Dating someone with loose morals

[Noproblem]

I think this is a case where your tradition and religions oppose the idea of a woman sleeping with both genders or sleeping with anyone before you.. so you call her loose or loose morals.. but in the end you mean she is loose

 

eventually, you won't accept her

so leave her be..

 

easy as that!

 

[ShyViolet]

She has "loose morals" according to you, just because she is bisexual?  Do this woman a favor and dump her.  You aren't sexually compatible.  You are looking for someone who is straight.  Ok fine.  But don't label her as having "loose morals."  

[smackie9]

Well this thread is going around in circles....where does this end? OP you are not getting anything unless you are going to give us information.

[Miss Spider]

Bisexual  means you’re sexually attracted to both men and women. Doesn’t say anything about your lifestyle or morals. You can be bisexual and not have had sex before with anyone 

[smackie9]

You are intimidated with her sexual experience am I right? She's pretty, outgoing, a far cry from your own caliber. The only way you can comprehend this type of person is that she must have loose morals in order to be this way. She's fun, exciting, but her being independent/strong sexuality is a thread to your insecurity.

[basil67]

4 hours ago, skins33 said:

Would you consider a liberal/bisexual man to have different values and probably a different lifestyle than a hetero man? Course you would.

Here's a thought: How about asking a question without supplying the answer you think I would say  .    You know what they say about those who assume. 

My LGBTQ friends and acquaintances are as diverse in their sexual choices and lifestyles as my straight friends are.  

Edited September 6, 2021 by basil67

[poppyfields]

To the OP, I dont understand the assumption/judgment that just because she is bi, she has loose morals, different values and/or different lifestyle?

It sounds like your belief is because she is bi, she is somehow promiscuous and loose which is a false assumption.

Straight people can be promiscuous with loose morals and questionable values just as readily as bi.

And bi can be just as loyal, faithful and committed as straight. 

The only difference between bi and straight is bi have more people to choose from to either be loyal and committed to, OR promiscuous with, given they are biologically wired to feel attractions and fall in love with both men and women.

 

Edited September 6, 2021 by poppyfields

[DKT3]

As per usual whenever a man is posting about being uncomfortable with a women's sexual past, it gets turned upside-down and his feelings are dismissed as invalid. 

 

Laser focus on the bisexuality and I've not seen one post or poster address the fact that she flirts with people right in front of him. I dont know that it equates to loose morals but it definitely should give pause to advancing in the relationship. 

[poppyfields]

16 minutes ago, DKT3 said:

As per usual whenever a man is posting about being uncomfortable with a women's sexual past, it gets turned upside-down and his feelings are dismissed as invalid. 

Laser focus on the bisexuality and I've not seen one post or poster address the fact that she flirts with people right in front of him. I dont know that it equates to loose morals but it definitely should give pause to advancing in the relationship. 

Well then he should address THAT, her flirting with others in front of him.  OR her sexual past if that bothers him.

THAT is the issue, not her bisexuality.

And for the record, straight people readily flirt with others in front of their partners too, they can also be quite sexually promiscuous and "loose."

Leave her bisexuality out of it, it's not relevant; again her flirting with others in front of him or a promiscuous past IS.

Address and question those things.

 

Edited September 7, 2021 by poppyfields

[DKT3]

17 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Well then he should address THAT, her flirting with others in front of him.  OR her sexual past if that bothers him.

THAT is the issue, not her bisexuality.

And for the record, straight people readily flirt with others in front of their partners too, they can also be quite sexually promiscuous and "loose."

Leave her bisexuality out of it, it's not relevant; again her flirting with others in front of him or a promiscuous past IS.

Address and question those things.

 

Its all part of why he is uncomfortable and unsure if he should continue. 

I find it disingenuous when anyone comes on here and says something is invalid for concern.  The truth is we all have disqualification in  relationships.  Whether it be race, religion,  political views or whatever it is that makes you feel uncomfortable.  

Bottom line is his feelings are valid, it doesn't matter if anyone else agrees, but telling him he is wrong because her bisexuality  makes him uncomfortable is hypocritical at the least.

[poppyfields]

9 minutes ago, DKT3 said:

Its all part of why he is uncomfortable and unsure if he should continue. 

I find it disingenuous when anyone comes on here and says something is invalid for concern.  The truth is we all have disqualification in  relationships.  Whether it be race, religion,  political views or whatever it is that makes you feel uncomfortable.  

Bottom line is his feelings are valid, it doesn't matter if anyone else agrees, but telling him he is wrong because her bisexuality  makes him uncomfortable is hypocritical at the least.

His feelings are valid, never said they weren't.  They are the one thing we are all entitled to - our own feelings.  

However, it appears his feelings are based on false assumptions concerning bisexuality and prejudice.

If he is uncomfortable and wants to dump her due to his own prejudice and false assumptions, that is certainly his right, I agree with you. 

If on the other hand, he is uncomfortable because she is a huge flirt and has an active sexual past, then again, he should focus and address those things.

Edited September 7, 2021 by poppyfields

[DKT3]

Just now, poppyfields said:

His feelings are valid, never said they weren't.  They are the one thing we are all entitled to - our own feelings.  

However, it appears his feelings are based on false assumptions and prejudice against her being bisexual. 

If he wants to dump her due to his own prejudice and false assumptiins, that is certainly his right, I agree with you. 

Are they? How do you know? All I know is he is uncomfortable because she is bisexual had lots of sexual partners and flirts with people in front on him. Not sure that makes is assumptions wrong.  

As I said, this is usually what happens whenever a man expresses doubt based on a women's sexual past.  

[basil67]

46 minutes ago, DKT3 said:

Laser focus on the bisexuality and I've not seen one post or poster address the fact that she flirts with people right in front of him. I dont know that it equates to loose morals but it definitely should give pause to advancing in the relationship. 

You're reading things that aren't there.

He didn't say that she flirts with people right in front of him - he said that he's seen her flirt with women.  I assumed that this was before they were together, just as you assumed it was when they were together.  Fact is, we don't know the truth.

He hasn't said anything about her past.  I made a point of asking what makes him think that she has loose morals and he didn't respond. 

The only thing we have to go on is that she's bisexual.   He's given no information as to what makes him think she's got loose morals. 

[basil67]

8 minutes ago, DKT3 said:

Are they? How do you know? All I know is he is uncomfortable because she is bisexual had lots of sexual partners and flirts with people in front on him. Not sure that makes is assumptions wrong.  

And again, he's said nothing about her having had lots of sexual partners.  Where are you getting this information from?

[DKT3]

Just now, basil67 said:

You're reading things that aren't there.

He didn't say that she flirts with people right in front of him - he said that he's seen her flirt with women.  I assumed that this was before they were together, just as you assumed it was when they were together.  Fact is, we don't know the truth.

He hasn't said anything about her past.  I made a point of asking what makes him think that she has loose morals and he didn't respond. 

The only thing we have to go on is that she's bisexual.   He's given no information as to what makes him think she's got loose morals. 

So assumptions are ok to support your argument? How can you assume it was before they dated.

Truth is this is a useless debate. Its simply groundhog day on any post were a man is uncomfortable it his partner sexual past. Just glanced at another were his girlfriend demanded his sexual past but is vague and dishonest about hers, of course he is in the wrong, told its his issue. 

 

I will bow out now.

[poppyfields]

 

31 minutes ago, DKT3 said:

As I said, this is usually what happens whenever a man expresses doubt based on a women's sexual past

 

36 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

If he is uncomfortable and wants to dump her due to his own prejudice and false assumptions, that is certainly his right, I agree with you. 

If on the other hand, he is uncomfortable because she is a huge flirt and has an active sexual past, then again, he should focus and address those things.

@DKT3, what exactly do you claim is "once again what usually happens"?

Excuse me but did you miss my above quoted post? 

He has the right to be uncomfortable about whatever he wants, NEVER said he did not.

Nor did anyone else. 

However, the fact remains his assumption that her behavior stems from her being bisexual is prejudice and discriminatory and if you think I am going to keep quiet about that, you are sadly mistaken.

 

Edited September 7, 2021 by poppyfields

[Miss Spider]

Don’t see why it is necessarily useless to point out that bisexuality has no notable correlation with morality. Standing alone, tge original post seems to imply that

He came here for opinions. He probably knew not many people would say “you’re taking a chance dating bi people. They’re  immoral heathens”

Edited September 7, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[basil67]

22 minutes ago, DKT3 said:

So assumptions are ok to support your argument? How can you assume it was before they dated.

Truth is this is a useless debate. Its simply groundhog day on any post were a man is uncomfortable it his partner sexual past. Just glanced at another were his girlfriend demanded his sexual past but is vague and dishonest about hers, of course he is in the wrong, told its his issue. 

 

I will bow out now.

My argument is that he hasn't given enough information to answer the question, hence me asking him the question as to why he feels her morals are loose.

The only thing he's said about her sexual past is that she's had partners of both genders.  He's mentioned nothing about high numbers or cheating.   And hasn't said when the flirting was happening.  In short, without further information, his question is unanswerable. 

[mortensorchid]

Her being bi is not the issue it's her attitude.  Is she really bi or does she kind of "perform" before others as this?  I have known gals who make out with girls before others at parties, get into threesomes, appeared in porn, etc.  Have I?  No I haven't.  Why?  Because it's not my thing.  There is a fine line between experimentation and being trashy.