Author StringsAndSticks Posted August 26, 2021 Author Posted August 26, 2021 12 minutes ago, dispatch3d said: I went through something similar, although my coworkers were more professional/less aggressive. Also at the time I'd get very upset if someone brought up her name. I'd just change jobs. 3 years is a good run. In my case a new job would have been hard to find, but in the end they canned me anyways. I'd be better off at a different place and at least in the headspace I can date/not getting constantly emotionally hurt by someone that has no plans to ever actually date me. No, I wouldn't change jobs. It's awesome there. There's only 10 of us, and we're like a tight knit family. The people that work there, as well as some of the regulars, are some of my favorite people in the world.
Daisydooks Posted August 27, 2021 Posted August 27, 2021 (edited) On 8/24/2021 at 4:24 PM, StringsAndSticks said: I've actually done a lot of thinking about that last part. If they were to part ways, she'll need quite a bit of time to "get her head on straight," so to say. I've heard this sentiment peppered around quite a bit, the "find someone else to date." As if it's something someone *LOOKS* for. Or, as if it's something that's easy to do.... Like there's some "lady tree" planted in my yard that I can just pick one off of.... LOL. I don't quite get that. Dont pick Jen is what they're saying. Look anywhere or at almost anyone else. Dont take the "look" elsewhere so literally. Lol. Look not at her. She isnt the girl for you. We promise Edited August 27, 2021 by Daisydooks
petee Posted August 28, 2021 Posted August 28, 2021 Just go for it. It will not be the first time somebody leaves someone for someone else. You seem a decent chap, there's obviously an attraction there, so she's the one that has to decide; if you don't ask her out you definitely will never know. Maybe she lacks the moral courage to finish things with her boyfriend, that's not a crime. Life isn't fair sometimes, but life does go on. Get her asked out for a drink, and let us know how it goes! We are all rooting for you.
Author StringsAndSticks Posted August 30, 2021 Author Posted August 30, 2021 On 8/28/2021 at 1:13 PM, petee said: Just go for it. It will not be the first time somebody leaves someone for someone else. You seem a decent chap, there's obviously an attraction there, so she's the one that has to decide; if you don't ask her out you definitely will never know. Maybe she lacks the moral courage to finish things with her boyfriend, that's not a crime. Life isn't fair sometimes, but life does go on. Get her asked out for a drink, and let us know how it goes! We are all rooting for you. Thank you very much for the vote of confidence, but I think that while she's still involved with someone, it just wouldn't be the right thing to do.
petee Posted August 30, 2021 Posted August 30, 2021 That's fair enough and shows good values and consideration. If she never gets that moral courage to break, you may find that nothing ever comes of it.
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