Author Izzy banta Posted August 29, 2021 Author Posted August 29, 2021 On 8/25/2021 at 10:14 PM, spiderowl said: There seems to be no point continuing this relationship. He is muslim and his parents will be expecting him to marry a nice muslim girl. Unless he moves out in the very near future to make a life with you, you could be waiting for ever. He is clearly not going to tell his parents about you. Treat him like a married man who has prior commitments to his parents, religion and culture, and do not wait around for him. If he wants to do something about this situation, he could. He isn't doing. I don't think I can wait forever, so if something doesn't change soon this relationship may not work which upsets me because of course I really want us to work. The question is how long do I hang around for, i'm not necessarily looking to you specifically for an answer but i'm struggling to know myself, but already I'm finding this tricky because here I am writing my situation for others to comment.
lonelyplanetmoon Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 You must realize that this is a dead end relationship. Anymore time spent on it will be wasted time. It is one thing to like someone but you must be truthful to yourself. At 25 he will never change. The time to rebel was when he was growing into adulthood 15-17. He has past that stage and was not able to do so when hormones would have pushed him the most to do this. I also had a strict cultural upbringing. I ran away at 15 and asserted my independence as a teenager during my formative years. The flip side of this is this. Because he never was able to rebel against his mother. If you marry him, there will be times when he will put you into the mother role and rebel against you.
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