you want to.
Wiksta Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 I am with Rocko and don't be concerned over how long or how short it takes for you to "rebound". Now is a good time for reflection and building a greater understanding of yourself. Rebuilding your own ties with yourself can be most benificial and the cause of new growth as a human being here and isn't this always a good thing :-) When dealing with a loss it is important to respect each part of the process to give yourself time to heal, regroup, rebuild and start a new path =) A great book on the grieving process and dealing with loss of anykind is titled ... "The Grieving Indian" .. sorry I forgot the authors name :-( I will try to find it. Peace and may the force be with you! =) ****Yikes, I didnt mean to triple post =( Sorry
In Sync Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 When dealing with a loss it is important to respect each part of the process to give yourself time to heal, regroup, rebuild and start a new path This is so true. This particular breakup was harder than any other I had experienced before. And I have gone through peeling layers upon layers to see what happened and why did it take a toll on me. Aside from the obvious differences of my wants from the ex, and the conflicts of personality types...I have been looking deep at me. Facing things I've avoided and learning how to pick myself up again..a long way from the feeling of wanting to curl up and die. Everyday I have shed new lights about me and finding the strength to rebuild. I think it's been a gift in the long run. Would I have preferred it not to happen..Of course, but hadn't I gone through it I might have gone on being unaware about me for an indefinite amount of time and made more unwise choices leading to further unnecessary suffering in my life. The other night I had coffee with a man who displayed more than a casual interest. And I knew I was still in a healing mode. I was totally not ready to think about flirting or anything along those lines. It was good to realize for myself don't rush into anything until I'm ready..rushing would have in the past been my habit to attach onto to someone just to get over a breakup.
Jeannie Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 It's been a little over 4 months for me and I was doing good until recently - I'm having relapses and really missing him. Having panic attacks and all and it's weird - everywhere I go I see his name. I went to the mall and there was one of those beltbuckles that has a scrolling marquee - lo and behold the name scrolling on it was his name. This is my favorite time of the year and we usually spend alot of time up at his ranch (hunting season starts). Why all of a sudden all the anger and resentment dissapears and all I do is think about him and miss him terribly? Plus not having sex in over 4 months is making me nuts. I want him back. To survive this period I'm kicking in major workouts every day. I figured when I do run into him again I want to look hot. Looking good is the best revenge. But why do I even care? Ugh - the feelings make ya crazy.
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