Princessmae098 Posted August 27, 2021 Posted August 27, 2021 So my ex fwb who I went to advice for told me that my current boyfriend will leave me if I had my boyfriends kids...why?
basil67 Posted August 27, 2021 Posted August 27, 2021 Why do you say your ex-FWB is mean? And what was the problem you asked advice for?
Author Princessmae098 Posted August 27, 2021 Author Posted August 27, 2021 Hes mean because of what I said... and we were just talking about why I shouldnt have kids when I'm not married cause I think I will end up alone
d0nnivain Posted August 27, 2021 Posted August 27, 2021 What he's explaining to you is that it's selfish to bring a child into this world so that you aren't lonely. Having kids is no guarantee that the baby daddy won't leave. It will tie you two together forever through the child but having a resentful baby daddy around is not the answer. You need to get more stable yourself. A kid will make your life worse, not cure your loneliness. You will end up resenting the kid. Your ex-FWB is not mean. It's just that painful truths hurt 3
stillafool Posted August 27, 2021 Posted August 27, 2021 10 hours ago, d0nnivain said: A kid will make your life worse, not cure your loneliness. You will end up resenting the kid. And, it's nor fair to the kid to bring them into the world without the support of a father. A kid will grow up and leave. Do you know how many people are in nursing homes who have kids they never see? Plenty.
Author Princessmae098 Posted August 27, 2021 Author Posted August 27, 2021 But my whole thing is what makes him think my boyfriend will leave me? That's the whole thing with this
stillafool Posted August 27, 2021 Posted August 27, 2021 Why didn't you ask him what he meant when he said that to you? How would we know?
Wiseman2 Posted August 27, 2021 Posted August 27, 2021 51 minutes ago, Princessmae098 said: But my whole thing is what makes him think my boyfriend will leave me? Because you are talking to this guy. Surely you don't announce to your BF that you are going to a former sex-buddy for "advice", no? So maybe your former FWB is saying be with your BF and stop running to him behind your BF's back.
basil67 Posted August 27, 2021 Posted August 27, 2021 1 hour ago, Princessmae098 said: But my whole thing is what makes him think my boyfriend will leave me? That's the whole thing with this If all was good in your relationship, you wouldn't be going to a guy you used to sleep with for advice. So, clearly there's something wrong and whatever that thing is makes your friend believe that the guy will leave if you have kids.
spiderowl Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 Does your boyfriend know you are thinking of having a baby? Surely he should be the one you would talk to about this. I don't know why your fwb said this. Maybe he thinks it is true; maybe he is jealous of your boyfriend and wants you to drop the boyfriend. It sounds like he is saying do not do anything as risky as having a baby without your boyfriend's wish and consent.
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