Miss Spider Posted August 29, 2021 Posted August 29, 2021 Just now, Black Cement said: the fact that she doesn’t like going out, yet she makes the effort to go out and spend time with me is a sign. I’m the same way. It means she feels comfortable with you I don’t like going out but my friend gets me out of my shell
Author Black Cement Posted September 3, 2021 Author Posted September 3, 2021 Update. I asked the girl I've been seeing If she wanted to go out this weekend or next since our last date was so short last weekend. She said no. Throughout the week she kept sending me videos and memes on social media, but you know, I want more. So I decided to delete all my profiles without telling her. That was basically what our main communication has been. She has my number if she wants to contact me, but I rarely get a call or text. She does enjoy our social media interactions since she's an introvert, but maybe she's not the right girl for me? I want someone to just go to the movies, dinner, & hang out. I'm old school. Am I making the right choice to delete my social media? Will I lose her?
d0nnivain Posted September 3, 2021 Posted September 3, 2021 Why would you delete your social media & sever your connections with all of your other friends because this woman you barely know won't go to the movies with you? Screams attention seeking. She could already have plans. It is a holiday weekend in the US. Be done with her if you like but there is no need to cut your nose off to spite your face. 1
Miss Spider Posted September 3, 2021 Posted September 3, 2021 (edited) 18 minutes ago, Black Cement said: Am I making the right choice to delete my social media? If you deleted because you want to, then yes, but why do it just for her? Getting rid of it will just make her ( and other friends) not able to send you stuff there. It won’t make her like you more. 18 minutes ago, Black Cement said: , I want someone to just go to the movies, dinner, & hang out. Find friends that will do those things with you then . She’s introverted and probably has other friends too. For all intents and purposes, you guys aren’t really even dating … just friends and not even that close of friends if your interactions outside hanging out are pretty much just memes and bs sent through SM. I’d look elsewhere Edited September 3, 2021 by Cookiesandough
Author Black Cement Posted September 3, 2021 Author Posted September 3, 2021 7 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Why would you delete your social media & sever your connections with all of your other friends because this woman you barely know won't go to the movies with you? Screams attention seeking. She could already have plans. It is a holiday weekend in the US. Be done with her if you like but there is no need to cut your nose off to spite your face. She’s the only one on social media I talk to. I see my friends in real life, so I could care less about deleting it. I want to break the same ol, same ol, so I made a change. I get mixed signals, she’s hot & she’s cold.
Author Black Cement Posted September 3, 2021 Author Posted September 3, 2021 6 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: If you deleted because you want to, then yes, but why do it just for her? Getting rid of it will just make her ( and other friends) not able to send you stuff there. It won’t make her like you more. Find friends that will do those things with you then . She’s introverted and probably has other friends too. For all intents and purposes, you guys aren’t really even dating … just friends and not even that close of friends if your interactions outside hanging out are pretty much just memes and bs sent through SM. I’d look elsewhere Not only memes, we do talk about our days and problems at work, etc. I really like her and I’m glad to have met her, but it’s going nowhere. TBH, it’s hard to look elsewhere, rare to find someone I like or a person who’d like me.
Miss Spider Posted September 3, 2021 Posted September 3, 2021 4 minutes ago, Black Cement said: Not only memes, we do talk about our days and problems at work, etc. I really like her and I’m glad to have met her, but it’s going nowhere. TBH, it’s hard to look elsewhere, rare to find someone I like or a person who’d like me. Does she have your number to text you? I’m sorry you’re experiencing a feeling of scarcity right now.Plz don’t let that discourage you into wasting your time and efforts though. Are you still online dating?
Author Black Cement Posted September 3, 2021 Author Posted September 3, 2021 4 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Does she have your number to text you? I’m sorry you’re experiencing a feeling of scarcity right now.Plz don’t let that discourage you into wasting your time and efforts though. Are you still online dating? She has my number. I’m saying to myself, “if she really wants to contact me, she’ll text me.” Yes, I’m still doing online dating. I meet a lot of women, but I’m extremely picky or I get ghosted/ ignored during a conversation.
Miss Spider Posted September 3, 2021 Posted September 3, 2021 6 minutes ago, Black Cement said: She has my number. I’m saying to myself, “if she really wants to contact me, she’ll text me.” Yes, I’m still doing online dating. I meet a lot of women, but I’m extremely picky or I get ghosted/ ignored during a conversation. Yea, she probably will text you eventually, but like I said, you seem like a distant friend. She’ll probably eventually ask why you deleted all your social media . it’s hard for a lot of people but just keep an open mind. I’m sure there’s someone out there for you
Author Black Cement Posted September 3, 2021 Author Posted September 3, 2021 1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said: Yea, she probably will text you eventually, but like I said, you seem like a distant friend. She’ll probably eventually ask why you deleted all your social media . it’s hard for a lot of people but just keep an open mind. I’m sure there’s someone out there for you I’m sure she will, since we’ve been interacting all day/night for the past 4 months and now it stopped. TBH I’m missing her I’ll keep doing online dating and see what happens I guess 1
glows Posted September 3, 2021 Posted September 3, 2021 1 hour ago, Black Cement said: Update. I asked the girl I've been seeing If she wanted to go out this weekend or next since our last date was so short last weekend. She said no. Throughout the week she kept sending me videos and memes on social media, but you know, I want more. So I decided to delete all my profiles without telling her. That was basically what our main communication has been. She has my number if she wants to contact me, but I rarely get a call or text. She does enjoy our social media interactions since she's an introvert, but maybe she's not the right girl for me? I want someone to just go to the movies, dinner, & hang out. I'm old school. Am I making the right choice to delete my social media? Will I lose her? Just move on and talk with other women. You don't have to delete anything or anyone. Ignore her messages if they come in. They seem trivial and uninteresting. Find more interesting company. You have a good mindset to spend time in person and keep things more real and down to earth.
Author Black Cement Posted September 3, 2021 Author Posted September 3, 2021 41 minutes ago, glows said: Just move on and talk with other women. You don't have to delete anything or anyone. Ignore her messages if they come in. They seem trivial and uninteresting. Find more interesting company. You have a good mindset to spend time in person and keep things more real and down to earth. Yeah, I’ve tried and tried to ignore her, but I always bite the bait. I needed to be disciplined so I just got rid of it. I’m sure the perfect girl in my eyes will show up some day.
glows Posted September 3, 2021 Posted September 3, 2021 6 minutes ago, Black Cement said: Yeah, I’ve tried and tried to ignore her, but I always bite the bait. I needed to be disciplined so I just got rid of it. I’m sure the perfect girl in my eyes will show up some day. Why not use technology in your favour? Mute her messages especially if they have nothing to do with dating you or meeting up. It may be difficult at first but it'll get easier the less and less influence she has over you or what your days are like. You can start to make plans with friends and go out with other women.
Miss Spider Posted September 3, 2021 Posted September 3, 2021 (edited) You sure she didn’t get tired of waiting for you to make a move… You’re the one that’s there… you’re the one getting the body language… but I’m telling you, there’s no way I would wait a month on a guy I’m dating to kiss me. I’d assume he’s not into me, gay, has some hang up , but I wouldn’t wait that long. I’ve dumped dudes for not making a move in 3 dates and they asked me why I never told them it was because they lack sexuality, but that’s why … I’m not saying you have to sleep with her but some kind of physical escalation that tells me that it’s headed there and we aren’t just friends or you don’t have some weird hang up about sex Edited September 3, 2021 by Cookiesandough
Author Black Cement Posted September 3, 2021 Author Posted September 3, 2021 7 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: You sure she didn’t get tired of waiting for you to make a move… You’re the one that’s there… you’re the one getting the body language… but I’m telling you, there’s no way I would wait a month on a guy I’m dating to kiss me. I’d assume he’s not into me, gay, has some hang up , but I wouldn’t wait that long. I’ve dumped dudes for not making a move in 3 dates and they asked me why I never told them it was because they lack sexuality, but that’s why … I’m not saying you have to sleep with her but some kind of physical escalation that tells me that it’s headed there and we aren’t just friends or you don’t have some weird hang up about sex Maybe. Last weekend I wanted to spend the day with her, get intimate and have sex. She cut the date short. Wanted to try again this weekend, but won’t have my chance. I’ve even flirted and sent indirect hints this past week, but she wasn’t feeling it, just laughed along with it. Maybe I should just be straight up with my intentions and stop all these dumb games.
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