hannabolics95 Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 He had been following me on Instagram for a while and noticed I put up a story about a loved one and euthanasia and he reached out with a nice message and it went from there. Having been speaking for a few weeks, we ended up going out for dinner. Had very good chats, seems like a really lovely guy and nothing sexual. The odd compliment, but in good taste. Some cute messages to each other, like him sending me photos of what he does for work and him telling me that he often thinks about me. He picked me up from my house and before he got to mine, he texted me saying would I like him to meet my parents or just pick me up. Nice offer. He paid for dinner and it went really well in terms of chats, felt like a really caring and respectful guy, talked about family and all those nice things. He dropped me home and did not indicate anything about going back to his which was good. When we got back to my house to drop me home, my mother was just coming home and he waited and said hello to her. He then said she was lovely. I could tell he wanted to kiss as he sort of just kept looking at me, I said something and then we kissed. Honestly was quite slow and passionate. He asked if I would like to see him again and said yes. He has offered breakfast and study dates before previously. He messaged me and thanked me for the fun night. He told me that an ex-girlfriend he had years ago was quite toxic and they argued a lot, I asked him in what way and he told me that they had different opinions on aborting a certain child for specific issues, I told him that I agreed with his point and that was good. Good signs? **TL;DR** nothing indicates that he doesn't want a relationship. Only concern is that we still communicate via Instagram DM (perhaps out of habit).
d0nnivain Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 They are all good signs but nothing in there screams relationship to me yet. He does have manners which is nice. Keep talking to him & going on dates. Relationships evolve by action of spending time together. 1
smackie9 Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 Ya keep talking and getting to know him on dates. I hope he is taking time to get to know you too.
Ami1uwant Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 There is no decipher key available. relationships is more than just interest and attraction or if this becomes friends only or something more. early on he might have interest but (1) you aren’t showing signs for him to easily get in terms of something more (2) or he might have initial interest but in talking to you he might see too many differences between you two.
glows Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 Euthanasia and abortion are morbid subjects to connect on so early and it's only one date in several weeks. Why did he feel the need to discuss his ex gf of several years past on your first date? I'd limit the online chit chat and see whether he is open to more dates and meeting in person and has the ability to exercise discretion. I wouldn't think very well of a person I've just met calling someone else toxic in conversation. He seems like he's carrying a heavy emotional burden. Keep things a bit more lighthearted and let us know how it goes.
FudgeSwirl Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 The fact that you are getting along well and that he manners sounds great. You just have to keep seeing each other and talking in order to see if this will turn into a relationship as long as that is what you both want. If you wish to communicate with him outside of IG, you can suggest swapping numbers.
Lauriebell82 Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 (edited) It sounds promising..BUT. It's been my experience that when a man wants a relationship he will flat out TELL you this is what he wants. If he doesn't say this (or you have to wonder or go fishing for info from him) then it means he either isn't sure of what he wants yet, or probably is just looking for something casual. Could a relationship develop still naturally? Sure. But one thing I have learned from my dating experiences is that for men, the timing has to be right for him to want a relationship and the match has to be right (meaning the girl). If those two things don't line up then (unlike women) men can usually just date and sleep with women until they actually DO find the right match at the right time. Edited August 31, 2021 by Lauriebell82 1
Miss Spider Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 They say it within the first few dates.
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