Noproblem Posted September 10, 2021 Posted September 10, 2021 13 hours ago, lana-banana said: Why would you say this to someone? If I told someone I was nervous and they responded with "that's the idea" I'd find them rude and unkind. yes, very unkind thing to say! I would never say that to someone who says they are nervous, I would try to understand why they are nervous and try to lighten up the mood, but she decided he is unworthy of her graceful manner since he used drugs before and has a tattoo!
basil67 Posted September 10, 2021 Posted September 10, 2021 @mortensorchid I find it ironic that you were recently in tears because of a behaviour of a recent date, yet have no understanding of how your own behaviour can be equally unpleasant. If you really found him to be "throwaway", why not cut the date short instead of "enduring" him and being so rude? 5
Caauug Posted September 10, 2021 Posted September 10, 2021 On 9/8/2021 at 11:00 AM, mortensorchid said: I decided within minutes that this was one of those throw away guys. And.... On 9/8/2021 at 11:00 AM, mortensorchid said: Immediate next, but had to endure the evening with him. And... On 9/9/2021 at 11:02 AM, mortensorchid said: I have no idea if he still uses and not going to find out. @mortensorchid, you did what you felt you had to do..... It was you wearing the shoes at that date, not any of us!!! It is what it is... Please don't take offence at my comment, I just want to point out a few things that we are all guilty of and sometimes rightfully so.... "One of those throw away guys"? This happens a lot. Why??? It's now the norm, deal with it.... "I have no idea if he still uses and not going to find out". That's your preference and that's fine. Some of the rest of us look at him as, he has made a mistake, he knows that, and he now knows his limitations. He has no excuses for any relapses because he knows better.... If only everyone else was accountable for their mistakes like he is!!!! WOW!!! By coming clean and telling you he was a user he is admitting weakness and also telling you to keep him accountable for his actions.... Not many people will admit that... Note: It was you @mortensorchid in that date and none of us... You did what you felt was best for you at that point in time. That's important!!! Good luck, keep trying.
Wiseman2 Posted September 10, 2021 Posted September 10, 2021 This may be the type of dude who needs to see "not interested" tattooed on your forehead to get it.
NuevoYorko Posted September 13, 2021 Posted September 13, 2021 He might well be an addict in recovery. That's still a valid reason to move on from him, but he has a valid reason not to put this on his OLD profile, for heaven's sake. I think it's out of line for you to ask him about the placement of his tattoo; generally people with ink do not think that their body art is something they should explain to strangers. That said, you asked, you got an answer that puts him in the "nope" category, so who cares what he thinks of you. Regarding your original question - you have a facade on purpose to conceal who you really are. How could anyone "read" you? 2
Angelle Posted September 14, 2021 Posted September 14, 2021 (edited) On 9/9/2021 at 9:37 AM, lana-banana said: Why would you say this to someone? If I told someone I was nervous and they responded with "that's the idea" I'd find them rude and unkind. So would I. A couple of years ago, when I reconnected with someone, he wanted to call me. I told him I was a bit nervous, and he said, "So am I." Which made me feel better. It was just reassuring. He didn't put me down. Edited September 14, 2021 by Angelle
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