ExpatInItaly Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 He's making all kinds of excuses to not see you, OP. Just walk away from this. It's fizzling out anyway. 3
poppyfields Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 13 minutes ago, GoodVibess said: he texted me saying he likes me and wants to see me a lot but not if i’m asking for food. In other words, he doesn't want to have to spend any money on you, like taking you out to dinner or for a bite to eat. Where does he get the idea that you are golddigger, wanting him to spend his money on you? Have you ever taken him out to eat, paid for it? Not excusing him, I don't think this guy is into you, AT ALL. And it's like he wants you to know it too! I mean his behavior is just so blatant, he couldn't be more obvious. But as with most threads, you will simply have to learn this the hard way, which is fine, it's how we learn. We'll be here when that happens, good luck. 1
Miss Spider Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 1 hour ago, GoodVibess said: he told me i am a gold digger because i wanted him to take me to the capital of the US i wanted to have a nice dinner at Georgetown with a nice view…..we live about 1 hour from there he said it was too far for him and i am trying to spend all his money he bought a 2021 GT he has $ he’s lying to me! Sounds like he’s totally too broke for you anyway . Plus he drives a tacky a** car. Lol just kidding anyone who drives that
Wiseman2 Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 2 hours ago, GoodVibess said: problem is he is only in the area for a week he’s leaving sunday back to his apartment. he lives 2 hours away. Is he married?
Author GoodVibess Posted August 31, 2021 Author Posted August 31, 2021 11 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Is he married? no, but he lives there due to his job. rn he’s spending the whole week here since he could work from home at his parents house. he said next week he’s leaving to go back to work in his office.
hannabolics95 Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 13 hours ago, GoodVibess said: lol everyone blames me no one has been helpful. like he isn’t at fault Self awareness is an attractive trait, please remember that. If he isn't at fault - why are you asking the question you're asking?
Daisydooks Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 On 8/30/2021 at 9:57 PM, Cookiesandough said: Ohhhh I didn’t know. I still don’t think it is likely enough to even be considered here, but that’s interesting. ( & with living on a resort down having an impact) . I’m gonna be a bit confessional right now and say that I have told them I’ve sent messages when I haven’t and then I have also told them I haven’t received their messages when I had them blocked or I just forgot to respond I didn’t want to respond for whatever reason. Then I have deleted the messages ( in the cases they were blocked, I skipped this step) and I sent them screenshots of what I “received“ and they were like wow “I cannot believe that it didn’t go through! I thought you were ignoring me” and I was like yeahhh noo wayyyy I thought you ignored me lol Samesies 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 7 hours ago, GoodVibess said: no, but he lives there due to his job. rn he’s spending the whole week here since he could work from home at his parents house. he said next week he’s leaving to go back to work in his office. You would be wise to take the very obvious hint that he has lost interest, girl.
IrinaM Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 Quote he told me i need to eat before meeting him… Please tell me this is a joke. 2
Wiseman2 Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 10 hours ago, GoodVibess said: no, but he lives there due to his job. Has he ever invited you to his apartment? No? Then you have no idea what his life is like there. Don't't bother with him. He views you as nothing. Don't chase jerks
Author GoodVibess Posted September 1, 2021 Author Posted September 1, 2021 3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Has he ever invited you to his apartment? No? Then you have no idea what his life is like there. Don't't bother with him. He views you as nothing. Don't chase jerks he has invited me and i have gone but you’re right, ever since he got his car back he has been acting different i guess he was using me for rides.
Author GoodVibess Posted September 1, 2021 Author Posted September 1, 2021 6 hours ago, IrinaM said: Please tell me this is a joke. it’s not a joke, he told me that. i feel he was using me this whole time since he has a car now.
smackie9 Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 When things don't feel right, that's because they are not. Should have punted him to the curb at the first sign of trouble. Talk is cheap, his actions speak volumes.
introverted1 Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 On 8/31/2021 at 8:38 AM, d0nnivain said: It's illegal in the US for an employer to not give breaks. He's lying to you. That's technically true, but if you are in a professional capacity, it's possible to be in back-to-back meetings all day without a break. Exempt employees don't get breaks, per se. Anyway... OP, sounds like this guy is low interest, at best. The first month of dating should be fun and light-hearted, not filled with issues that have to be worked through. Perhaps he has simply recognized that you two are not a fit. It's only been a month, so you should just move on. 1
d0nnivain Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 1 hour ago, GoodVibess said: ever since he got his car back he has been acting different i guess he was using me for rides. Alas that is probably insightful on your part. Yikes. Be done with him.
Snow_Queen Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 The things he had said to you and the way he’s acting towards you should be an instant turn off. He’s taking a very, very long route of breaking up with you without actually saying it. A lot of guys do this to avoid drama and hope you take the hint.
Amanda92 Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 (edited) He just doesn't like you. Yes, guys text everyday, but only when they like a girl. And he even told you that doors are open. Do you really think after all these things that he will like you? You deserve better, just walk away and find a nice guy. Edited September 1, 2021 by Amanda92 1
Wiseman2 Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 1 hour ago, GoodVibess said: i feel he was using me this whole time since he has a car now. Dump him. Delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps. It's that simple. 2
Author GoodVibess Posted September 1, 2021 Author Posted September 1, 2021 32 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Dump him. Delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps. It's that simple. i will, i’m saying goodbye and i do deserve better he’s a waste of my time.
Author GoodVibess Posted September 1, 2021 Author Posted September 1, 2021 thank you everyone, i will move on and find a guy who actually is interested in me. 2
Amanda92 Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 Very smart! I was in a similar situation too, but now I know that if a man cares, you just feel it. 1
Author GoodVibess Posted September 1, 2021 Author Posted September 1, 2021 10 minutes ago, Amanda92 said: Very smart! I was in a similar situation too, but now I know that if a man cares, you just feel it. oh for sure, i just don’t like getting stringed along unfortunately it happens to me a lot.
d0nnivain Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 Just now, GoodVibess said: i just don’t like getting stringed along unfortunately it happens to me a lot. Maybe it's time to look for patterns if this happens to you alot. I was struck by how you characterized this fledging interaction off OLD as already having "ups & downs". maybe you get strung along because you don't properly read the signs that there are problems. A month in things should be easy, flowing smoothing & steadily getting better. When there are ups & down that early it's some indication that things are not working. Maybe you need a more critical eye & a more skeptical attitude 1
stillafool Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 19 hours ago, GoodVibess said: he texted me saying he likes me and wants to see me a lot but not if i’m asking for food. Did you tell him you'll bring your own sandwich? I'm kidding but I've never read anything like this before. This guy is cheap. I'm cracking up. Seriously OP, he doesn't even want to buy you a bag of potato chips. Dump this guy. 2
Author GoodVibess Posted September 1, 2021 Author Posted September 1, 2021 17 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Maybe it's time to look for patterns if this happens to you alot. I was struck by how you characterized this fledging interaction off OLD as already having "ups & downs". maybe you get strung along because you don't properly read the signs that there are problems. A month in things should be easy, flowing smoothing & steadily getting better. When there are ups & down that early it's some indication that things are not working. Maybe you need a more critical eye & a more skeptical attitude that is true, i do get carried away i guess it’s because i don’t have trust. and asking for consistent communication from my part for only knowing him 30 days was a bad idea and also i never let him imitate any hang out. i fear he was losing interest since he didn’t mention it so i did it instead.
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