elaine567 Posted September 12, 2021 Posted September 12, 2021 21 minutes ago, Interstellar said: if you look like amber heard’s twin sister why should any guy not come on strong and heavy?....i kid, i kid yes, just tell him politely in straight english that you just got out of a really bad relationship, and you want to take things really, really, really slowly and that he doesn’t lovebomb you. IF he IS a love bomber and a potential abuser, telling him she just got out of an abusive marriage will be exactly what he wants to hear... "victim" plastered on her forehead. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 12, 2021 Posted September 12, 2021 47 minutes ago, elaine567 said: IF he IS a love bomber and a potential abuser, telling him she just got out of an abusive marriage will be exactly what he wants to hear... "victim" plastered on her forehead. I agree. Unfortunately, she's already told him.
Interstellar Posted September 12, 2021 Posted September 12, 2021 (edited) 10 hours ago, elaine567 said: IF he IS a love bomber and a potential abuser, telling him she just got out of an abusive marriage will be exactly what he wants to hear... "victim" plastered on her forehead. So a love bomber is a potential abuser? because he sounds more like a wimp to me. at least this guy does. but in either case, if her gut tells her otherwise then she doesn’t have to see him. Edited September 12, 2021 by Interstellar 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 12, 2021 Posted September 12, 2021 30 minutes ago, Interstellar said: So a love bomber is a potential abuser? It's not at all unusual for abusers to love-bomb. Whether this guy is an abuser is anyone's guess. There could be a number of less sinister reasons why he's behaving this way. The important point is that OP is uncomfortable with it, which would suggest this is not a good match.
JK130443D Posted September 13, 2021 Posted September 13, 2021 As a guy and lets say im this guy - he obviously likes you a lot hes keen. Id want you to to communicating with me telling me where im going wrong. I know youve already told him to slow it down but maybe sit down and have a proper chat with him about it. Some people are just really giddy with their phone and on it all day. You must like him to be posting on here but yeah i can see why your put off 1
Crazelnut Posted September 13, 2021 Posted September 13, 2021 Slightly OT, but I think you should keep the previous abusive relationship to yourself for a little while. No need to blab that on a first date, or even the first month. It can be interpreted as either you're kinda messed up emotionally/mentally, you have a bad picker, or you're a perfect victim for another abuser. Nobody needs to know that until you know each other a lot better. In short, TMI early in a relationship.
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