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If someone is losing interest or has lost interest can it come back? Do you believe it's possible? If so how?

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Yes it's possible to get someone's interest back. It does however depend upon the reason why they lost interest in the first place. 

This can be tricky though because you have to ask yourself if it is worth potentially acting like someone you may not be in order to gain someone's interest back. This comes down to compatibility. It's one thing to work together on problems in an already established relationship. It's quite another to have to change your behavior/who you are to get someone reinterested in you. 

I used to try to change my behavior all the time because I would feel so threatened if people would lose interest in me. I couldn't handle rejection and it would take such a hit to my self esteem. But why would you want to act like someone you are not just to keep a partner? The right person will like you for you are. Not who they want you to be or who you are trying to be. 

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Sure it's possible, however unlikely. Of course, there are 2.5 billion people anxiously awaiting a second coming, believing it to be a certainty. But if you recently got kicked to the curb I'd say the best advice is to be realistic and try not to have expectations. Ways to engineer it? Be intriguing, inherit, make him jealous.

 

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If they do something unsavory?

Nope.

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2 hours ago, Firstlady07 said:

If someone is losing interest or has lost interest can it come back? Do you believe it's possible? If so how?

Depends on why it was list

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This guy?

If so, I'd say it's done at this point.  He's been more than patient.

 

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Anything is possible... but generally... I would say no.   It's just like the idiot going slow in the fast lane, and blocking you from getting around.  Even if they speed up... all you want to do is go around them, and put them in the rear view mirror.  (It's just human psychology) 

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7 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

This guy?

If so, I'd say it's done at this point.  He's been more than patient.

 

Yep... if it's him.... then  +2 months is a long time.  Especially if you were spending multiple days together. I'm not saying you have to jump into bed... but everyone's sex drive is different.  If you aren't a match... then you aren't a match.  Let him go, and move on. 

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Most of the time...it's a no.

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Boredom in a relationship can be overcome.  Loss of interest not so much.  Sometime people just outgrow each other.  

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You have to give us more details to give you a more helpful answer. The answer hinges on what was going on in the relationship that led to the disinterest.

Sometimes there is nothing specific--as in a violation or betrayal--that destroys interest. Could just be over time, someone learns that their partner isn't really what they want in a relationship. The partner might have done absolutely nothing wrong. 

 

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Very rare

 

He’s tired of waiting. You’re incompatible. 

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4 hours ago, Blind-Sided said:

Yep... if it's him.... then  +2 months is a long time.  Especially if you were spending multiple days together. I'm not saying you have to jump into bed... but everyone's sex drive is different.  If you aren't a match... then you aren't a match.  Let him go, and move on. 

It was 6 months at the time of that thread.  If it's the same guy and there's still been no sex, they're at the 8 month mark now.

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In another thread you said it takes you a while to warm up & become comfortable enough to have sex.  That is fine but understand something important: 

While many women, you included, need to feel loved in order to have sex, most men need to have sex to feel loved. 

If this guy has lost interest its because he has rightly concluded that you two are sexually incompatible & staying with you means he won't have the sex life he wants.  

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OP, if you're thinking about the guy in your last thread I would say no.  If he has now been involved with a sexual woman it's doubtful he's going to leave her and get back with you.  If you're offering sex at this time he more than likely will take it because he did invest 6 months in you but he won't stay.

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When the thread starter ghosts their own thread, is there any way to get them back?

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12 hours ago, salparadise said:

When the thread starter ghosts their own thread, is there any way to get them back?

We really need the laughing reaction back.

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