uRabbit Posted October 19, 2005 Posted October 19, 2005 So my girlfriend kinda cheated on me... She had a week-long relationship with a guy. He kissed her once and that started it. But they never saw each other after that; only talked on the phone. Well, I'm givin her a chance, because she's willing to do things right. I know she might do it again, but I'm takin that chance, so please no suggestions as far as that goes. Thanks. Anyway, she says that whenever she sees me or touches me, she gets flashbacks of how bad she hurt me and the arguments we had. I told her we could make new memories, but she said hers don't go away. I know they will though, so how do I convince her and encourage her to be strong?
expos Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 I hate to sound like a jerk...but once a cheater, always a cheater. She shows no respect to you by doing that. If you accept another stupid action done by her...its gives her a longer leash to make more mistakes. Get rid of her. You are better than her in probably every way based on how much you care for her and probably others. She doesn't care about others. You deserve better...and will find better. Sorry if I seem harsh....but I'm sick of seeing people like you being walked on by idiots. You are nobody's fool. Dump her.
Cecelius Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 So her over emotional status probably caused her to cheat on you (because only fairly needy high maintence women will cheat on you), and now, she is seeking constant reassurances about how you feel about her, even though SHE cheated on YOU -- basically her emotional make up is still the same. In fact, she's probably getting MORE attention and reassurance from you now. You do not reward a dog for cr@pping in your living room. Do not reward a girl for acting this way. Make sure she knows all bets are off, you will see how things go, etc.
fundamental Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 So her over emotional status probably caused her to cheat on you (because only fairly needy high maintence women will cheat on you), and now, she is seeking constant reassurances about how you feel about her, even though SHE cheated on YOU -- basically her emotional make up is still the same. In fact, she's probably getting MORE attention and reassurance from you now. You do not reward a dog for cr@pping in your living room. Do not reward a girl for acting this way. Make sure she knows all bets are off, you will see how things go, etc. I agree with Cecelius. Once things get back to normal and you are not giving her the extra attention that you gave her to keep her from cheating, she will CHEAT again. Yeah, women need attention...but if you are giving 110%, then it's too much. She doesn't seem to care about your feelings at all.
westernxer Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 I told her we could make new memories, but she said hers don't go away. I know they will though, so how do I convince her and encourage her to be strong? You're in for a lot of trouble.
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