I finally told him I wanted more.

[bathanbc]

Love to see it. I always find being honest right from the start has helped building a healthy and long term relationships, especially when the other side has a different perception of the nature of the relationship.  

[Justanaverageguy]

Best course of action you can take. Well done

In relationships like this - if you let things "coast" on it basically sends signals to the guy that you don't value yourself or have confidence in yourself. When you want a real relationship but are too afraid to actually say it.

That feeling you said you got after you sent the message. That you feel unf**ckable with. This type of thing projects that and it honestly makes Guys respect a girl a lot more. When you value yourself highly .... Guys value you more as well.

It doesn't always necessarily lead to a long term relationship ..... But if it's ever going to happen then you need to take this step and have this attitude. Take it or leave it lets the guy know that either he is in or you are moving on - it shows a lot of confidence and very often completely changes a guys approach to a woman. (And at worst cuts to the chase and saves you wasting more time then you needed to).

Wish you the best whatever outcome 

Edited August 26, 2021 by Justanaverageguy

[Wiseman2]

On 8/24/2021 at 10:21 AM, kween321 said:

He said he needed until the end of the week to think about it .

Agree. Why tolerate lukewarm on/off relationships?

Anyone who has to "think about" whether they want you in their lives is someone to immediately kick to the curb.

Turn this around. In the future don't ask or beg to be in someone's life, decide if you want them in your life.

[poppyfields]

8 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

In the future don't ask or beg to be in someone's life, decide if you want them in your life.

Defining boundaries and letting someone know what you want and need is "begging"? 

Good grief, no wonder relationships are in such a sad state these days.