Ami1uwant Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 1 hour ago, JRabbit said: Is it common to add potential date interests to FB? I reserve that for people I know, close friends etc. Seems like a bad idea to just add everyone you want to date. would be not the best to do until after relationship is established 1
basil67 Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 8 hours ago, d0nnivain said: While people get to disagree about politics, even divisive politics, this man agreed to this date & then cancelled when she was already at the location. Nothing excuses that level of rudeness. Personally, I'd prefer to be cancelled on at last minute than attend a date with someone who pretends to be nice to me but secretly finds my beliefs abhorrent. 4
d0nnivain Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 Fair point @basil67 but if the guy had shown up & was a jerk to her face about her beliefs @mortensorchid could have at least gotten pissed which is a more productive emotion then anger. What he did just made her feel humiliated, especially since she went out of her way for him.
Mrin Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 (edited) Pinko commie hippie liberal scum here. I'm dating a dyed in the wool Trump supporting vaccine hating bovine dewormer loving woman. It has been a growing experience in tolerance and avoiding ANY talk of politics. Dude should have shown up. His loss... Edited August 30, 2021 by Mrin 4 1
Pumpernickel Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 10 hours ago, JRabbit said: Is it common to add potential date interests to FB? I reserve that for people I know, close friends etc. Seems like a bad idea to just add everyone you want to date. Isn’t there FB dating now? I think it’s some sort of a spin-off based on Facebook or something. Maybe that’s what @mortensorchidis using? I remember other topics she started where she talks about guys who messaged her on FB. Maybe that’s why….. anyhow - the guy is an ass, and I don’t believe for one second that he spontaneously - just out of the blue - decided to check her profile when he should be driving (!!!) - to the restaurant!!! WTF. He must’ve seen her profile wayyyy before that. Not buying it. How rude! He was either looking for an excuse (not sure why), or wanted to put one over on her (for whatever reason). 1
Author mortensorchid Posted August 31, 2021 Author Posted August 31, 2021 2 hours ago, Pumpernickel said: Isn’t there FB dating now? I think it’s some sort of a spin-off based on Facebook or something. Maybe that’s what @mortensorchidis using? I remember other topics she started where she talks about guys who messaged her on FB. Maybe that’s why….. anyhow - the guy is an ass, and I don’t believe for one second that he spontaneously - just out of the blue - decided to check her profile when he should be driving (!!!) - to the restaurant!!! WTF. He must’ve seen her profile wayyyy before that. Not buying it. How rude! He was either looking for an excuse (not sure why), or wanted to put one over on her (for whatever reason). It wasn't through the Facebook dating app it was through banter. We were somehow connected (he's in the music scene) and he liked some of my posts. Somehow we got to chatting. Plan B? Plan B was to go to a burger place and get a bacon cheeseburger with peanut butter and a chocolate shake. How was I supposed to know this would turn out so badly?
Woggle Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 Be glad he showed his true colors. Dating him would have been a nightmare anyway because somebody like him would feel he has the right to treat you anyway he wants because you are the enemy.
Trail Blazer Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 @mortensorchid Would you have preferred that upon realizing that you're a Republican/Trump supporter, and that fact being a complete deal-breaker, he turn up anyway? I guess what it boils down to is, would you rather have had a dead-end date and not had your feelings crushed? Or be faced with the honest truth and not have wasted your time?
Trail Blazer Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 5 hours ago, Mrin said: Pinko commie hippie liberal scum here. I'm dating a dyed in the wool Trump supporting vaccine hating bovine dewormer loving woman. It has been a growing experience in tolerance and avoiding ANY talk of politics. Dude should have shown up. His loss... Wow dude, she must be some sort of a looker! There's no way I could do that! Hats off to you if you can pull this off. 5
Els Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 6 hours ago, d0nnivain said: Fair point @basil67 but if the guy had shown up & was a jerk to her face about her beliefs @mortensorchid could have at least gotten pissed which is a more productive emotion then anger. What he did just made her feel humiliated, especially since she went out of her way for him. What's the difference between being pissed off and angry? Personally, if I know there's literally zero chance of something working out, I would decline to show up too. I probably wouldn't just ghost them, but I'd send them a text saying that I don't think it'll work out and wishing them the best. What is the point of going on a date that you are 100% sure won't work out? This way at least they can chat at the bar, maybe hit it off with someone more compatible.
elaine567 Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 To quite a lot of people politics are very important. If you are going to announce your politics to the world on SM, then some people are not going to like it. Trump was a deal breaker for this guy, it could easily have been Biden with some other guy. I guess he was doing some homework on MO, just before he showed up and did not like what he saw. Fair enough. I guess it would have made for a very awkward date anyway.
basil67 Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 2 hours ago, Elswyth said: What's the difference between being pissed off and angry? I wonder if 'pissed' of US origin has a slightly different meaning to the British/Australia 'pissed off'
Trail Blazer Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 42 minutes ago, basil67 said: I wonder if 'pissed' of US origin has a slightly different meaning to the British/Australia 'pissed off' No. It means the same thing. Except, in Australia, you refer to 'pissed' as to be highly inebriated. In the U.S. 'pissed' is used as an adjective the same as 'pissed off' is in Australia/Britian.
elaine567 Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 5 minutes ago, Trail Blazer said: Except, in Australia, you refer to 'pissed' as to be highly inebriated. Same in the UK.
Trail Blazer Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 16 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Same in the UK. Of course. Commonwealth countries tend to share the usage of British idioms. I just referred to Australia in specifically as that is where @basil67 resides.
d0nnivain Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 4 hours ago, Elswyth said: What's the difference between being pissed off and angry? Sorry I meant pissed / angry is more productive than sad. Don't know why I typed what I did other than I was doing too many things at a 1 time & didn't prove read. 2
Blind-Sided Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 7 hours ago, mortensorchid said: 1) Plan B was to go to a burger place and get a bacon cheeseburger with peanut butter and a chocolate shake. 2) How was I supposed to know this would turn out so badly? 1) I know you made a post on the PB burger... but there's actually a place that sells that ?!?!?!? LOL 2) You don't. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted August 31, 2021 Author Posted August 31, 2021 (edited) 11 hours ago, Blind-Sided said: 1) I know you made a post on the PB burger... but there's actually a place that sells that ?!?!?!? LOL 2) You don't. 1) Yes there is! There is one place near me that does, it has been open since the 1930s and in those days it served peanut butter on hamburgers and still does! I just discovered it a while ago and it's strange yet so so tasty. And if you can't get it from the restaurant itself, bring it home and put peanut butter on it yourself. Edited August 31, 2021 by mortensorchid Adding more to the story
FMW Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 I've never had peanut butter on a burger. Hmm. I'll have to think about that.
Mrin Posted August 31, 2021 Posted August 31, 2021 17 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: Wow dude, she must be some sort of a looker! There's no way I could do that! Hats off to you if you can pull this off. That she is. While this has been a lesson in tolerance and acceptance it has also clued me into something else. Just because a person has abhorrent political political beliefs (to me) doesn't mean they are a bad person or a person I wouldn't want to be around. That's an interesting distinction because I think too often we think that certain beliefs automatically mean a person is somehow bad or incompatible. After a while you kind of forget. We were at a bar getting some chips and queso the other day after hiking. The TV was on in the corner over my shoulder. She does this nod thing at it and says, "God I love that woman". I turn around and Margorie Taylor Green was on it. Pretty much choked to death on the chips I was scarfing down. By the time I regained my composure, I looked at her and croaked, "omg don't say things like that. I won't be able to F you for a week now until I forget that you said that" Kidding/notkidding 1 1
Woggle Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 I threw a burger on the grill and put some peanut butter on it and it wasn't that bad. 1
Noproblem Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 I will say it again, I have said it before You really need to move to another city! Stop crying over these losers. they are not worth your tears! Many times the place really really limit your options, you actually have zero options where you live.. so you gotta move for real!
Shining One Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 On 8/30/2021 at 11:36 AM, GeorgiaPeach1 said: Did you ask her for the date, or did she ask you? I asked her. The series of events went like this: I asked her out, she said yes. I discovered a relationship deal-breaker a few days before the date. I went on the date. A couple of female friends said it was cruel for going on the date despite me knowing I had no interest in her at that point. 1
Shining One Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 1 hour ago, Noproblem said: I will say it again, I have said it before You really need to move to another city! Stop crying over these losers. they are not worth your tears I'd say she needs to work on the crying part first, otherwise she'll have the same problem when she gets rejected in another city. Stop getting so emotionally invested this early!
elaine567 Posted September 1, 2021 Posted September 1, 2021 The crying part was more about disappointment than being emotionally invested in this guy. She made a huge effort for this date, she had great hopes that this would be the turning point in her fortunes. She was seeking approval and validation. Instead she got rejection and annoyance. It was all too much, and the tears came. .Disappointment is a very intense emotion. 3
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