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For the first time in a very long time I got noticed by a guy. OK, maybe I am a bit exaggerating here, lol.  But  I was saying in every single one of my posts that guys find me invisible and that in real life I never get approached by men. 

So, today I took a day off and went shopping at the Mall. I was wearing old jeans and  had minimal makeup on. Anyhow, there was one guy who was holding a door for me to get into the Mall. He smiled at me. And I smiled back at him. We kept running into each other several times while I was going from store to store. Don't think he was following me, it sort of happened. And then just like that, he asked me to have a coffee with him. I said yes, of course. 

He is good looking but a bit young for me. I am 43 and he is 34. We are at a different stages of our lives. He though that I was a lot younger, I thought that he was a bit older. In any case, he asked my number and wants to see me again. He seems nice.  I don't believe that he is looking for just sex, but what do I know, lol. I was wrong many times before. Don't think anything is going to come out of this but it was nice to get noticed. My confidence level was pretty low and being noticed by a hot guy gave me a an energy boost.

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Sure he wasn’t stalking you?

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@Alvi That is great news!!

Keep us updated...

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9 years.... not a big deal.   Wishing you luck on it. 

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Not being made up and just showing a smile made you approachable. Lets see where this takes you.

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The age difference is nothing at that level. You need to sit back and enjoy it instead of waiting for the other shoe to drop. You will create a self fulfilling prophecy if you analyze too much.

A guy asked you out, you went to coffee. He wants to see you again. That is all you know and all you can know. Whatever you were wrong about before has nothing to do with this guy.

I will add that all guys are looking for sex, always. It doesn't mean that is all he is looking for. The reason I say this is because if he escalates or shows romantic interest in you, I have a feeling you will think he just wants sex and run because your past taught you, "He ONLY wants sex". So if he ups the ante and mentions sex etc., as long as he is not turning every conversation topic back to sex, just remember it is natural and usually the guys job to escalate past chit chat at some point.

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