Coasting1991 Posted August 24, 2021 Posted August 24, 2021 5 hours ago, Dantheman93 said: Tbh a lot of them were very much in thinking along the same lines as myself. We discussed and had a good chat about everything over the weekend. I very much explained how I wouldn’t stand for that sort of behaviour if we were a couple and feel like I got my point across. Seeing eachother tomorrow, can’t help but feel the need to bring it up again as I’m still annoyed and feeling disappointed about what happened. Do I just leave it as it is? I don’t obviously want to rock the boat but at the same time I want to basically know that any kind of this behaviour in future I won’t stand for If you already got your point across, then don't bring it up again. You've already discussed it and told her that you absolutely will not stand for that behavior in the future, so what more is there to discuss? Talking about it over and over again every time it starts to bother you is only going to sour things between you two. Just sit back and observe her behavior. If you find weeks or months in the future that you can't let it go then maybe she's not the right one for you. Just my perspective, I would also feel bothered by this. This wasn't like she was multi-dating others and kissed someone while on a date... she ran into an Ex that she knew liked her, kissed him, then immediately said "I don't want you" to the Ex? Seems kind of cruel/immature to me. Whether or not it's a deal breaker is up to you, however.
introverted1 Posted August 24, 2021 Posted August 24, 2021 34 minutes ago, Coasting1991 said: Just my perspective, I would also feel bothered by this. This wasn't like she was multi-dating others and kissed someone while on a date... she ran into an Ex that she knew liked her, kissed him, then immediately said "I don't want you" to the Ex? Seems kind of cruel/immature to me. Whether or not it's a deal breaker is up to you, however. Or... there is more to this story than she has shared with the OP, and she figured it was best to confess to a kiss in case someone reported back to him. 1
IslandSanctuary Posted August 24, 2021 Posted August 24, 2021 I wouldn't be ok with it at all. She didn't have to kiss him. Seems like she didn't consider your feelings at all, could be a sign that she plays games/is manipulative. If she can't be interested/faithful to just you at these early stages then that is a huge red flag. I don't buy all this 'were you exclusive yet' BS some people spiel on here, as far as I'm concerned if you need to have that conversation then you aren't for me. Hard next. Plenty of fish in the sea. 5
Wiseman2 Posted August 25, 2021 Posted August 25, 2021 19 hours ago, Dantheman93 said: Im disappointed and angry with what she has done but at the same time still really like her which makes it a tough decision Yes, it's odd. One, that she has the need to create this drama and two, tell you stories about the hordes of men after her. It's not about exclusive or truth etc. It's about poor judgement. Things are going well. Make sure she's not playing games. Have you been intimate yet? If not then her running around in bars sharing saliva with random dudes is just weird. 1
spiderowl Posted August 25, 2021 Posted August 25, 2021 (edited) I guess I am wondering about two things: Did she kiss him or did he kiss her? I can imagine a guy trying to kiss a girl and her not really responding but not shoving him away either, especially if they were on good terms. Why did she tell you? Was it because she thought it might get back to you, was it because she felt bad about it, or was it because she was making a point that you and she are not official yet? I doubt she is trying to make you jealous, because that is a really stupid thing to do. You mention the relationship has been casual so far, who decided that it should be casual at the moment? Was one of you more keen on casual than the other? I am thinking she either got caught out by an ex who was more forward than she was expecting at that time or that she is still playing the field. She may have felt it was ok to date several guys casually but now finds it doesn't feel right. If you want her to be your exclusive girlfriend, then tell her. I think you need to sound her out a bit more about what direction she wants the relationship to go in. Does she want to play the field still or not? Edited August 25, 2021 by spiderowl
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